For the first year it was definitely sleep! I was very accustomed to 9-10 hours a night! But I have learned to adjust and now get about 8 and feel OK.
Second would be the loss of "freedom". No spontaneous date nights, quick in/out trips to the store, weekend getaways, easy cheap vacations, doing what we want with money (haha!)... But it's worth it!
coconut / 8498 posts
I think the loss of freedom as well. We do still get out a lot, but we can't just decide to go out to dinner at 7:30 anymore.
pineapple / 12526 posts
Loss of freedom and/or feeding issues. The loss of freedom is an ongoing thing but we're adjusting, feeding issues dominated the first entire year of her life and took an extreme toll on my mental state.
cherry / 208 posts
The relentlessness of it all. You will never stop being a mom for the rest of your life. That's gets a little overwhelming at times.
coconut / 8305 posts
Over the long term I'd say the constant worry.... Worry about injury (minor & major), how they're developing intellectually, what kind of people they'll be & worrying what part I'll play in screwing that up, worry about them getting their needs met (physical & emotional), & worry that I'll only know what they need if they tell me & will they trust me enough to tell me everything?!...
Yep, that's definitely been the hardest. Lol
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
For my first- breast feeding the first month, sleep deprivation the first 8 weeks, loss of freedom and just the overall feeling of doubt about my ability as a mom!
For my second- everything is easier but sleep deprivation sucks and I worry about being attentive to both kids.
squash / 13764 posts
@Mrs. Fox: this. Parenthood is constant, whether I'm with LO or not...and that will never change. It's a bit overwhelming at times.
coconut / 8681 posts
@Mrs. Fox: @hilsy85: I agree as well. It's completely overwhelming. It will be forever. You will always worry, feel responsible for and love this little one so much that it hurts.
Kind of goes along with it but also the weight of the responsibility. The choices that you make as a parent, even the small things that seemed insignificant before, will shape who this little person becomes and will have an impact on the rest of their lives! This already present pressure along with further pressure placed by society is extremely overwhelming.
cantaloupe / 6630 posts
Pregnancy was very difficult for me, the sickness was probably the biggest obstacle I've faced in my life. Then as pp have said, the worry. I worry about all kinds of things that might happen to her and hope I don't screw her up in any way.
cantaloupe / 6610 posts
I can handle it all as long as I have adequate sleep!!! Going through sleep regressions/wonder weeks/sleep disruption truly affects me! I am exhausted, our house is a wreck, I've got 14 million things to do for our move, and I cant get anything done! Bad sleep destroys everything lol.!! If we can get back to at least 8 hrs a night and a couple of decent naps a day, everything will be okay!!! But who knows how long it WONT be okay!!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I would say the lack of freedom and trying to figure out what she wants when crying.
pomelo / 5621 posts
The lack of sleep and feeling like I don't have time to do half of what I want to be doing.
pineapple / 12566 posts
Breastfeeding and then the lack of sleep the first year. Now that I have a toddler (who sleeps) it seems that I don't freak out as much. But to quote my dad when I tell him to stop worrying about me, "I will worry about you until I die!"
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
All the "ass-vice" (who coined that here? lol). All the comments and crap annoy me most of all! I could do without the peanut gallery
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@Running Elley: @hilsy85: @Mrs. Fox: THIS!!! I FREAKED OUT about this while pregnant... It is so overwhelming and completely terrifying!!! That is a HUGE undertaking. I am completely solely responsible for this little person... it's pretty much my fault if he turns out all messed up!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@blackbird: Me. 
A blogger I follow uses the term assvice, and I totally borrowed it from her.
The lack of freedom. Even though LO has never slept through the night (not even close, and she's 8.5 months!), the lack of freedom has been truly surprising. It is just so stinkin hard to get things done. Even the little things!
papaya / 10560 posts
The fact I used to be very in control of my life and now the baby controls everything! Ha!
nectarine / 2127 posts
The mom guilt. Wanting so badly to do all the "right" things and trying to figure out what the "right things" are. Breast feeding vs formula feeding, WOHM vs SAHM, etc.
nectarine / 2994 posts
The lack of sleep! I used to be a night owl who would sleep in until at least 10am on weekends but now 7am is a sleep in for me! The adjustment to less sleep was definitely hard - it made my relationship with dh very tense and strained. The other hard part is the paranoia - am I doing everything possible to make my lo grow up loved and happy, how each decision I make affects her etc. It's hard.
GOLD / grapefruit / 4007 posts
I would have to say the lack of freedom coupled with constant worry. I have really struggled in those areas
pineapple / 12234 posts
Seeing them hurt. When someone is mean to DS at preschool or like today, DD was at the ER for an extremely high fever and was blue around the mouth/hands and arms. It was terrifying and my heart breaks for them more than I ever thought it could.
pear / 1609 posts
Lack of sleep. LO is a terrible sleeper. Also lack of freedom. Sometimes I miss just getting up and going.
pomelo / 5093 posts
Sleep, and as she gets older, lack of quiet down time. I'm an introvert, and having a toddler who wants to interact constantly is hard work for me. Most of the rest of it I find pretty easy.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6703 posts
The foreverness of it and the constant-ness of it. Even if I'm not with her, my brain is on her.
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