Key word is ideal here. My ideal age gap would be 18-24 months. I really do want them close together but my LO is 10 months and I just couldn't imagine being pregnant again any time soon and having to go through newborn stage again.
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Ideally around 2 to 2.5 years. Realistically it will be closer to 3 to 3.5 due to the ideal time based on our careers and finances.
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Same as Mamabolt, 2-2.5 years ideally.
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I'm right with you, 18-24 months, but husband would like 3 years! But we are NTNP because we had kind of a rough time with the first so anything God gives us we'll take, whenever He gives them...but we aren't trying to be 19 kids and counting either... (: haha
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2 - 2.5 yrs apart would be perfect for us, I think. That way, we could have our three children and still be done by the time I'm 37. That said, I cannot imagine thinking about trying again when my first LO is just 15 months old - it sounds crazy (but wonderful!) when you put it like that!!!
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10 years?
Really though. My best friend and her sister are 10 years apart. When she was born BFF was super excited to get a little baby sister and old enough to help out, etc. She was the maid of honor at BFF's wedding. BFF helped her through school, homework, projects, etc. They have such an awesome relationship.
I also don't think I have the funds or the patience to have two small children close in age.
Unfortunately we're not young enough to have this age gap, so who knows if we'll even have a second LO... -
G and P are 8 years apart. He LOVES having a little sister but still misses out on having someone to play with. =/
The rest of our kiddos will likely be 2.5-3 years apart. Long enough for me to ensure breastfeeding for a year, but close enough to be able to have a friendship type relationship.
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@rachiecakes: my sister and i are 10 years apart and I really love it. she was my MOH, Godmother to LO and you're right - I was so excited to have a baby sibling when I was 10!
Ideally I think 2.5yrs in between. I think we'll be at about 4 years due to school, finances etc. At that point we'll reasses and see if we want to add to our brood.
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18-24 months as well.
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2 years.
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@littlebittyhouse: so cool! I'd love for DS to have that kind of relationship with a sibling
my brother is 2.5 years younger than me and I was not happy (jealous) when he was born, I beat on him/made fun of him until he got bigger than me, I hated driving him everywhere when I got my license in high school.. it took a looong time for me to truly love and accept my brother, haha -
Ideally 2-2.5 years
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If we have a second, then the gap will be 3-5 years. My ideal is 3, but it's mostly personal bias because that's the gap between me and my sister and we're close.
I think "closeness" of siblings is more to do with their personality rather than age difference. DH is a TWIN and he only talks to his sister when he sees her on holidays...
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18 months would be ideal I think. LO is 7.5 months now and we're NTNP so I'm currently in a very nerve wracking TWW! Can't decide if I'm hoping it's positive or not! If it's not, I think we'll wait a month or two before letting nature take its course again.
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I always thought 18-24 months. After ds was born, I wanted another right away, but my ex didn't. A few months after we talked about it, we separated, and at that point I was grateful that we didn't go for another.
Fast forward and I have a new dh, ds is 5 and I'm 35 weeks. In the beginning, when ds was a baby, I wouldn't have picked it, but it's SO nice. DS is such a big help with laundry and very understanding of why I'm tired, cranky, etc. He and dh have both been my protectors this entire pregnancy and I've loved it. Plus, ds is potty trained and independent. He's in kindergarten during the day, so I'll be able to focus on just the new LO when she gets here for most of the day. I don't have to do every little thing for him, which will be nice, cause I'm about to have someone that's gonna need me waiting on her hand and foot for quite some time. It's worked out really well for me.
It's working out nicely!
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@vnvdvci: totally agree that personalities matter more than age gap for how close siblings are. My brother and I are 1.5 years apart but sooo different so we were not close growing up.
Ideal gap for me would be 3 years so I could enjoy my LO and baby her enough
before introducing another baby...also I do not want to be potty training while taking care of a newborn. Currently the plan is to start trying after LO turns 2 (she is 15 months now)
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2-2.5 years
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2 - 2.5 is what we are planning, although thinking of getting pregnant next year already seems crazy to me!
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1-2 years. My mo had her 4 kids all like 14-16 months apart and I love it!
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2-3 years for us. Both of us had our siblings younger siblings when we were 3 and the age gap just feels normal. I said 2 because I wouldn't mind them being a little closer together.
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3-4 years. I want some time for hubs and I to get settled into our careers before the next one!
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Threeish years. Time for me to let dd wean herself and get my body completely replenished/fit. Also enough time to get dd potty trained and into preschool.
Honestly, the biggest thing for me is that I want to *want* a baby next time, and that will be the final deciding factor.
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@katiew92081: that's so sweet! I think you've just reiterated why I want a 4-ish year age gap. I would love for my little guy to be somewhat self-sufficient and understand what the family is going through when his little brother/sister is on the way.
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3-4 years. I want to be able to enjoy our time with DS before having another LO. I want DS to be potty trained and little more self-sufficient. Also, like @Minnie_Girl, I want to really want another LO when we have them.
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For these two, I'd say about 5 minutes!
Actually, I always thought 2-3 years would be a good gap. We'll probably shoot for that age gap between the twins and #3 if/when we adopt a little girl.
before introducing another baby...also I do not want to be potty training while taking care of a newborn. Currently the plan is to start trying after LO turns 2 (she is 15 months now)
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