Say you want to have a party for your LO at a fun kids place like museum, playspace, etc - do you invite everyone (family, friends) or do you have a separate family party?
We always had separate friends/family parties as kids. And the family party was usually just immediate family - not extended. but I would have a separate party for me and my friends.
But I'm not sure how I'll do it. When we get to the point where J invites his friends - that will be bigger than our 900 sq ft apt can hold. But I don't think I want to deal with two separate parties.