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Like I wish I could have their parent amnesia and perspective without having to make it through whatever stage I'm in first. Basically, "it's easy for you to say!"

I want to punch them! Every moment is not enjoyable and they probably have their own regrets or something. Also I feel guilty even though I tell myself what I just wrote above.

It reminds me that despite any challenges we face our life is actually pretty sweet.

Reflexively it pisses me off. But at this point I know now sometimes older people often really DO know what they're talking about. I get so caught up in the mundanity and stress of my days home with 2 kids that sometimes honestly a nice reminder.
So so soon I will wish they were little, annoying as they are. They will never learn to walk or have a first word or dance to the recorded Jingle Bells tune on their train set, or nap on me or want a baba when they're older. I don't want to regret this time period.
Crying a little

I agree! I actually say it haha. It’s hard a lot of the times! I have a four month old and a 2.5 yo and in the beginning I cried a lot. I am so blessed to have them and when it gets hard I remember that this season is temporary and it goes by so darn fast!

I smile and nod and mentally punch them.

But I get the parent amnesia thing. The other week I was enjoying a glorious night alone strolling the aisles of Target ALONE when I heard a tiny baby cry. You can't mistake the sounds of a tiny newborn cries. My littles are 7 and 4 and for the first time ever I had this weird feeling where I missed that. I remembered how completely overwhelming it was and it sucked most of the time but I still felt the nostalgia. I could tell the mother was new and just needed to get out of the house. She struggled to quiet her child and was looking all around. We locked eyes and I just smiled at her. If we were closer, I would have told her that she was doing a great job. She seemed like she relaxed as she thought I was going to judge her.

Honestly, I try to remember that people mean well but that doesn't help the frustration in the moment. We're allowed to not love every moment!

I have grown to appreciate it. Because it is true. The older my kids get the more I realize how small some of these moments are. Yes I get frustrated and lose my cool a lot, I am a parent and probably need to work on doing better. I don't think this saying has anything to do with that and the trying times. It has everything to do with time just goes by too fast and life is so short. In the good moments I sneak pictures I normally would forget to take and really take time to watch and take it in. And in the bad times I try not to let that stay in my mind, I don't give it the time to stay there. Even when the kids drew all over their bunk bed last night with purple marker To me the people saying it have been thru it and are reminiscing of all those fond memories and not so fond ones when they say it.

When I had my first my SIL told me to remember, “the days are long, but the years are short.” And at the time I thought it was such a cliche. But I think about it a lot, especially when someone makes those kind of comments to me and it usually keeps me from wanting to kill them.

I think of it like that 'never go to bed angry' phrase that people would tell you when you got married. Blanket advice is terrible. Sheesh, go to bed angry and put some time into calming down and distancing from the argument. 'Enjoy every moment'? enjoy what you can and try to survive the rest.

Basically just a big eye roll from me

Luckily no one has really said that to me, but I'd probably punch them in the face. We have a colicky almost 4 month old and no, I will NOT miss these days and look back on the fondly.

Since punching isn't acceptable, I might tell them to come on over between the hours of 7 pm and midnight and see how much they enjoy all those moments of screaming.