So umm I know we all hold our breaths for the 12 week mark (right? riight?) but then like at 14 weeks do you breathe a sigh of relief because you'll probably be okay? Or coming up on 8 weeks can I start to feel excited because maybe Peanut is here to stay? Or at 8 months will I feel nuts about all there is left to do? And at 2 years worry about what messes he's getting into?
When does the worry subside???
And don't worry, I have an appointment with my therapist to talk some of these worries out tomorrow morning....
But would love to hear from you lovely ladies!
pomegranate / 3521 posts
29 weeks and still worry but I am a worrier. Not necessarily about m/c but about a million of other issues that could come up.
coffee bean / 46 posts
@Reese, love your little picture, super cute!
I hear you.. I used to work at a pediatric center and specialized in developmental disabilities. It's a little freaky knowing about the million and one disorders that can affect a child.. Ugh. Or you know, tripping and falling on the stairs, or ice... Or the fact that we are in the process of looking for a home still and have nowhere to put baby if we stay at our current place... Or when Hubs and I argue and I have an irrational moment of panic like "ahh Im a single mom now!"
Not to introduce more worries to you. . . .
pomegranate / 3658 posts
I thought I would always worry after my miscarriage but I really felt a million times better after twelve weeks. I am not a worrier by nature though.
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
You learn to relax 2 hen you realize that there is never going to be a day for the rest of your life when there isn't something to worry about, and come to terms with your inability to be in control it's a constant up and down battle for me, of worrying and letting go. It gets easier
apricot / 422 posts
I didn't start really getting excited and wanting to talk about my pregnancy until after 24w. I was still kindof anxious until 30w. At 34w I finally started buying things for the baby.
pineapple / 12793 posts
My two are on the outside and I still worry.
grapefruit / 4997 posts
I think I worry too much but I hide it well. Lots of what if scenarios are running through my mind daily.
pineapple / 12053 posts
@Mrs. Lion: this is what happened to me. worry, let go, worry, let go, repeat.
i thought i would be a LOT more type A in regard to DD than i am, but i realized that she's a person, i'm not in control and deal with the bumps as they come.
eggplant / 11824 posts
@Mrs. Lion: totally agree.
For me personally, there was a lot more worry between 24 weeks (or, around viability) to around 36 weeks than from 0-12 weeks. The stakes seemed much, much higher then.
My LO is almost 3 and I don't actively worry about her a lot...you know, until she runs or moves or anything
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I go both ways- like, I know realistically that odds are, nothing with go wrong, and if something DOES go wrong, there is likely nothing I can do to prevent it. So that helps me relax.... But on the other side you always worry because you know things CAN go wrong. So I try to just assume it will go like normal. Even in labor with C and there was trouble with her heart rate, some (probably hormonal and illogical) part of my brain was like, the monitors are just screwing up, the baby will be fine (and she was).
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
I am 29 weeks and I still worry about him because I am so in love with him and I feel like I have so much more to lose. Having two losses prior doesn't help.
pomelo / 5660 posts
I worried up until they were in my arms. I still worry though.. Just different things now.. Life is precious, there are no guarantees
apricot / 409 posts
I was super worried during my entire pregnancy. I think it was because I knew a couple people in real life who had late term miscarriages and was worried it might happen to me. I even went to the ER around 34 weeks when I thought the baby wasn't moving. Fortunately baby was fine.
After my baby was born, I felt significantly better but was still worried (SIDS, etc.). My LO is almost 1 now and I still worry but it's way less than when I was pregnant.
pomegranate / 3565 posts
When I was pregnant, I never stopped worrying. I knew someone who had a stillborn baby full term. I didn't let it overwhelm me, but I always worried. Now they are out, and I probably worry more!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I worried less in stages as I progress. More with E than with T. I've hit a point where I'll just take everything in stride now
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
I'm almost at 13w5d and I still worry. I'm excited about our twins but I still worry that I'm going to lose a twin. I think also I have been struggling with hyperemesis but now I'm on meds that actually make me feel like myself again.
