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I was going to say, you could tell them to bring you food and they can hold lo while you eat so you can have a nice meal and they can have baby time.... But that doesn't work if its bedtime. But I do like the idea that if they're going to see your lo they also have to make life easier for you, not harder!

I'm a sahm so I welcomed visitors and breaks.

If I worked outside my home, I would literally turn my phone off on the weekends and refuse to leave my home. I would be utterly remorseless about sharing the time I had with her.

My parents live about 25 minutes away and they come for dinner about every other weekend; which feels like a good amount of time. I feel like we get family time over the course of the weekend whether they visit or not, though it's nice to have weekends just to ourselves as a family too.

Sometimes my mom will say things like "oh, I haven't seen my baby in forever!" or "we are having E withdrawals, it's been so long!" and every time she says something like this; I remind her that she or my dad are welcome to pick E up from daycare any day they want to and spend time with her. My mom doesn't WOH and she has a carseat base installed in her car, so picking up LO from daycare would be no issue at all. She doesn't say those things to be pushy (I don't think, haha), but I think sometimes grandparents need reminding that we want time with our baby too!

Our families are distance, so we don't have so much pressure and they usually have to come to us, especially now that we have two!

In this sense, we're lucky that both our families live out of state (although that makes us unlucky in a whole slew of other areas). Both sets of grandparents want to come see us a lot though - like every few months. We've started saying no, because it's too much now that I'm working again.

It's bad enough to only get an hour or so together in the evenings (and, now that I think of it, only 1.5 in the mornings - I only see my baby an average of 3 hours a day!!). The weekends are what I live for and I spent every single moment with him.

I feel like you're justified to rant. Maybe you can come up with a creative rebuttal "guilt trip"? Haha, that's super passive aggressive. It's probably better to be straight with them.