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I took A out starting at day 3 for errands and moms groups, etc. with no issue. But at two weeks post partum the itinerary your mom suggests sounds way too intense for you (or at least it would have been for me)! I was way too sore/tired to be doing that much until at least a month out if not longer.

At about 3 weeks old, we started getting out of the house for errands, lunch, etc. We were only out for a few hours at a time. Your mom's itinerary sounds a little daunting. I would only do one of those things per day

We got home from the hospital on day 3, I would say we started going out to eat and see friends between day 5 and 7.

I couldn't have handled that at 2 weeks. I was still in too much pain. We started taking her on short trips to the store and relatives houses between 2-3 weeks...and what you are talking about sounds exhausting and scary even at 6 weeks pp! I'm definitely a nervous FTM!! We took her too an outlet mall an hour away yesterday and I was still a wreck...

It's definitely a comfort level thing. Like others have said, some were good to rejoin the world at a week, and some, like me, still have issues at 6!! Just do what you are comfortable with, and don't let anyone push you!

My baby is 3 months old, and I'm just now getting to the point that I don't feel like I have to plan every detail of our outings, and I feel comfortable and confident going places. I was definitely not out & about with LO at 2 weeks pp, except for doctor visits and such. Even now, we only attempt a full day of activity unless it can't be avoided, because it wears LO out.

@Sapphiresun: What is reasonable is what YOU want to do. I had a rough recovery and went out to brunch for the first time at 2 weeks. A BLOCK AWAY. I would never have had the energy for the day you are describing and never in a million years would I be up for a HIKE with a newborn! People have ridiculous expectations of new parents. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with--and it sounds like the day they have laid out is stressing you out.

We took my baby to the dog park the morning after we brought her home from the hospital, and continued on with our life after that. We went shopping, out to eat, walking, etc. Pretty much the same stuff we did before.

That felt normal and right TO ME. I would strongly encourage you to listen to your body and to your feelings and do whatever feels normal to you. If you don't feel like you want to leave, forget it. Don't push anything - just go at your own pace. If that means you don't want to walk a 5k, then tell your mother to forget it. This time should be about you and your baby and nothing else.

Listen to your gut! There's no right or wrong time. I didn't get out by myself with DS til he was 5 weeks old. Your mom's itinerary sounds like way too much.

Awe don't listen to other people's opinions and do what's right for you. I want to say other than doctor visits I really wasn't fully "out and about" how you describe it until maybe 6 weeks and even then it was short interactions. I was so worried about germs and such I was really cautious.

I started pretty quick, but I kind of made a mental compromise of one activity a day. You want to go on a hike? Fine, but that's all I'm doing and then I'm going home. Tomorrow we can go for a visit.

@Sapphiresun: that sounds like a super busy day. If it sounds overwhelming now, I'd imagine in real life it would be ridiculous. Baby girl is currently 5 days old and we've gone out everyday since day 2, but on smaller outings. For instance, one day to the dr, pharmacy and mall. Another day on a short walk and to a coffee shop. Don't let other people pressure you into doing too much, that's a good way to crash.

@Silva: yep! People don't seem to realize that just because the baby isn't running around doesnt mean they aren't tired after a long day of activity, just looking around and being awake is over stimulation!

You should do whatever feels right for you! When my husband went back to work at 3 weeks I felt like I NEEDED to get out of the house at least once a day. That usually meant a trip to Target or lunch with my mom...and that one trip would take like half the day or at least it felt that way, lol! I encouraged our immediate family members who wanted to see her to come by our house cause it was a lot of work to get out of the house, even if it was just to go somewhere else to sit on someone's couch...I felt most comfortable at home with my baby...even at 3.5 months I feel that way when we're out visiting family.

Woah! That would have been a bit much for me before the baby, never mind now with a 3 week old!

We have been out a few times, visiting family, trips to the supermarket, lunch out and a 1st birthday party but so far just one trip a day and only when me and DH are together. He has gone back to work this week and my anxiety about going out alone is super high. This week Im going to work on that because if I don't I will build it up into a big deal and never leave the house!!

That is a very long and busy day. Even these days with a 4.5 month old, I would never do that much. I will say at this stage people should be coming to you. Perhaps maybe your mother and grandmother can visit and maybe you all can go out for a walk or lunch? Many times I think that people forget that babies need quiet and rest, even if they are small and portable.

Yeah, my lady parts still hurt 2 weeks post partum. That is way more than I could have ever done. At about a month PP, i started going out more for lunch, etc. But still, nothing more than 2 hours because I didn't want to carry everything under the sun in order to calm her.

That day is way more than I would do with a 4.5 month old. I drove 30 minutes to a friend's house this weekend, hung out there for about 2 hours, then drove 30 minutes home. I was exhausted and E was in a GREAT mood the whole time, not even an unpredictable little bitty thing.

They should come visit you and do dinner near your house.

I'm at 8 months and that would be way too much for me - and LO!

Pretty much immediately. I was in the hospital for like 5 days, so I was ready to out and about by the time they let me leave. I had her out at playdates by 2-3 weeks old.