Do you get a break, or ask for a break?

We have been trying to figure out what is fair in regards to this lately. My stress level has been pretty high in life overall lately, and by 4:15pm when DH gets home I'm itching for some space. Sometimes it's to prep dinner while he hangs with the girls outside, or I'll go up and fold laundry while they hang out in the living room.

However, DH just mentioned he doesn't mind giving me a break but he wants a few minutes to do things he wants to do as well. So we need some help finding a healthy balance. Input?