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You're not being unreasonably upset. I'm sorry, honey.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. That would not fly in my house. Sorry, lady.

That would piss me off.

Yup. Id be HELLA mad!

100% not unreasonable. Pigs would fly before that would be acceptable in our relationship. Definitely speak up, I'm sorry

Um, yeah I would lose it if my DH pulled something like that. A few things seem weird to me here, although I realize this could totally depend on his occupation/schedule. Perhaps you can clarify.

Why is he drinking in the afternoon? If he had ONE beer at 3:30pm, I guess he could be sober enough to drive at 5pm, but otherwise, that would worry me right off the bat. Especially if he got drunk enough to upon coming home from another event at 6pm. I hope he took mass transit or someone drove him home??

While I would be pissed at him for sure, do you think he has a dependency on alcohol, or this is just a thing that's come up recently? Does he have some kind of stress or something that's causing him to drink more lately? Perhaps he has some underlying issue that you all need to work out.

Oh hell no. That's not ok!! Stick up for yourself girl, or I'm afraid it will become a habit and you'll both start resenting one another.

Oh, hell no! I'd be livid. I'd also blow an airhorn in his ear really loudly the next morning.

@rahlyrah: hahaha, amazing. Or you could throw a bucket of freezing cold water on him.

Is he drinking and driving? As much as I'd get upset about DH blowing his family off like that, I'd be a lot MORE angry if he was doing something do incredibly dangerous and illegal as well.

You are not bring unreasonable at all! Have you told him how his actions make you feel? If do, what did he say? I'm hoping maybe he caves into peer pressure too often and feel like he has to say yes to these social events? OR he is doing this deliberately? He went back on how word and that's definitely not cool. I'm sorry you are suffering I hope you guys can talk it out and that he is receptive to what you have to say!

I am sorry to hear that. I would be mad too. Actually sometimes I got mad at husband even if he went out to run errands for too long (eg. he says he'll run out to target to get something "very quickly", and he return 3 hours later). lol

He might as well not have told you how he was going to get off work early "to come home and see you and the baby". Just don't say anything. If he comes home then what a nice surprise! If he didn't, he just came home the regular time.

Argh. Men!

I would be so pissed off!

@Honeydew: I'd be pissed too! DH has done this sort of thing to me before ans I was livid. Hope he can see your point of view!

@MamaMoose: @swedishfish: I guess I was joking. Please don't take me seriously. I didn't say he should lie or he should have used anything for an excuse. I said I would have said nothing if I were him (and yes, that's just me, not implying everyone should do the same. And if he said he's coming home early, he should come home early. There is no excuse for that because that's what he promised). Just like my husband would tell me, "you know, I was planning to take you out this coming weekend, but I called the babysitter and she wasn't available." This happened two times (one of them being valentine's day). Got me upset and I asked him why do you even tell me when we are not even going out?! He got me all excited on the first sentence and brought me all the way down (and lower) on the second!

Sorry to have rubbed you guys the wrong way.

ETA: I edited my original comments with better wordings.