kiwi / 612 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: that's so crazy, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this at 40+ weeks pregnant. That's the last time a woman needs to feel stressed out or like her provider is not on her side!
Hopefully, the baby decides to come tonight or soon and labor is fast and easy and this whole thing is soon a distant memory.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I didn't read all the comments, so sorry if I missed part of the story, but here's my info on a big baby:
My first born was 8 lbs 14 oz at birth and I had an episiotomy without drugs. They numb the area first, but at that point, you're already in agony pushing out a giant baby, so I don't actually remember the pain of the episiotomy at all!
Also, I have very wide hips and Xander came early, so everything worked out for my big baby. But if he had been overdue, I would've opted for a c-section. The risks and potential outcomes of shoulder dystopia was just too scary to me.
Okay, I think I'm caught up.
First of all, I'm sorry that you're feeling bullied by your practice. That's uncool. BUT I have to believe you stuck with your doctor for this long for a reason and you should trust them. If they don't feel comfortable attempting a vaginal birth, I wouldn't feel comfortable attempting one either!
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
@pwnstar: @LBee: Thank you for your dissent on this thread. I really took what you said to heart about making the decision in a vacuum. You and a few other posters really challenged me to consider what perhaps my doctors have left unsaid all this time regarding my care & risks. When I started filling out the intake paperwork for the midwives late last night I had to pour over my records. Anytime there was a concern my doctors were active in managing the concern.
Even though I have had a pretty smooth, comfortable pregnancy I started off overweight and gained- not more than what was recommended, but still gained 25 lbs. Yesterday, the nurse couldn't get the blood pressure machine to work and had to take it manually. After she finished she said she calibrated it too high. Once again, they have thought I would be another patient with high blood pressure by just looking at me, which hasn't been the case at all.
I don't like their bedside manner- I never did. The anecdotal and scientific evidence for and against cesarean is compelling. However, if my doctor's are correct and baby is big or even bigger because the numbers could be off in either direction I don't want to risk not bringing home a healthy baby either. If they are wrong, then clearly I can't undue major abdominal surgery, but at least I will have peace knowing I put the best interest of my child ahead of my desires.
grapefruit / 4800 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: does that mean you're going to have a baby today?!
pomelo / 5000 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'm sorry this is how you're having to enter into birth and what should be an exciting and joyful time.
I agree with the few others that I would go with a csection at this point for all the reasons they shared. I am looking forward to your update and hope you have a healthy baby in your arms soon!
pear / 1718 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: So many hugs and so much love to you!
grapefruit / 4321 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I was really busy yesterday and didn't get a chance to comment, but I'm so glad to see you've made this choice. I can't agree more with @LBee: when she says that many on HB go past the point of informed patient to wanting to dictate care and thinking they are more knowledgeable than medical professionals. It sounds like your doctors are trying to take a conservative approach, aiming for the best outcome for you and baby. I hope everything goes smoothly for you! And if the baby turns out not to be large, etc, I hope you won't feel like you made a "wrong" decision. You made the best choice to take care of yourself and your baby with the information that was available to you. Good luck! And enjoy meeting that sweet baby of yours!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: sending you much thoughts for a healthy baby and mama!
honeydew / 7230 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'm so sorry you've been forced to make this decision. I imagine being overdue is plenty stressful without having to deal with this, too. It sounds like you've given it a lot of thought and your healthy boy will be here soon. I hope the c-section goes well and recovery goes well too. My c-section recovery was very easy. Absolutely no issues whatsoever!
eggplant / 11824 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Whatever you chose to do, I hope you feel at peace with that decision and feel it is YOUR decision.
I don't know if that's possible since you have not gotten 100% support from your OB practice. But, I just wanted to say that you can feel totally empowered during a C-section for sure, just like any method of birth. You shouldn't feel like you didn't do enough or ask enough questions. There just are no black and white rules in birthing; we all just do the best we can. Good luck.
grapefruit / 4770 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: This is a stressful time momma, and we are all sorry you are going through this. I just can't wait for you to have that sweet baby boy in your arms, no matter how he gets here.
@Happygal: @pwnstar: @dc yoga bee: @yoursilverlining: @twodoghouse: @regberadaisy: Thank you.
@Maysprout: not sure, we called the hospital in the MOTN to see if I was still on the schedule. It was cancelled. I spoke with the office manager this morning and now waiting for thethe doctor to call me back. I doubt it would be the same time slot if it is today since that's less than 3 hours away. DH is cleaning up the house while I am continuing to work from home.
honeydew / 7235 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Thought about you when I woke up this morning..... I hope everything works out and you can be happy with whatever decision you make! Either way, you'll have your baby at the end and that's all that will matter in the end!
pineapple / 12793 posts
Thinking of you!
I'm sorry your having so many doubts about your care this late in the game.
Baby boy will be here soon and hopefully this drama will be a distant memory once he's in your arms.
FWIW I'm convinced my section recoveries are easier than an LGA vaginal recovery would be.
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: crazy! Do you have all your health records from pregnancy just in case this dr doesn't work out? If there's a teaching hospital, or somewhere used to handling higher risk cases, around you covered by your insurance I might take my records over to there and ask them if you can drop them off in case you go into labor.
eggplant / 11710 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: This is such a crazy story, and I'm so sorry the last few days of your pregnancy are so upsetting and stressful.
FWIW, in my two mom birth groups, there have been several girls who had bigger than 9 lb babies successfully. There were also several girls who had C sections due to large babies, and the babies were smaller than estimated. And then one woman had a C-section, and her baby was much larger than estimated (11 lbs). She also had GD issues, I believe.
I hope that whatever happens, you are feeling at peace about it.
Also, every hospital has an OB on call there at the hospital. Because my labor was so quick, my OB wasn't there to deliver and the on-call OB did it and I actually really liked him--he did a great job. Just in case you magically go into labor today--just go into the hospital. Good luck--thinking about you today.
coconut / 8472 posts
I'm sorry you feel pressured into making this decision . I know it's really tough when you lose faith in the decisions your doctor is making. But I know for me, personally, taking home a healthy baby was so much more important than the birth experience. I had a c-section and it really wasn't as bad as it's made out to be. I even plan to do it again in 4 months.
My recovery the first time with a semi-emergency c-section was pretty smooth. I've definitely heard much worse recovery stories here. I was a little stiff for a few days, but by the time I got home I barely needed the meds. Make sure to take the meds offered on a super regular schedule the first few days. By my 2 week appointment I was off the percoset and only need an occasional advil, and I was cleared to drive.
persimmon / 1233 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Sending lots of and to you!
She can be a polarizing figure, but the Skeptical OB posted an "Ode to C-Section Mothers" a while back that has always stuck with me, about how selfless it is to have a c-section: http://www.skepticalob.com/2013/01/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers.html
There is so, so much more to being a parent than the way the baby comes into the world. Thinking of you...
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I have been thinking about you. Is there an update? A baby, perhaps??
kiwi / 661 posts
I can't really go back and read all the comments right now, but just wanted to give some hope. I was induced on my due date with my second b/c my first was 10 days late and I had bad tearing.... He was close to 9lbs. I don't know my official bishop's score, but it was highly unfavorable. She was at negative 3 like 12 hours after I got the misoprostol. I was only dilated 1cm when I started the process. Anyway, for the most part I had a totally uncomplicated vaginal delivery. From the first misoprostol to baby it was 18 hours. Got the first pill at 11pm and baby at 4pm. I got an epidural around noon and that is also when my water broke.
nectarine / 2690 posts
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I am so sorry for all the drama you had to go through! What a nightmare.
@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: congrats on the baby!!! I'm really happy he's here safe and sound.
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