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@Sams Mom: oh man, that's rough. My husband is in a line of work where I take every goodbye seriously, so I feel you here. If it were me, I would find out to quell my anxiety. BUT I was not Team Green with #1 and will not in the future, so I'm bias

With my second pregnancy, I was waiting for DD to go to bed to show DH the but he got called to work. So, I brought him the test before he left because I knew I would be a ball of anxiety all night and would hate myself if something happened and he never got to know I was pregnant.

How's that for a word vomit response?

@Sams Mom: Sweetheart, I REALLY think your anxiety is centered on that one [horrible] experience he had and everything you (as a family) had to endure. It was both emotionally difficult and physically rough on you. As a spouse who has to suffer through similar (albeit different) experiences than I as a military spouse and kin [my sister] to a cop, I can empathize and sympathize with all of your anxiety. If you and DH have agreed that your #2 will be green, then follow suit; however, if there is ANY ambiguity (and it will put either of your minds at ease), find out the sex. You had your green baby (* and he is the cutest and most funny lil one! ) so I think you need to further discuss with DH. FWIW, I really "feel" it is a girl (*I haven't been wrong with mine or 3 or my friends) but who knows - 50/50, mama.

That is so hard, I'm sorry you are burdened with this!

I have no advice; but I def think if this doesn't stop, your mental/physical health would be more important than not finding out. Just want to see you have a happy and healthy 9 months and not having to have so much anxiety over this!

@Sams Mom: Good to hear you’re taking steps for your mental health. I hope some combination of prescriptions/talking (either to your DH or a therapist) makes you sleep better. I’ll be thinking of you. ️