DH and I both struggled with having an infant. Neither of us are very touchy-feely people, so the constant holding and soothing was very draining for both of us. Breastfeeding/pumping was also a major challenge for me and while I'm proud to have made it for the full first year, that was the hardest year of my life, hands down.

We both enjoy having a toddler more. We love being able to communicate with her and meet her needs. DH also seems like he's able to connect with her more and have fun with her as opposed to when she was in infant.