I keep hearing commercials on the radio for egg donation. Right now they are looking for Asian women to donate.
I don't think that I could do it. The $$ would be nice but what if my egg makes a boy baby and R would end up dating him or something!
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no, and i don't think they'd want mine. i think it's a beautiful thing for some people, but not something i want to participate in.
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I wouldn't unless my sisters needed them and DH and I were done having babies. The risks to future fertility freak me out.
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No, I don't think so. DH and I agreed early in our marriage that if one of us was infertile, we would rather adopt than use donor eggs/sperm. So I feel the same about donating.
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I think it's a wonderful thing, but I don't think I could do it! I just can't imagine a baby out there somewhere that's half of me and not know them!! But I guess I'm just not selfless enough!
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When I was in college 100 years ago, there were flyers in the bathrooms at bars for egg donation, I always thought it was the weirdest place to put ads!
In any event, no, I would not and could not.
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I think I would for a sister (don't have one) or relative, if needed. But knowing that I biologically have a baby out there somewhere would be hard for me personally.
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I have to admit when I was unemployed years and years ago I was tempted to for some cash, but thank god I didn't. Just don't like the thought of my child out there, even though people will argue with me that it's not my child.
Edit: especially going thru egg retrieval... man, I don't think I could do it for anyone other than myself!
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No. I haven't gotten pregnant yet, so I have a bit of a hoarder mentality with my eggs. I need them all!
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No. It was hard enough going through an egg retrieval for my own purposes.
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I did - It was between ages 26-28 - I did several cycles.
Biologically yes its my child, but I had no emotional ties to my eggs.
I hope I was able to help some women who couldn't get preg on their own. They don't tell you if it worked so I have no idea....
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Probably not. I'd feel weird knowing that "my" kid was walking around somewhere out there and I didn't even know it.
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I would have when I was younger but no one wanted my eggs.
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If it was easy to do, I'd do it or seriously think about it (so I'm lazy, I guess?)
I don't feel like it would be "my" child; since it wouldn't be. I know the child would be biologically part mine, but in every other way (the ways that matter), it would be the child of the family who had him/her.
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I really want to after we have our next babe - not for the money, but because I want to pass on some of my blessings. I'm of the mindset that biology doesn't make a family, so I don't even see the egg-baby as my child. He/she might look like me, but won't be mine like Sadie is mine.
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If someone I cared about approached me and asked me to do it, I would definitely consider it.
But for money (tempting... I'm ASIAN!!!) ...there are always other ways to make money! I don't even know what risks or repercussions there might be... but I don't care to even think about it.
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@Mamaof2: good for you! What an amazing gift!
I dont think I could.
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haha!
It's too invasive for me to do. Requires hormone injections and everything. It's not like, you know, sperm donation.
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@mrs. wagon: There is such a need for Asian donors! I have actually looked for egg donors while going through IF and they are pretty much impossible to come by.
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I couldn't.
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What @Adira: said. I'm not even sure if I could do it for a family member because I'd be worried that I'd want to be too involved with his/her upbringing and not be able to let go
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Nope. Couldn't do it. I would consider it to be my child and I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing he/she was out there without me. What if they were born to mean/abusive parents? I would agonize about it. I know that's a crazy worst case scenario but that's how my anxiety ridden mind works.
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Considering my IF history, they probably wouldn't want my eggs.
I think the sentiments expressed here by lots of you is part of why they target poor college kids and not moms
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Nope.
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@spaniellove: gosh, I had no idea. Really makes me think about what I'd do if someone approached me about it! Although I wonder how many people would prefer to choose an anonymous donor rather than ask a friend/family member..
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Nope. I couldn't do it. Emotional or physical.
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Nah
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I know someone who did it for her sister. An anonymous egg donor was not desired in that case.
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@mrs. wagon: I think it tends to be anonymous so unless you have sisters it's pretty unlikely.
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No, I wouldn't, nor do I think I'd be allowed to. I have a blood clotting disorder that strictly prohibits me from taking any artificial hormones, so the whole process for egg retrieval would be a no-no.
Even if I could, though, I wouldn't. I don't think I'd be able to handle the idea of having a biological child out there and not being a part of his/her life. I feel the same way about DH donating sperm. Actually, his sister and her wife were looking into sperm donors and briefly toyed with the idea of asking DH (for the sister's wife, obviously, not the sister!) and we were not comfortable with it.
I think I would carry a baby for a family member, but only if it wasn't my biological child.
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I would like to think I would for a close friend or family member...but I don't think I could.
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@IRunForFun: same here! I would carry a child for someone, so long as they weren't my eggs, before if donate mine.
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I wouldn't be opposed to it.
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I have an embryo frozen and as long as everything goes ok the next couple months with these twins, we are not having any more kids. It's a little different than egg donation because it's already fertilized. I don't think I could donate it to just anyone, but possibly to my sister. She has a terrible time going through IVF (one fresh cycle cancelled, one fresh cycle where all embryos were frozen and one FET that ended in miscarriage) and I know she doesn't want to go through the stimming process ever again. She has two frozen embryos left that I hope become her babies. But if they don't, I would offer her our embryo. I don't know if she'd take it though.
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Hell yes I would. I looked into it, even, but I'm too old (33). After going through it already, I know its not a huge deal. Also, to be able to help someone who needs it would be incredible. I'm also of the mindset that biology does not make the child yours- we currently have an embryo on ice, and if we choose not to transfer it, we will donate it to another couple rather than have it destroyed or donated to science.
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I don't think I could. I think I would be too connected/tied to the baby just knowing that they're carrying my genes even if I didn't birth or raise them.
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No way. Too invasive, both physically and emotionally.
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Ya I would. But I am sure no one wants a crazy cat lady's egg.
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I think I would! Not until I'm finished having children though
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@Smurfette: I'm Asian and I got eggs!!! Hahah. jk.
No, I wouldn't. I'm done having babies though!
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