A week ago, I went out to dinner with a group of friends. We were talking, and since it's an election year, politics came up. We had some talk about who the VP's are and our thoughts on them. Most of the women and myself are Democrats, but one friend is independent. I thought we kept everything civil, but my independent friend asked us to change the topic, so we did.

A few days later, I had lunch with one of my friends who was at the dinner (one of the Democrats). She thought I should know that the independent friend talked to a mutual friend of ours, and told her that we had a "heated" conversation about politics. She singled me out as being aggressive with my opinions and gave the impression that she was not happy with how the evening went. The mutual friend then told my Democrat friend what she said, I guess to get her take on the situation. My friend stood up for me saying that everyone kept things civil, and she didn't think I was aggressive at all.

I'm not sure if the mutual friend reported back to the independent friend or what happened after that, but I'm feeling annoyed at the situation. I wish the independent friend had told me directly if there was a problem, instead of having me hear it through the grapevine. I'm not sure if I should ignore the whole thing, or if I should talk to my friend about what happened and apologize for offending her. What would you do?