I'm not sure what we want to do. I don't want my kids to think that we are perfect and never argue but I don't want them to see us arguing/fighting all the time. I think we'll have to pick certain battle to be seen and not seen.
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Right now she's young and we can easily argue in front of her without raising our voices so she doesn't know what's going on. But I don't want to argue in front of her when she understands. I know it's normal to fight with your spouse, but I hated seeing my parents fight even though it was rare.
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My husband and I vowed not to fight in front of our LO, our baby is not born yet so I can't judge how it will go, but we don't really fight that much anyway so it shouldn't be a problem!
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DH and I don't really "argue" very often so that's not usually an issue. There have been a handful of times where I've gotten pretty upset with DS around (all since being hormonal & pregnant). We generally try to talk adult talk after DS goes to bed...... that's more b/c DS is nosey as all get out & we end up having to try & explain things like bills, & scheduling & all kinds of stuff that is over a 7 y/o's head. lol
Otherwise DS has heard us talk serious things plenty, and seen how to appropriately disagree & compromise so I'm pretty happy with the system.
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DH and I don't argue. Ever. I think we would rather not argue in front of LO. Kids don't understand the dynamics of an adult relationship.
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I can't see how we would avoid it, we bicker fairly often. And our kids will fight amongst themselves and learn that it's not the end of the world, so I think they'll survive our spats. If it was anything serious then it'd be after bedtime or pref out of the house entirely
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Disagree? Yes. Fight? No, never.
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Argue is one thing, but fighting is different. I don't ever want to fight in front of my kids. My parents have a beautiful marriage but I remember every one of their fights and it was scary to me as a kid!
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No but we have disagreements or show some annoyance towards each other in front of her. I think that is fine. I want her to have a realistic view of personal interactions and won't pretend that everything is happy happy joy joy all the time.
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We'll probably argue in front of our LOs. I think it'll be good for them to see how their parents communicate.
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@Andrea: I think that is much the path we will go down. It's ok to be annoyed with your other half, it will happen. I think fighting isn't helpful or necessary for kids to witness.
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Oh, yeah, I agree that arguing is less severe than fighting. I don't want to fight but I'm hoping that if things get heated, we will try save the fighting for a later time.
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