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I think he technically gets 8 weeks paid (better than what I get!) but he won't take it. It's frustrating and annoys me.
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It was 2 weeks paid when my son was born. Because it happened over the Christmas/New Years weeks, it was technically 10 days, which stretched into January.
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We are in Canada. His work tops him up for 5 weeks. So he takes 5 weeks paternity leave (took it when my son was 4 months and when my daughter was 6 months). It has to be used within the year.
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DD1: in medic school so he worked to complete some training and had a week fully off, then maybe 5-6 days of work OOT for the next 3 weeks.
DD2: no job protections because he was on probation for his job but he was able to trade shifts and have a week off.
Subsequent kids: FMLA available but he'd have to use sick days accrued and probably vacation to be paid but his job would be fine. He wouldn't have the appropriate number of days accrued for 2 years though so he'll probably just take a few shifts off here and there instead. (He works 24 hour shifts) -
My partner works for a Federal agency that offered up to 9 weeks of (unpaid) parental leave before FMLA existed and left it on the regs when FMLA came into effect.
They still don't have any paid leave at all, but, they do let you use both the 9 weeks and the 12 weeks FMLA (without making them concurrent). You're not required to use your sick and vacation time during the 9 week agency leave the way you are during FMLA.
The 9 weeks has to be used immediately after the birth/placement, and anything that you don't use can't be saved for later. FMLA can be used any time in the first year after birth/placement. My partner took 5 weeks of agency parental leave immediately after the birth, and then took an additional chunk of time after I returned to work.
We couldn't afford for my partner to take anywhere near the full 21 weeks of leave unpaid. But being able to break the time up into two chunks like that gave me some help immediately postpartum and softened the financial hit because it delayed the time before we had to pay for childcare.
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2 weeks paid specific paternity leave that can be used any time within the year after the baby is born. I had DD on a Thursday so he took the Friday and the following week (5 days off.) The week after that he took 2 days off. He still has 2 days to use. DD is 5 months now.
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@RonjaL7: Yep at DH's company paternity leave is a month for adoption vs 2 weeks for biological.
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He's a professor so he doesn't get a set amount. I happened to deliver two weeks before the start of the semester so he was home two weeks. If I'd delivered two weeks later he would have gotten none. But his schedule is super flexible and he only goes in to teach twice a week so he was still home with us a lot even after school started.
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DH is a pilot. They have nothing unless you take FMLA. He can bid for his schedule to try and be home the first week of the baby's due date, which is what we did for our first LO and followed it with 2 weeks of FMLA, but at that time he worked at a smaller airline that only flew inside the United States, and I was confident he could get home easily if I showed signs of labor.
Now he's at a major airline and it's pretty stressful trying to imagine where in the world (literally) he will be when this baby finally decides to arrive, so we are just planning for him to take 3 weeks off in December on FMLA and hope this LO comes on time!
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I think my husband would qualify for FMLA based on the size of his company and the amount of time he's been there, but he doesn't know any men there who've ever taken that option. Besides that, just whatever vacation leave he has. He has talked about trying to negotiate some paid parental leave, because he brings value to the company and his industry offers lots of opportunities to move to a competitor, so hopefully he would have some leverage.
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At my company and my husband's, the men don't get anything. Women only get short term disability if they had birth. (I recently knew a woman that adopted, and she didn't get anything).
I think it's really crummy that all you get is your vacation days. I hope this changes soon- I do feel like it's moving in that direction....?
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DH is an attorney...so he works on billable hours. He has flexibility to the extent of required client meetings and court appearances.
He has a case actually near going to trial when we had DD1 - so he was back in the office 5 days after she was born (born Th, back to work Mon). But worked a decent amount from home for the first 2-3 weeks.
With DD2 I had her on a Weds, he didnt go back into the office until a week later. Even then it was on "flex time" basically...he'd go in later and come home earlier to help with transporting DD1 to school.
He just made up his billable hours when he could. Though he had no problem going into his reviews those quarters and telling the board he had children and as such needed to work a reduced load. I never saw it impact his pay/bonus.
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So interesting to see the differences across the board!
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DH's company just increased maternity and paternity leave to 4 months fully paid. That said, there is no way he would ever take that much time off (unless he was the SAH parent) and it's an unspoken understanding that executive level employees don't take that kind of time off. He took 2 full weeks with both of our kids and then came home early a few times each week for a while. His new job allows him to work from home so I imagine he will do that this time around and maybe take days off in the first few months.
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DH is a Fed employee and he received 6 weeks or 240 hours of leave.
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My husband gets 6 weeks paid leave, which he can split one time. He works for a large tech company, and this is something new that his company implemented last year.
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Such an interesting thread. I'm in the Bay Area with all these tech companies and am seeing all my friends' husbands have amazing paternity leaves. I'm always jealous haha. But now I see I have it pretty good. https://www.google.com/amp/m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_572d0d1fe4b096e9f091827f/amp
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Same as mine, we both work for the state.
6 months of job protection but to be paid you have to use your AL or SL.
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My husband can take FMLA but it's all unpaid unless he uses vacation or sick time. He would never take more than a few days even if it was paid though. Unfortunately men taking off more than a few days is taboo around here.
My company offers 12 weeks of fully paid maternity/paternity leave and a guy in our design department took the full 12 weeks when his wife gave birth. I heard so many negative comments from male executives about it; it was really sad actually.
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DH is salary based and did not receive any paternity leave. He could have used FMLA, but since I'm a SAHM, that would not work well for us financially. He stayed home with me for a week and used up his vacation days.
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