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I think things are changing a lot faster than 20 years.
Look at shows like Glee and The new normal. Movie stars like Ellen, Neil Patrick Harris, frank ocean....Prop 8 and DOMA rulings.
I would be 100% accepting and I don't NOT wish them to be gay either. Being gay isn't an affliction or disability. It's just the same as if my child has brown or blue eyes. I don't have a preference either way.
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without a doubt. i would worry about members of mine and dh's families accepting lo if he is gay and that makes me very sad.
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Of course! We have a lot of good gay role models in our family and circle of friends, so I think that if my future LO were gay, they'd (hopefully!) be comfortable with who they were, and we would both love them just the same.
@Foodnerd81: my childhood best friend, who I've known since he was born (as a female), is a trans man. Seeing him struggle through his feelings to the point where he nearly killed himself from anorexia, spent months in a psychiatric hospital, and finally came to terms with who he truly was has changed by views on the subject. Now as a man, it just fits so perfectly, and he's never been happier in his life. (ETA: I'm not trying to change your mind or anything snarky, just sharing my story because I know it's still a pretty taboo subject and one that not everyone knows too much about!)
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Yes.
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I would love my children no matter what. Would it be hard? Yes. But it wouldn't change how feel towards them. Not one bit.
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@luckypenny: "I would be 100% accepting and I don't NOT wish them to be gay either. Being gay isn't an affliction or disability. It's just the same as if my child has brown or blue eyes. I don't have a preference either way." <----------------------This is perfect! I agree 100%
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Absolutely.
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Totally 100% okay, other than worrying about the things like bullying, etc. The problem I would have is my family. They're fundamentalist Southern Baptists and I could see them being horrible about it. I'd like to think that actually having to face the reality of having a relative who is gay could help them be more open-minded, but I doubt it. Most likely we'd wind up completely estranged from my family, which would be sad, but I will NOT let my family ever shame or bully my child.
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Oh my gosh... who is going to come on here and say that they would not be supportive?
Seriously, I just pray that my future child does not grow up to be a child molester or a meth user.
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@MrsMcD: haha!! I'm with you!
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@Shutterbug: I hope it doesn't sound like I wouldn't be accepting. It's just, like you said, I don't know I much about it and it would be so hard to navigate unknown territory for myself while still protecting them from outside people who don't understand. And I feel like there is more if a stigma in that still. But I'd certainly do whatever was best for my baby! Thank you for sharing your story- like you said it isn't talked about much outside of a sensational news article now and then.
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I would be 100% accepting. My mom is gay, my best friend forever is gay (she's jokingly called me her wife for years) and I have had several gay friends over the years. For me, my child being gay is a non-issue.
That said, although I should hope that by the time he figures that out the world would be easier for the LGBT community, I worry that being gay would mean a harder life, and I wouldn't wish that on him.
And he'd have to promise to give me grandbabies one way or the other
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Completely accepting! And if I were to have 2 sons, I would selfishly want one of them to be gay
Is that weird? Gay men are awesome and we don't have any (that I know of) in my family.
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100%. I would need no adjustment period. As long as he is respected, loved, and happy, then I am happy!
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Definitely!
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100% yes!
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Yes, definitely!
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With out a doubt I would accept her 100%. I would be scared of the challenges she might face with prejudice, but hopefully by then the US will be more accepting and rights will be equal. I would be in her corner no matter what, as would her DH. I would be scared how her grandpa would react, but I'm sure he would get over it (and I would not allow any derogatory comments made in any way)
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Yes, of course.
ETA: I will want to make sure my children are comfortable expressing their feelings. I also would hope they would never have to "come out" to me - that it would just be an ongoing organic conversation.
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Id be totally cool with it. In fact Id love it, a girlfriend couldn't accidentally knock her up at 15!
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I would be 100% accepting of it!
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I don't see how I couldn't be- it would be like not accepting them for having a different shaped nose. It's not something that they choose, so how could I be upset? Like others have said, what I'd be worried about is the possible discrimination that they would face, but you worry about that sort of thing with all things different about your child- if they talk differently, look differently, have odd tastes in fashion, whatever.
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100% totally more than fine. I was kind of hoping for it... but I don't think that it will come to pass.
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Of course! DH and I always talk about her future partner(s) and wonder if she'll be straight or gay. To us it's just like wondering whether she'll be a doctor or a musician--either is fine with us, just as long as she's happy! (I just hope she wants to give me some grandchildren!)
@Shutterbug: My brother is struggling with trans issues (he self identifies as gay) and I know that although I am completely accepting, there would be part of me that would be sad if my LO was trans, but for purely selfish reasons in that I would no longer have my "little girl."
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@mrsjazz: oh, I can totally understand that! My friend's mom had a very hard time at first as well, because it was her only daughter.
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Totally cool with it. In fact when I tell her about how I will help plan her wedding (we have all sorts of conversations ya know) I talk about her girlfriend or boyfriend. I don't want her to feel pressured to be something she's not.
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@mrsjazz: I think the trans issue is sadness about my beautiful girls not being comfortable in their beautiful bodies. That would be hard for me.
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Absolutely! We would both be totally fine either way. DH jokes thats he hopes shes gay so he doesnt have to worry about boyfriends. Ha.
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Absolutely! As long as DD is happy and confident in who she is, and expects to be treated with respect from all future partners, male or female, I will be 100% happy. I'm looking at her right now and can't imagine ever not loving or supporting her. No way.
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This thread makes me happy
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Absolutely, without any hesitation.
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Of course, without hesitation.
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Yes, no doubt. My love for them is unconditional.
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Absolutely!
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love everyone's responses, so great to see!
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There is no doubt in my mind that my love for my child would not change if they were gay.
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@char54: Exactly! I want her to love, to be loved, and to be happy!
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Absolutely. Without a doubt.
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Absolutely fine by me! But I will still pressure him to get married and give me grandbabies with his hubby! Heheh
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@FutureMrsMcK: hahah I just read the thread and saw that we are of the same mindset! Heheh
This thread makes me feel really good about the world my baby will enter.
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