Just wondering if u told friends or family or anyone?!! I think I'm gonna go crazy not telling anyone and the keeping a BFP a secret for 12 weeks...
So my answer is just hellobee.. We want to suprise everyone!
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I'm saying family, but it's not my whole family-- just my sister/best friend. And, she is the one I would tell second after a BFP.
A few others know our general timeline, but not that we are actively trying now. They probably assume based on the timeline though. -
We weren't really trying so we told no one
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I have one friend that I will tell. I trust her 100% to keep it a secret and I know she will be super supportive and encouraging.
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The news that we're TTC will most definitely be broke here, and only here with the exception of one friend (who is currently pregnant!) who I've talked with a little so far about the idea...
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I am 36 already and married in September 2011. I think we were pretty open or others assumed we would TTC soon. My closest girl friends all know we are TTC, my twin sister knows and most of our immediate family have an idea. Maybe it's my age but I have been pretty frank. If people ask me when/if we are going to have a baby, I say, "soon, if we are lucky" or to one relative, "whenever the Lord blesses us with one!" I always make it clear that I don't take it for granted. I know it can be hard or not possible to conceive and I want others to be sensitive to that fact too! So far no one has put pressure on us or asked repeatedly how things are going. My close friends just wait for me to bring it up.
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I'm in the middle range of your post, OP. Didn't tell anyone we were TTC (mostly because we were not trying, really) but didn't wait anywhere close to 12 weeks to tell people once I got the BFP.
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my sister, a friend from work and my bff.
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my mom
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We told no one for several months. Once we found out about our infertility and that my husband would be having surgery, we told our parents. At that point we felt we needed their support.
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We told no one. My sister had fertility issues and I didn't want anyone adding stress by asking us how it was going. It didn't take long.. and everyone was very surprised.. but of course then we got lots of "was this planned!" because I'd been telling everyone we were waiting to get them off our backs! Ha.
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We told friends when we were TTC and we really wished we didn't simply because you never know how long it's going to take! We were constantly bombarded with questions like, "are you pregnant yet?!"
Needless to say, it was annoying on top of being stressed!
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@Mrs. Lantern: this is definatley my top reason for not telling anyone... We want to relax and enjoy the journey. My worrying about how long it's gonna take is enough!!
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I discussed the whole thing with my BFF, who's currently 6 months pregnant. I'd been there for her throughout her 1 yr journey to conceive, through all the ups and downs, so it was only logical, when I felt ready to try, to talk to her (before even DH!).
We decided not to tell anyone else but I was so excited, so, so excited, and DH wasn't really into talking about it. When I pushed him and asked him if he was excited too he said "it's not like you're pregnant yet is it?" and I skulked away (for a little cry).
So the next day I went for a coffee with my mum and I kind of blurted out that I was off my BCP and we were going to try for a baby. She wasn't the first bit excited and just said "well, I'm not at all surprised you want to start a family so soon". And the subject was dropped.
So I'm letting all my excitement out on Hellobee instead! Thank God for you guys!!!
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We told no one about TTC both times but I told my family and closest friends all before 12 weeks.
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I just told three friends but that was all.
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A couple friends and WB
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I didn't meant to tell this many people but it's gotten harder as time has gone on (cycle 6 now)... 6 months is a long time to keep such a big emotional process away from friends.
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Immediate family and our two closest friends.
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No one. we werent really trying anyway. But if we were TTC we wouldnt share that with anyone.
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I only told one friend. I didn't want the questions and pressure of "are you pregnant?" in case we had problems, but I did volunteer work with this friend and had to get off my migraine meds so I knew my migraines would blow up and wanted to give her warning that I wouldn't be very reliable.
I did tell family when I did get pregnant though.... and then I miscarried so I'm sure they just assumed that we were TTC again right away even though we didn't officially discuss it.
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I haven't told anyone directly (except Hellobee), but I'm guessing lots of people have guessed based on their responses to me. One told me that God's time is perfect (which, I thought was really sweet) and another told me about Fertility Friend and Preseed. Lol. So, I'm pretending that no one knows and hopefully they will pretend that they don't know and I won't get harrassed too much!
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I've only told one close friend and a couple of work colleagues (because I wanted more info on how mat leave works for us). It is unbelievably hard to keep from my parents... We live in a different province than them and when I was home to visit a few weeks ago I was being careful to only have 1 drink per day (I'm in the drink 'till its pink camp... but feel so guilty if I have more than 1!) This was only our 2nd cycle of TTC (AF came today)... Hopefully it won't take much longer and then I will just have 12 weeks more to wait before blabbing!!!
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@scg00387: I've definitely been extending the timeline we tell people to throw them off. When people ask when we are thinking of trying, I say things like, well, not right now but not too long, I don't know. When really, I mean, goalies are pulled, all systems go!
I should ammend my earlier answer-- several people know I went off birth control in advance to prepare for TTC. Just only my sister knows that it's go time.
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We pretty much told everyone! Close friends and family. We normally wouldn't tell everyone, but we had extenuating circumstances as I went through 6 months of testing to be a kidney donor for my brother and we found out that I had a higher chance of bleeding during the surgery due to the anatomy of my kidney so I decided against donating. My close friends and family knew that I wanted a baby since it was all I talked about for awhile--such a bittersweet time.
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We were very verbal about the fact that we wanted to start a family once we were married. We didn't really have to tell anyone that we were TTC since they already assumed, and we were pregnant 6 months after the wedding.
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we aren't even trying yet and I've already talked about it with my parents, brother and sil, and about 5 very close friends...
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No one IRL. Just talked about it on HB
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hmmm i've very tempted to tell a friend... I guess I could...
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My immediate family knows, 3 of my friends and you guys.
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And I regret telling my friends and family... Especially my family. I made some really cute onesies and brought them over to show my mom and sister for my future baby. That night my sister announces to the family she is pregnant... Ya I looked like an idiot.
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close friends and family. they stayed off our backs though and were helpful more than anything.
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I voted all of the above (well, apart from the no one option). We've been fairly open about the fact we would like children but also about the fact that due to my PCOS it may not happen as fast as we would like.
Our friends and family have been very good about not hassling us with questions, they know that as soon as we have our ducks in order and manage to sustain a pregnancy, we'll let them know. -
People asked us a lot during our engagement if we'd try for kids. Knowing that my husband is much older than me they knew we'd be trying sooner rather than later and I confirmed it. But we've only officially told some friends that we're actually trying now. I don't want my family pressuring me...in fact I don't want any pressure at all. You guys know, oh and my blog readers know of course: thebabystepsblog.com.
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WB and noone else. Our families would have been crazy trying to guess when it happened and we didn't want to tell until 12 weeks once I actually was pregnant. We didn't want to deal with it. Thank god we kept it to ourselves. It was overwhelming once we did share the news and I can't imagine what it would have been like had we told everyone we were trying.
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At first, not a lot of people. Then, we got pregnant, announced, and then miscarried at 20 wks. Now, lots of people keep asking me how I'm doing and I know part of them want to know if we are trying again. We are, but only family and my best friends know that information.
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I told my mom and a couple of friends. My extended family was shocked and several asked "was it a mistake?" loooovely family I have.
DH's family was pleasantly surprised, he's 11 years older than me and they've been not-so-patiently waiting for us to have babies.
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No one I didn't want people to ask me about it.
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Three friends know but only because they're TTC too! It'll be hard to keep a BFP a secret though.
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most of my close friends and family. i'm pretty open about my private life.
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