Not to sound like I want to kick my LO out already...lol!
Do you want your LO to live at home until marriage? Until college, until they're 18? Something else?
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I imagine they would move out for college. Even if they went to college close to home, I would want them to live in the dorms for the full college experience!
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Move out when they go to college.
They're always welcome to move back in if they find a job close to home. Good way to save $. -
Never!!!
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I probably wouldn't ever make them move out but ideally, they'd get through college and then hopefully go out on their own. But I know circumstances happen so they're always welcome at home.
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I assume after high school she'll go to college and move out. We do live in a college town so if she wanted to live here through college that would be fine, although I think moving away for college was sort of a good thing for me personally, so I would never try to coerce her into living at home.
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Interesting question... that has been brought up in our family!
We decided to kick LO out at 18 or after HS which ever comes last, either it's for college or for him to find a job and just be on his own.
Both of us moved away for college and we feel we are more independent than our siblings because of it and we hope to raise someone that is not dependent on us in their adult life. Not to say that we wouldn't support them if they had some bad luck.
Leaving the house means you have to figure out to manage money (which we hope to show LO as he is growing up), meal plan (he will see the affects of eating out and making meals at home), cleaning his space (hopefully he will have a threshold of how dirty he keeps his place) and other things. We really hope we prepared him for all the things he faces and can use those skills.
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18. I think it's good for kids to move out and rough it for awhile on their own. (Not that we won't help here and there
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hopefully before my brother or sister and law do.... my brother is 28 and SIL is 26 and neither will be moving in the next year or two
I don't care as long as he is working toward a goal.
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We'll be encouraging her to move out at 18 after she finishes high school.
We both moved out when we went to uni and had to work and find rental accommodation and all the rest of it. It was a positive experience. Though with the cost of housing and uni these days we'll probably give her some financial assistance to do it.
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Never! We live right next to the university! ...
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Not until he's ready. I would never put a time stamp on his welcome in our home.
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I assume she will move out when she goes to college. I'm not opposed to welcoming my kids home for a year or two after graduation as they build a nest egg, or study for grad school exams. However, I do not want to be seen as a longterm housing option for my adult children. Barring unforeseen circumstances, fly, my little birdies.
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He will move out to go to college.
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@anonysquire: Ha ha, that was going to be my answer
I definitely don't want her to do what I did and move to a whole new country. I am a terrible daughter!
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until she goes away for college, i would assume. i moved back in temporarily a couple years after college while i waited to move closer to DH (then BF) and my sister is still living with my parents 2 years after moving in after graduating college... i tease her about it constantly!
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College, I guess?
I move out to live at college for 4 years (home on breaks and the summer) and then I moved out for good on the day of my graduation. My sister lived with my parents for like 3 years after college, I think.
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18! I plan to raise my kids until they are adults and then I feel they should head out on their own. I think too many Kids are treated as children for far too long. DH and I moved out at 18 ( not together- we didn't meet until we were 19) and I think it helped both of us Develop a strong sense of responsibility.
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College
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When he gets married. I'm not kidding.
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mmm I'd like for them to experience living on their own, post college while working (cuz I thoroughly enjoyed it and learned a lot of valuable $ management lessons!) but our door would always be open until they got married!
(and of course expect them to move out during college as well)
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College. DH and I aren't fans of them living with us and going local
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I hope my kids go to the local university and stay home for college to save money. My sister currently lives with us and walks to class so they can do it too, right? Actually my neighborhood is full of professors who walk/bike to campus. It's really up to them where they decide to go to school though.
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I don't care as long as he's out by 30
I think it's important to provide a safe-haven, if they need it. I moved out at 19, but moved back in a year later when I couldn't find a job. I was out again in only 5 months - I wasn't mooching, I was trying to support myself, but as a young adult, things don't always work out.
I don't mind if he doesn't want to "go away to college" and wants to go locally or save on room and board (any way to save money) and live with us through school. But if he had graduated with a degree, was still bumming with us - well we might show a little tough love.
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By their mid twenties? I would be fine with it if they wanted to live at home during college or just starting out working to save money, but I feel like for boys especially it's important to live on their own a bit before marriage so they learn to be self sufficient in terms of household matters.
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When they've saved up enough to buy a house. Sooner is better for multiple reasons, but I'd give them the advantage of not having to pay rent while they save for that down payment.
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I want her to go away to college, or at least to dorm it if she stays local. But I guess that's not officially moving out if she's home during the summers and breaks. I lived at home for a little less than a year several months after college (bad break-up and decided to leave my job & come back home). We'll be open if she struggles, but we want her to know she can always come home (as long as she's not going to be a mooch).
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College. I have friends who's parents just let them come and go, enabling their bad choices. Nope.
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Until he finishes his education and can support himself. So much $$ can be saved by staying home during college years instead of paying room and board. My hubby and I were able to buy a house a few months before he graduated with the money we saved by staying home and going to local universities.
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@travelgirl1: I might have that answer because although I have been moved out for a while, I live in the same neighborhood as my parents and it really works for me! I don't care if she moves out when shes 60 lol.
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Not sure.
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Never
ill support her decisions to move out for college, but in my heart I hope she goes somewhere local and can live at home, and hopefully live with us until she gets married...
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College. My parents didn't want me to leave even for school (they made me stay at community college for a year because they couldn't let me go, luckily I was able to reapply to colleges...) and it wasn't a positive experience. Though maybe it wasn't all bad because I met DH my sophomore and his freshman year right before classes started
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Hmmm I think it would be great if she lived at college and came home for the summers. If she worked locally after college I would encourage her to live with us for 1-2 years to save money towards buying her first place.
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I would never kick them out or want them to feel like they couldn't stay if they needed/wanted to...but on the other hand it'd be nice if they moved out after they were done with University, so like 21/22 at the latest by 25.
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College, I will never kick her out, but I do think in order to gain life exeperience every young adult needs to feel that struggle of living on their own.
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