Other than your SO of course.
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Usually just him. Sometimes I'll vent to one of my closest girlfriends, but I rarely call someone up or meet up with them just because I need to talk. I usually just fight it out with Wagon Sr.
We don't fight often, but when we do, it's epic.
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lately, no one!
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Mmm.. No one really. We don't argue or disagree often, by when we do we just talk things out
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@chopsuey119: I just noticed you changed your picture- so cute!
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no one really. we usually just work it out. i'll talk about it in hindsight when giving advice to my gfs...
@artbee: @chopsuey119: am i going blind? I only see the same avatar of bentley!?
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DH and I don't really fight. If we do, we work it out right away so there is nothing to talk about to anyone else.
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@artbee: Haha thanks! @mrsjyw: I changed my pic.
Muahaha. It's of M in her radio flyer.
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We usually never get into a big enough argument that would make me feel I needed to talk to someone, but in the situations that I have, I go to my close married friend. She always gives me great advice and is sure to never "side with me" just because she's my friend.
My husband and I created lists of approved people to go to with our marital issues, so I know exactly who he'd talk to and I'm okay with that and vice versa. He really trusts this friend of mine. It's a good setup I think, because we always know the other will get quality advice and isn't off gossiping to someone who shouldn't really know (like our parents!)
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@mrs. wagon: we're the same way!! We hardly fight, but when we do, oh man... bring out the guns and call Mr. and Mrs. Smith! LOL!
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@Coco Bee: why do you feel like your parents shouldn't know? I actually agree with you, but dh talks to his parents about us. I said I wasn't comfortable with that and he made it seem like it was normal. So of course I came here to see, and I'm glad to hear I'm the normal one!
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@artbee: well, I definitely don't want him going to his parents with personal issues involving me. I know his mom would take his side because he's her favorite. I trust his dad a little more, but he talks to his wife about everything and she tends to involve herself in everyone elses business. It was actually a huge problem while we were dating.
My parents love DH and I totally trust them to always give unbiased advice, but DH really doesn't want family involved. And I totally understand why, it could get awkward. And I think it's best to have a more outside opinion.
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@artbee: I think it could get messy very quickly if you involve family in your marital issues. why risk it...
I WOULD go to my sister tho, and DH would go to her husband. He is a pastor and we trust them more than anyone
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Usually my SIL (the oldest of his younger sisters) as we're in pretty constant contact anyway. Because she grew up with him, she understands he can be "interesting" sometimes.
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My best friend, if I'm really upset I call and vent to her and she gives it to me straight.
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@artbee: @Coco Bee: omg I'd be FURIOUS if Wagon Sr. went to his mom to discuss a fight we'd had. Even though she could probably help him see my point of view as a woman/wife, it's none of her business.
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No one. Our arguments stay between us.
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@Coco Bee: I love DH's parents and I know they'd try their best to be non judgy and unbiased, but I just feel like it's impossible when you're talking about family and getting a one sided story.
@mrs. wagon: Thank you! So glad I'm not in the wrong here. I felt bad telling DH I didn't feel comfortable with him telling his parents because I feel like I'm taking away his support system from him. But it's my life too, they're my family too, and I don't want them to think bad of me because of a stupid fight we have.
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@artbee: no matter how helpful or supportive she might be (and she would probably take my side a lot of the time), I don't find it appropriate for Wagon Sr. to depend on his mom for that kind of support or advice. I would much rather he go to his closest friends, his brother, or our pastor. I am all about boundaries and this is one I will NOT cross!
Then again, Wagon Sr. was a REAL momma's boy. When I found out early in our marriage that he called her EVERY DAY (even when she would ask him not to, he'd still check in) I put a stop to that immediately. I'm glad I put my foot down early because all three of our relationships are so much better for it now.
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clarification for if (aka WHEN) Wagon Sr. lurks on here and finds this post: he is NOT a momma's boy any more.
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@mrs. wagon: DH told me when we first started dating that he didn't tell his parents much. Over the years I'm starting to think he's comparing himself to his brother who tells them everything, including problems with his sex life. I'm ok with DH talking to his mom all he wants, just not about my personal business. We've put a stop to that now. I guess I wrote this post to see if I'm being a bad wife for making him stop, but it sounds like it's normal to feel the way I do about it so now I don't feel so bad. Thanks!
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@artbee: haha. no problem. Even though it was hard at first for my MIL (possibly feeling abandoned by her own son, etc) I think she appreciates it in the end... she has been learning to live her own life and not emotionally depend so much on Wagon Sr., and I know she very much appreciates the good relationship between him and I. She's always telling us how proud she is of the work we do to keep our marriage strong.
I can't believe your BIL tells his mom about problems with his sex life. I just threw up in my mouth a little.
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@mrs. wagon: Lol, I know! My inlaws always make a face when BIL calls because they never know what he's going to say to them.
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Hubs and I rarely fight, but if we have a doozie, I'll usually call my best friend. He knows me better than anyone and a) can give me a guy's perspective and b) knows exactly how to talk me down. Hubs never talks to anyone about anything, ha.
ETA: I would NEVER consider talking to my parents or his parents. I have, once or twice, talked to his cousin's wife. She's also a social worker, and we've gotten to be very close.
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oh wow, I talk to my mom. She gives good advice. She's more like a friend at this point in my life anyway.
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At the moment, no one. But I have vented to friends and family members in the past.
Muahaha. It's of M in her radio flyer.
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