I think I will worry less when I reach 20 weeks.
papaya / 10343 posts
People said you just never stop worrying, even once the baby is born. That was actually not true for me.
I stopped that every-day type worry when I hit to 2nd trimester. Then I felt really great after 24 weeks. I did get a little worried again past 40 weeks because I was just anxious for her to be out. Then once she was out I really had no anxiety about her (until we had feeding issues later but that was a whole other thing).
honeydew / 7622 posts
@Mamasig: this same thing worried me, I also knew someone with a full term still born. Until she was in my arms I worried. I tried not to get overwhelmed/stressed, but I worried. I'll always worry but now it's easier because I feel like I have more control since I am actually caring for her.
pomelo / 5607 posts
I can't really answer this. Partially because I don't have a LO born yet, but mostly because I'm not sure really what constitutes worrying in this case. I don't sit around worrying. I buy things, and operate on the assumption that she'll be okay. But I still have moments where I feel like I'm just waiting for bad news, for the rug to be pulled out again. And I have serious anxiety leading up to ultrasounds. So...? I think I'll always have bad moments/days. I've always had moments where I get upset thinking about something happening to DH or one of the dogs (and semi-regular bad dreams about something happening to one of the dogs), so I think that will be the same with LO. But it's not overwhelming most of the time, and I'm able to stay optimistic.
clementine / 878 posts
I worried every week! First about m.c then anatomy scan or other birth defects, then still birth, then at birth whether baby would have any other issues undetectable in the womb, and then SIDS and now I worry she will be kidnapped or drown or hit her head and.... Yeah I am the anxious type for sure.
nectarine / 2086 posts
I was doubled over in worry until my first ultrasound at 9.5 weeks, after that things got soooooo much easier and I felt like a different person! I really don't worry too much anymore. 23 weeks now.
nectarine / 2600 posts
After 3 losses, I will never not worry!
pomelo / 5791 posts
I have one on the outside (he's 2), 1 m/c, and 1 still cooking (25w). I worry constantly about both of them. I don't think it ever ends. I am a worrier by nature, however.
pomegranate / 3355 posts
I honestly worry more now then when preggo. DD is 16 months and my heart bursts with love for her. In my job I deal with some pretty bad situations and it's so scary how fragile life is! Life freaks me out so much now that I have DD.
pineapple / 12566 posts
To quote my dad, when I tell him not to worry about me: "I will worry about you until I DIE." I get it now.
squash / 13208 posts
During pregnancy with my 1st I worried until I had him in my arms
With my 2nd I only worried until the end of the 1st trimester and then I was fine
Once the baby is born though is a whole new set of worries and your right, that will never end.
pear / 1837 posts
Didn't worry a whole lot when I was pregnant with my daughter (who was born healthy at 40 weeks!), worried during my second pregnancy (miscarried at 9 weeks), really worried during my third pregnancy (son was stillborn at 23 weeks), and am now completely and utterly terrified, almost to the point of it being incapacitating at times at 6.5 weeks. I also know people who had a stillbirth full term, so I won't ever stop worrying until this baby is in my arms, alive. Then there is a new set of worries.
coffee bean / 46 posts
@gracecat: I am a horrible person, your post just made me LOL! But I think it's because I feel like I know what you mean, being anxious is tough! Every irrational or far-fetched scenario seems possible!
coffee bean / 46 posts
@lamariniere: Thats kinda funny. My dad tells me ALL THE TIME "don't worry" when I start interrogating him about his health, diet, sleep, choices etc etc, My answer to his is always "I can't not worry, it's my hobby"
Eek, it would be funnier if it wasn't so true! I am such a worrier though I can occasionally turn it off, use my coping skills, and of course use humor to deal with it. I'm a psychologist and you think I'd be better at this but I'm also human so....
cherry / 181 posts
I felt better after 12 weeks, but I worried about it until I held the baby in my arms. Then a different type of worry started! But the fear of miscarriage/stillbirth is a different fear for me than that of a parent, so I voted "when I held the baby."