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The first 3 months of life are commonly referred to as the "4th Trimester". Newborns are still adjusting to life on the outside and need to have their needs attended to almost immediately (or as soon as humanly possible!), as they are still bonding to their parents and need to feel safe and secure.

Long story short - there's no way to "spoil" a newborn Some nights, the only way my newborn daughter would sleep at all was me sitting up in bed and her laying on me. She's now a happy, well adjusted 3.5 year old who sleeps 8p-7a every night, in her own bed

On another note, we never formally "sleep trained" but by 12 weeks, my daughter was sleeping through the night in her crib. It was just something she learned to do on her own as she got a bit "older". Enjoy those newborn snuggles while you can!!!

You haven't ruined your baby! Sometimes it can get overwhelming seeing everything online telling you to sleep train by X weeks.

I watched a webinar from Isis once that said to not even attempt training (this was a webinar on naps) until 5.5 months. For my Dd, she needed to be rocked and fed to sleep. I worried about it, but she STTN and it worked for our family. She started giving me signals around 7.5 months that she didn't want to be rocked/fed to sleep anymore so we started training. It took one bad night (35 min of crying) and then the next day she started falling asleep on her own for all naps and bedtime. It was much less painful than I anticipated...I think because she was ready.

Anyway, moral of the story.... I thought I had screwed her up by rocking/feeding her to sleep but I didn't. She learned when she was ready. Some days I'm actually a bit sad because rocking her to sleep was one of my favourite parts of the day!

You definitely haven't ruined him. FWIW, we nursed/bottle fed to sleep LO's entire first year. We did nap train around 9 months, so by the time we kicked the bottle she was totally used to going to sleep by herself. In our house, 9 weeks was way too early for her to do drowsy but awake. I see sleep like another developmental milestone except it's on a really loosy-goosey timeline. Different kids are ready at different times.

Don't worry!! You haven't ruined him! He's still so little- honestly, at this point, use whatever works to get him to sleep. I wouldn't worry about sleep training for at least another few months!

You haven't ruined him at all!!! He is still so little. At this point do whatever you can to get him to sleep.

Continue to do whatever it takes at that age You're doing great!

At that age, we were doing whatever it took to get sleep. She started her own routine around 3 months, and while bedtime can be a chore now, it's much better than it was at 9 weeks.

ETA: I still nurse/rock to sleep now. I don't consider it a bad habit since she will go to sleep other ways, this is just what we do at bedtime (diaper, PJ's, Nurse, Story (sometimes), Song, Rock). If it's not working, we turn the lights on and play for 15 minutes before trying again.

We rocked our daughter to sleep for nighttime and naps until was at least 4 months old .... at some point, she let us know she was ready to be done with the the rocking (lots of squirming, etc....) and we stopped. Now at 7 months, she goes to sleep fine on her own, so I promise you are not ruining him! That said, I remember panicking at that age because I was convinced if I didn't have her on a sleep schedule/falling asleep on her own before I went back to work the world would end, so I completely understand how you're feeling. He'll get there eventually, just do whatever you need to do now.

Sounds totally normal! Although I'm sure hearing that doesn't make things any easier in the moment.

When my LO was around 8 weeks old I just tried to establish the bedtime routine (bath, milk, very dim lights and cuddles). Then I read up on sleep training and started working on it at around 12-14 weeks. I was very lucky in that my LO took to it pretty well without crying much. One thing that I personally think was a game changer is the dream feed.

Try not to stress as it's way too early to have made any lasting impact