Was it love at first sight or did it take a while?
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It took a while. I want to say about 4 months old? I feel awful saying that but it's true. I had a traumatic birth and bad PPD from the beginning and it took me a while to bond with her.
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I feel like at almost two months I am getting there. I certainly like him a lot more than in the beginning and am starting to enjoy our time together.
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I think from the very beginning but it took a few days for the immense fear to subside, for me to really bond with him.
He was in NICU and in the first day or two had IV fluids, oxygen, plus all the monitors and wires so it was really scary and hard to hold him.
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For me, it was an intense love at first sight.
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It took a few weeks. It was more shock/disbelief at first. Part of me was in denial because I kept waiting for something to go wrong! She was also hospitalized for a week, so that made things hard
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I would say it took after a few hours for me. When she was born it was this "OMG I had a baby?" reaction. Also I had complications post birth so I was whisked away to the OR then recovery so I didn't get the skin to skin, cozy family time or breastfeeding like I had wanted. I would say I fell in love during our middle of the night feedings when everything was calm and quiet and it was just her and I.
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I loved her immediately, but I'd say it took 2-3 days before I was hopelessly, head over heels in love with her.
I love her more every day.
She is a really easy baby though and I didn't have PPD. I can totally see how it might be different if she was colicky or I was super/anxious or depressed.
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It was love at first sight for me both times. But it took me a few months to feel fully bonded to my #2. I think because she was my 2nd girl and I had to get a better sense of her personality first in order to stop the comparisons to my 1st.
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I heard before I saw her, so love at first hearing. Her voice was completely different than I was expecting but I knew immediately that she was mine and I'd be forever hers.
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Is it weird that I already feel hopelessly in love with him and he isn't even due for 5 more weeks?
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I loved him immediately. But I didn't become obsessed with him until 3 months. The newborn phase was stressful for me. Not sure if that makes sense?
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Love at first sight both times!
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Love at first sight
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Honestly? I was in love with her before she was even born. The second she was placed in my arm it just clinched it. She is just the most amazing thing ever.
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For me, it was probably around 2 months. I definitely LIKED him in the beginning and thought he was totally adorable. But it definitely took a while for me to really bond with him and feel totally in love with him. And now I can't imagine not having him in my life! But in the beginning, I was just like "WTF did we do??"
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It took me 3-4 weeks to be completely head over heels for her. I loved her immediately, but I had to bond with her and my love grew exponentially. I love her so much!! Best thing that has ever happened
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The moment I saw her on the u/s!
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Instantly. I mean, I already fell in love with her the minute I saw her heartbeat on the u/s. But when she was born, I couldn't believe it - she was mine! I think I fall more and more in love with her everyday, but I would say I fell head over heels in love with her the minute I put her on my chest.
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Still waiting
happy to read some of these responses..
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I feel like I'm still getting to know her...I have moments of being wildly overwhelmed by love, but it Didn't happen right away. I felt attached to her, but honestly kept feeling more overwhelmed by love for my husband as I saw them together. At 4 1/2 weeks now and it keeps getting stronger. I kind of have enjoyed this slow build up, because these sweet little moments are like little treasures!
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@Silva: I totally agree about the feelings for my husband..
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I loved her right away, but now that she is more interactive, I like her so much more! Now she plays and coos and interacts with us so much!
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Love at first sight. As soon as I saw him my heart swelled in a way it never had befofe.
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It took a while. 4-6 weeks.
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I fell in love with her and would do anything for her instantly, but I actually LIKED her and enjoyed her around 12 weeks or so
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it took a while with both. of course i instantly felt love and protective of them, but it took a while for the bond to grow.
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@JoJoGirl: Gahh, I totally missed that your baby was born!!! Congratulations!!! And don't worry - I think it's totally normal for it to have to take time to bond with your baby. I was actually jealous of my husband when he went back to work after 4 weeks! But by the time it was my turn to return to work at 12 weeks, I no longer could bear the thought of leaving my baby! So you'll get there eventually!
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I loved her immediately, and wanted to care for her and protect her. But I felt like I didn't know her - and I needed time to really know her to feel that crazy love. It didn't take long, though.
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Like others have said I loved him before he was born and even more once he was here. I didn't have a real bond with him until about 2 months when he started smiling and really being interactive. It was like our relationship changed from me keeping him alive to actuall engaging him and being able to get something back.
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I loved him right away... So much that it freaked me out and my anxiety about something happening to him was through the roof. I fall more in love with him all the time... Especially since his personality is so strong now.
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I think it was around 12 weeks. Before that it was all so new and surreal.
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Around 6-8 wks...the main feelings before that were anxiety and overwhelming responsibility.
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I loved him out of responsibility right away, but bonding took until his first smile at 7-8 weeks. I have had a blast spending time with him since he turned about a year.
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Took awhile to have the omg I love her SO much til about 4 months. 3 months it started but around 4 I enjoyed motherhood and was in love.
happy to read some of these responses..
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