I grew up in a no cussing allowed household and DH didn't have any restrictions.
We try to avoid it around the kids but we aren't always successful. I'm not sure what our policy will be when the kids are older...what about you?
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Not ok. Neither one of us cusses.
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I find it distasteful and often disrespectful. I won't encourage it in our household. We don't curse... well, I slip up here and there, but I try not to.
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They've got to be at least teenagers and know how to use it appropriately. Never towards me or DH (or really anyone else).
I don't cuss hardly at all but DH does often. We refer it to "grown up talk" for now.
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I do!
I'll have to wait and see. Right now to me cussing is impolite, a matter of social graces but I do it in my home to blow off steam or express myself instead of yelling. Not in public however!
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We both curse a lot, although it's sort of a habit my husband picked up from me because he didn't so much when we were first together. When our LO is young we will definitely try to avoid it. When they're older I'm not sure. My husband's parents just never did (still don't). My parents do a lot, and did when we were kids, but we still weren't allowed to until we were in high school. And at that point we couldn't cuss AT them or other people (i.e. no "she's a bitch"), but could cuss in general (I.e. "I just need to bitch about this for a minute…"). If we aren't naturally broken of the habit of cursing just from avoiding when our kids are young… I imagine we'll sort of follow my parents' rules.
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I grew up with 0 cussing, and DH grew up with a LOT of cussing (kids and adults). We're around his family a lot, and they are all loose lipped with curse words, even though there is a 4 y.o. and a 2 y.o. ahead of L. I will not allow my children to cuss in the house, and will likely have to explain to them why it's okay that Daddy and Uncle and Grandpa do... (although I am working on everyone toning it down!!)
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We won't allow cussing. Neither of us cuss at home now. DH says work is a different story.
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Not in public and not to use to be disrespectful.
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My husband curses but I don't. He's very conscious about not doing it around M though so we will be a curse-free house, esp when she's older.
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@Danizaur: agreed~
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DH and I grew up in no cursing households. LO will not be allowed to curse in our home. We both curse now but have been restricting it a lot since LO came along. I still don't curse in front of my mom, when I have slipped I always apologize!
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We will be a no cursing household.
I don't curse often and when I do I apologize.
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I'm not sure! DH and I both came from non-cursing households, but we both do curse quite often in our home and with friends, but never in general public or mixed company. Something we need to think about...
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I would imagine my kids would use it the way I use it- very rare and usually when I hurt myself. Well, at least I hope that's the only time they hear me say curse words. I happen to like curse words and find the language colorful and playful when telling a story or joke. Just speaking like a sailor for no reason other than shock value or lack of vocabulary will not be acceptable ever.
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I have a bad mouth and so does DH. We will not allow it but it won't be a huge disciplining area. Unless it's meant in a really disrespectful way.
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I don't have a certain age in mind as to when I might start allowing here and there--it will depend on the child.
By example, my parents taught us that swearing could be okay in certain context. It's something you can do in your home or around friends, but not loudly in public or with strangers.
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I curse. In fact, I notice I'm one of the few that will actually spell out curse words, lol. Dh does, too. We'll just deal with it as it comes, I suppose. Damn/crap aren't really bad words. Fuck is not a good word for a kid to say, ha.
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I don't curse that often, and when I do, I feel terrible. My husband, on the other hand, has a mouth that rivals a sailor. I prefer it when he doesn't curse around our daughter and I would like to get to being a no-cursing household.
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I hate it with all my being! I grew up around a few loud, verbally abusive people who cursed and used bad language freely (not immediate family but relatives who visited often). It was scary at first but then I started getting annoyed by it and didn't want to be around them anymore.
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swearing is a privilege, you earn it as an adult with adult responsibilities. i have earned the right to drop an eff bomb when i've had all my tires cut. it is something to be used with discretion, it's not to be used to belittle loved ones (the guy cutting in front of me in traffic is not a loved one, i reserve the right to mutter mean things about him under my breath), it is not used in public around others that might be made uncomfortable by it, it is not an excuse to give up on using language to express one's self in an articulate manner. that said, i swear like a sailor sometimes, but can shut it off without a problem. once they're 16+, i'll probably allow damn & crap as long as they're used responsibly, 18+ they can speak to me like an adult, i do expect adults to be respectful though
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We still get reprimanded if we curse in front of my parents but my parents curse all the time (and when were growing up. Even though I curse (a lot), I'll encourage my children to find other words to describe how they're feeling or how they describe a person. I just pulled this with my sister who said someone was a F, and she couldn't explain why she thought that. I think it will be good for their overall communication and conflicts in life if they can communicate better or rely on things other than curse words.
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@mrs. bird: 100% agreed.
DH and I both swear a ton. I grew up in a no curse house, DH did not. I agree with cursing is a privilege, and needs to be earned.
Currently, our children are not allowed to swear at all. The eldest says dang, and that's about as close as he gets to it. The only reason he's allowed to say that is because his mother uses (in casual speak and towards them) much worse, and if that's the only one he's going to use at this time, I am A-OK with that.
It's a little hard for us to make any rule set in stone since their mother is quite loose with her vocabulary.
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Honestly, I'm not sure how we're going to handle this yet! I heard an interesting interview with a guy on NPR who was talking about his new parenting book and one of the topics was swearing. He said he raised his kids so that they understood that we have public behavior and private behavior, and when we are with our family we can swear but its not a very effective way of expressing yourself. He said his kids have never sworn in public/at school, but that his son did go through a long "swearing at home" stage.
I don't know. Thought it was interesting.
Most likely they will be words the kids aren't allowed to say, but we'll loosen up on enforcement as they get older, and drill in the public behavior idea (which makes sense to me. you don't swear at work, but you can swear with your friends- its important to learn that distinction). -
@mrsjazz: oh I could never curse in front of my mom! I did one- I yelled the f word during labor and I immediately felt bad since she was holding my hand! Haha. I had been holding it back my entire labor lol
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@Mrs. Pen: Pretty sure labor gives you a free pass on the f bomb!
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I grew up in a no cussing household and I think we will try to be the same for our kids. My mom even considered "crap" to be a cuss word! I think maybe we'll be a little more relaxed but definitely no cussing AT anyone. I once said "shut up" to my brother and I got in huuuuuuuuuuuuuge trouble.
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I'm not sure. I have a potty mouth and so does DH. Doesn't mean either of us are class less or disrespectful. It depends on how it's used. I couldn't care less if my kids kids cursed in front of me when they're much older. I curse so it would be hypocritical to say they they can't.
If they curse AT us or someone though? a different story.
@Silva: yes! When DH and I are home or with like minded minded friends we swear a lot. But never in public and never in front of people that will be uncomfortable. -
I grew up in a cursing household and so did DH. That being said, they all try to tone it down around kids (except when we were little lol). I cuss very rarely (usually to emphasize something) and DH cusses a lot, but can control it. I don't think I'd ever want kids to cuss in front of me until they're adults. To this day I still don't think my mom has ever heard me say anything worse than 'crap'.
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DH and I try so hard not to but we definitely slip up a few times a week (mostly while driving). We don't want our kids to swear so we need to clean it up.
I'll have to wait and see. Right now to me cussing is impolite, a matter of social graces but I do it in my home to blow off steam or express myself instead of yelling. Not in public however!
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