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LO's godparents would not be his legal guardian were something to happen--LO would go to my parents in that case, but his godparents are friends (who barely know one another). To me, a godparent is responsible for religious something (for me, being willing to answer questions and discuss things with LO if he expresses interest) and just being a general positive influence in his life.

Because we're not religious (at all; I'm an atheist), we don't have godparents from that standpoint. But because it's easier, that's what we call a legal guardian. Just sounds nice, I guess? Though we're considering changing who we originally picked (she's gone through a divorce since we originally chose), and I think if we do we'll still call her the godmother because she loves it so much. So for us, it's an entirely non-meaningful term at this point.

Ours are not the same people.

Godfather and his wife are legal guardians if we die, godmother is another person entirely who would not have legal guardianship.

My sister is our childrens' legal guardian, after us, she also happens to be LO1's godmother. The "backup" legal guardian happens to be LO1's godfather. But the fact that they're the god parents played no role in choosing guardianship, we chose based on who would raise our kids in a way we'd want.

Godparents for us are spiritual leaders for lo. Legal guardians are our parents and then my brother (also Ds' godfather) and his fiancé.

We are not practicing. However the legal guardian we chose- my cousin and her husband are very religious. I expect they will take on an unofficial godparent role too. Their 5 children will function as cousins. I don't think it needs to be the same person and guardianship can change. My SFIL is ill, if he passes while LO is still a minor we will make MIL her guardian, but would not want her responsible for her ailing husband and a youngster. But she's young- in her mid 50s.

So short answer, things can change. Choose the best person for each job IMO.