I made a good friend who is in the same mom groups I participate in. I knew her last name sounded familiar, and today I realized.... She is the sister of DH's last girlfriend before me! They were pretty serious, and had an ugly breakup.
Would this make you feel weird? I wonder if I should ever acknowledge it. I'm not really concerned, but it makes me laugh that out of all the people in our city, I made friends with her!
blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts
It might make me feel a little odd, but mommy friends are hard to come by! I might make a joke about it or something, to let her know that I knew (to seem like I wasn't weird about it). I don't think it would keep me from making a friend though.
honeydew / 7444 posts
It depends on how long ago they broke up. I think i would keep the friendship but i'd keep it at arm's length. I wouldn't want her to know certain things and have her blab it to her sister!
pomegranate / 3577 posts
Does she know? Or is this something you've realized? It would make me reluctant to share too much, but a casual acquaintance would probably be okay.
kiwi / 729 posts
As long as she is nice to you, I'd leave the past in the past. People grow up and change. (I had a similar thing happen to me and I"m going to be friends bc like edsmarties said, mommy friends are hard to come by! and they are valuable)
honeydew / 7091 posts
Haha! What a small world. I'd probably stay friends, but limit the juicy girlfriend talk 
When DH and I were dating long distance he broke up with me to date another girl for awhile. Turns out, SIL was pushing him to do it because she didn't want him giving up his life on this long distance relationship, and convinced him to date her friend. Well, now SIL keeps trying to get me to hang out with this girl since we're both her friends. Um, NO. I cannot be friends with someone who has touched my husband >:-(
nectarine / 2667 posts
I wouldn't feel weird at all, but I have a high tolerance for awkwardness. I'd acknowledge it in a casual way and not share anything really juicy about my husband/our relationship.
pear / 1799 posts
I'm happy my partner & I live 2,200 miles away from our last relationships!! I would feel awkward a bit, but depending on the length of time that's passed, I'm sure it'll be just fine. If you like her, then I wouldn't worry about it.
nectarine / 2667 posts
@swurlygurl: Hhaha - I was just thinking after I posted "do people still use the word 'juicy' anymore?" 
honeydew / 7091 posts
@JoyfulKiwi: Oh no, is it one of those words that makes us old, and uncool?! Haha! Like, when my parents would use their slang and I would just give them a pathetic look...
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@swurlygurl: lol I'm good friends now with someone who was my husband's serious girlfriend in high school! I rarely think about it and it's not weird at all.
papaya / 10473 posts
@Espion: I am pretty sure she knows and hasn't said anything!
Their parents still love my husband, and even sent us something when LO was born. The breakup was totally the sister's decision, not DH's.
I can't believe I didn't realize. Their last name is very distinctive!
pear / 1579 posts
@grizz: It would be weird to me and I'd be very reluctant to share too much (anything,really) with her.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I would let it be, most likely she recognizes your last name & probably knows the truth too but doesn't want to bring it up! Keep it neutral until you start talking about families! haha
pomegranate / 3003 posts
I'm sure she knows, considering your last name. I might feel a little awkward about it, at first, but a friend is a friend, in my book.
If no one is bothered by it (including Mr. Grizz), I'd say, have at it and enjoy!
pineapple / 12234 posts
It would kind of bother me. Only because I've done it and she ended up inviting her sister (DH's ex) to a play date with us. NO THANKS.
persimmon / 1081 posts
I don't think the onus is on you to do anything. If anything, it's for your friend to decide how far her loyalty to her sister goes.
It sounds like everyone is probably aware of the situation but is being grown up about it. Very nice.
papaya / 10473 posts
@deerylou: I told him, and he was like "Oh, A is in your weird baby origami club* too? She's pretty cool. I always liked her. I'm not surprised you guys hit it off." Totally nonchalant.
*what he calls our local AP/gentle discipline/babywearing moms group. lol!
grapefruit / 4028 posts
I think you're fine, but like everyone else said, maybe not share too much with her about our relationship.
pomegranate / 3003 posts
@grizz: Haha, at first I was like, "Well, that's interesting. Paper cranes with baby....err"
Sounds like the friendship is a-okay!
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