When did you finally feel like you had it together after having a baby? Do you think you had/have an easy or difficult baby? My son is 4 weeks old tomorrow and I still feel like I'm barely getting through the day...
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I think around 4-5 weeks is when things calmed down for us! Hang in there!
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I hear a lot of moms say it gets better around 6 weeks. Personally, it was earlier than that with DD (around 3 weeks), and later than that with DS (around 8-10 weeks). Hang in there! It should get better very soon for you!
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I think around 6 weeks for us. The first 4 weeks SUUUUUCKED (we were both so clueless and lost and frazzled!), then the hubs went back to work at 4 weeks. It took a couple of weeks after that to get into our groove. Now things w/ the bub are great!
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Oh man, I was right there with you. I remember emailing a friend when LO was about 2 weeks old and all it said was "When does this get easier?" She called me and I cried hysterically to her, but she told me to hang in there until around 2 months. At the time, that sounded impossible, but... she was right. By 2 months, we were getting longer stretches of sleep in the night and we were able to start working on a nighttime routine.
I suffered postpartum and only wish I had spoken to my doctor earlier. So if you're feeling like you are on that path, definitely speak to someone! I felt very alone and like I was failing since I dreaded being with my baby. But I can tell you that yes, it absolutely gets better. Right now my nearly 5 month old is rolling around on her play mat smiling and making the cutest sounds. She sleeps through the night and takes a couple of naps during the day and while we have our bad days, they are definitely balanced by good days. You can do this!
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I have been blessed with a very easy baby. I think I felt confident with her general care and taking her out alone at about 3 weeks.
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Hang in there! I think it gets better at about 6-8 weeks. The babies slowly start to give you some indication that they apprecitate all your hard work. A tiny smile and a little hand holding your finger-- it makes it a little easier. After 6 months? So much better! Really, just survive the first 2 months and then it gets so much better.
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I think around 7 or 8 weeks I really started to feel like I had things under control. Then when I went back to work at 12 weeks things got thrown off again, but starting to get back to the new normal at 15 weeks.
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Hang in there.. seriously.. it got better around 6-8 weeks for us. Then bad again, and now at 12 weeks it's been AWESOME for the past four days... I don't want to jinx anything but I feel like I can finally survive... it's really just the beginning that's this difficult!!
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@Beyond2: oh and I totally thought "oh, she's just a difficult baby." now the way she's been the past 4 days, she's the easiest baby I've ever encountered......
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6 weeks. LO started sleeping 6 hour stretches at night and I felt like I could breathe again. (and eat, shower, brush my teeth.. )
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Our LOs have the same bday?! Cool!
Some days are good and others not so much. LO kind of has her own routine but yesterday and today she's been more fussy so I don't want to say its better quite yet.. one day at a time... Lots of people note how calm LO seems to be so far but I still think its hard to attend to her and get anything else done.. Right now I'm feeding her and writing this on my phone..
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Hang in there, mama. I feel like very, very people are honest about how difficult infants are (even “easy” infants). It gets better after about 6 weeks, and then again at about 12 weeks; at least it did for us. Once your LO can smile, things get MUCH easier – getting that bit of appreciation for your 24/7 hard work does go a long way and seeing them smile at you is really amazing.
As a pp said, if you think you might have PPD, please speak to your doctor. PPD is another thing very few people talk about; but my OB, my primary care and my step-BIL who is a doctor all said that they feel like PPD is incredibly, incredibly common and many more women should be treated and aren’t. PPD does not reflect in any way on you or who you are.
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it got somewhat easier at 6 weeks, and I remember thinking around 3 months - wow, this is much better... good luck!!
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Um... about 3-4 months. C was a very screamy, angry, crabby baby. She could go 0 to 500 in .2 seconds. At 4 months, it was like a switch flipped in her head and she was a different baby.
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Easier at 6 weeks, but he's almost 6 months and I still feel like a hot mess most days. I feel like I'll never be "put together" again and I forget stuff all the time. But in dealing with my LO, things were so much better after the first 12 weeks. I felt really hopeless for a while, so just hang in there.
I swear, they should make the "It Get's Better" videos for new moms, not just LBGT youth!
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My mom told me that after 3 months it gets easier. She was sooooo right. I had a hard baby because she had reflux, so she would cry for hours with no way to sooth her, and it did help that around 4 months she started to grow out of that.
But it never does seem to get easy. LO is 14 months and I'm still exhausted daily.
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Around 5 months!
It was around 6 weeks that I got the hang of breastfeeding but like another pp DD was, well IS, a high needs baby so she's just now at 6 mths starting to enjoy the world around her for more than 30 seconds. =/
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I think it took about 6 weeks for me to start to feel more normal, but it wasn't until about 3 months that I felt really comfortable and we got into a good groove. Hang in there! The first weeks/months can be so tough
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LO is a really good baby... like really, truly. 6 weeks to find good groove (and all visitors were gone, hubs back to work, etc). But now LO is just over 5 months and it's a different world. I feel like 4 months is the real turning point.
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