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This is not strictly for family, but for anyone I'm not super comfortable with.. I add them to a special group where they have access only to albums I choose.

I wasn't friends with my mom until recently for this reason. She comments on everything and then gets seriously offended if I don't "like" her stuff. Drives. Me. Nuts.

I added her a month or so after my son was born because I was tired of fighting her on it. I've just come to the conclusion that she will comment on every single picture I post and she will take everything she sees posted literally. I remind myself that even though it annoys the crap out of me, it's just Facebook and it's not worth the fight.

Good luck!

I'm pretty relaxed about adding people, but anyone I don't know that well (including family) gets put on my acquaintance list and basically gets major announcements and nothing else, and I use custom lists heavily. One of my custom lists is All Friends except my mother and MIL. I use it a lot.

I pretty much add all family, but I do the custom list thing too, and limit what some people can see. I felt pretty obligated to add some of my mom's church friends (long story), but when I came out as an atheist I didn't feel comfortable having them find out that way (felt like they were her friends so it was her call on when/what to tell people), so that's when I started really monitoring who saw what.

@Mae: Ughh. If I don't immediately respond to comments my parents leave on facebook they will ring me up and be all "DID YOU SEE OUR COMMENT ON FACEBOOK? WHY HAVEN"T YOU REPLIED? WE CAN SEE YOU"RE ONLINE!" So, I feel you. I have no good advice. I barely engage in facebook anymore because having my extended family on there, bless them, is just too much. And don't even get me started on my MIL.

My parents don't have Facebook, too mature for such nonsense. And I've blocked all my inlaws.

I pick and choose. If people start over sharing on my page I either unfriend them or lock the page down.

I friended everyone and then wound up just not posting anymore. I use the chat feature more than anything. I suppose I could just email but using chat is so much easier!

Thankfully my parents don't want to be on Facebook.

I do add all family, but I have a 'family' group and they stay there and get filtered if needed. I also hide certain people if I don't want to offend them by unfriending them but don't want to see their posts ever. I feel like people forget how to hide people from Facebook? They are so quick to just unfriend when a much more passive and unnoticeable thing would be to just hide their feed from your view. Maybe I'm wrong and people are just unfriend happy.

My inlaws are different, they comment on everything and anything and although it can sometimes be annoying I do get along with them really well and they don't bug me so much. Some of their relatives on the other hand....

I don't really have a policy, I just manage my friends lists carefully.

My parents don't have fb so no big deal there. I have my MIL, SFIL and one BIL on fb. I'm seriously considering deleting them all because it annoys the crap out of me when they share pictures of DD. My BIL's gf tried to add me but I ignored the request. I'm Ok with all my family on, but would delete my inlaws right now if I didn't think it would start a war.

TBH, I pick and choose. There are cousins and aunts/uncles I'm not close with who have sent me requests, and I've ignored some of them. However, that's less because of what they would post on my pages, and more because of what they would post on their own.

I actually helped MIL fix her computer the other day, and found a creepy file she had of tons of pics she downloaded from my fb of the kids and us, because she was "going to print them"

You can always put them in a group and filter them out of certain things like status updates or pictures that don't include LO?

@Mae: I only add relatives I talk to occasionally or more, not the random extendeds. I also use the fb filters, like others have said, and I'm just rather direct. I've told family members specifically "do not share photos anymore, please, or I will have to remove you from seeing them." And I've deleted my mom's comments when she gets a bit too excited and plasters my wall in posts. But maybe I'm just a bit forward (or mean).

@wonderstruck: I hope so! I had my grandpa and a semi-estranged-but-I-added-you-to-be-nice family member who shared TONS of photos we posted (friends only) to their walls and they were public shares because that was their setting. I sure hope it meant that just our joint friends (like, 3 people) could see them, but I wouldn't bank on that. There were people from their work that I have never met that were commenting on what they'd shared, which lead to the conversations I referenced above. They were nice and took them down. I think it was just a generational "I don't understand internet privacy/safety/etiquette" thing.

My mom is on FB and drives me crazy. She's one of those people who is on it All. The. Time. Out for dinner? On her phone on FB. Watching TV? On her phone on FB. Having a conversation with someone? On her phone on FB. You get the picture...

I don't post on there a lot but when I do she either likes it or comments on it within minutes. She also creeps on my friend's pages. etc.