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I did more parenting (because LO was EBF and nursed often), and DH did more of the chores.

He did more the first few weeks when I wasn't too mobile.

I had a csection and I remember him yelling at me for doing the dishes and washing pump parts! I guess he did more until I was mobile.

I did what I could while I was home-the majority of the cooking and cleaning. But DH easily did half or more of parenting/chores when he was home. He was *all in*

Parenting was split pretty evenly since we had twins. DH also did the housework since I was recovering from a c section.

Absolutely...and LO was EBF until I went back to work. Parenting, to me, means both of us are responsible for this LO.

I wasn't keeping track but he did a ton. I had to nurse and the bottle feed and pump for every feeding. Dh did most of the bottle feeding and washing and diapers while I was pumping. He also always did the 10pm feeding so I could go to bed a little earlier and get extra rest. New babies definitely mean all hands on deck.

He was only off work for a little less than 2 weeks, but I definitely did more parenting, while he did more chores around the house. I slept in the nursery for the first week and change (the bed was lower and easier to get in and out of) and DH stayed in our room and didn't get up in the middle of the night with me. We figured it was better for one of us to have some decent sleep and be functioning a little better during the day. It worked for us most of the time, except on the nights when C would just be screaming during a change or something and I'd be ragey thinking DH could hear her and wasn't coming in, when in reality he sleeps like a freaking log and was oblivious. Grr.

As a whole it was totally 50/50. DH did most of the diaper changes, but I did most of the feeding. I was breastfeeding, but we did some bottles occasionally, which he did. He did all the stuff with the dog - feeding, walking, etc. He did dishes and I can't remember who prepared food. Probably me? We had a lot of freezer meals my mom left us though, so not much prep needed.

The first week we were home was awesome though - my parents stayed with us and did all the cooking and cleaning. It was so nice to just come downstairs after napping with the baby and have a nice meal on the table.

He probably did more than half and still does. He's amazing with sharing all responsibilities. I am very fortunate.

DH was amazing with our first and second children. He did everything I asked/needed and even anticipated I needed. With our third, he had just broken his tibia in two spots and could hardly move, so my mom helped me then.

@Crisark: Ditto this. He definitely does more than 50% of the chores and parenting; 2 years later!

He did everything. It was wonderful. He actually yelled at me for trying to do things that didn't involve the baby (like the dishes).

He did a lot. I had a lot of post partum issues and wasn't able to get out of bed for the first several days. While I was breastfeeding, he still did all meals, some housework, and diaper changes. My sister and mom came over to help him out too.

DH didn't have a ton of time off of work and even less time home with me because we spent an entire work week in the hospital with delivery. But the time he did have at home he did 90% of the housework. I had a c-section and really couldn't do most of it so he did. Including feeding me! He made and brought me every meal the first week we were home. In terms of parenting I guess I maybe did a little more because he spent more time doing housework? But basically for the time he was home there was really no time where either of us weren't being productive. We were parenting or he was cleaning or I was pumping or whatever. He definitely stepped up.

He actually did more than me while he was on paternity leave because I was so ill with mastitis and, it transpired, a small bit of retained placenta. I was a wreck!

No... I think he was pretty shell-shocked. We both were. You can plan until you're blue in the face, but once LO gets here, it could all go out the window!

@yoursilverlining: Yeah LO is 15months and on DH's days off, while I'm at work, he will do laundry and clean up. I come home daily to a picked up house and clean clothes. And he came that way!!! No training needed

It was just survival! He was right there with me... we ordered groceries delivered, he got up with every night wake, he held her when she was awake at night to give me short naps. He only had a few days off but he was the best.

he was only home maybe 1.5 weeks, 2 weeks? he definitely helped a lot! mainly because I could barely move. I had a rough recovery.