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It's not for me, I would be insanely jealous. Infidelity is pretty much the only unforgivable in our relationship.

I'm friends with a married couple that have a live in girlfriend though. It works for the three of them, so who am I to judge.

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@kiddosc: hey kudos to them. But I would be insanely jealous too!

Definitely not for us. DH would never even want to. My brother's wife is polyamorous (has a secondary relationship) and DH always rants about what's the point of marriage if you're not intending to be faithful.

There are a lot of things I'm okay with. I don't care about porn, or strippers, or him checking out other women. When I was younger and didn't have a kid, I think I could have comfortably lived in a polyamorous relationship. Shit, I've even been in a situation where I had a threesome (not with DH. With an ex girlfriend).

But a hall pass? HELL no. I'm not giving him a pass to go fuck some random chick and bring home god knows what STD..... Well..... I mean, unless I get one too, minus the STD.

I saw this and was like "what's a hall pass?" Lol, the only time I've ever heard this term used was in junior high, when we needed a literal hall pass to go somewhere during class

I don't want an open marriage - for a lot of different reasons (the emotional issues, the health risks, etc). But I don't particularly care if others do, if it works for them and everyone involved is a consenting adult.

No. Not a good idea.

Personally, no. That would make both dh and I super uncomfortable.

Theoretically, I understand that sex and love don't have to be the same thing, so I do respect that this does work for people. I worry that the judgmental tone of some of these responses (saying things like "why even be married") may keep people who might be in or be interested in non-exclusive relationships from posting.

Neither my husband or I would have any interest in this (probably for different reasons), so I can't even imagine it well enough to know how I would feel about it if my husband was interested.

We have some very good friends who are polyamorous: two couples who all have a romantic relationship with the people of the opposite gender in the group (so each person has two relationships.) I found it unusual when I first met them, but they are some of the kindest people I know and really wonderful friends, so I got over myself. I have no idea how they came to be in the situation they are in, but they've been together for many, many years and their relationships are very loving. They also seem to have different relationships with each partner, so I can definitely see how they find each relationship fulfilling in different ways.

A "hall pass" seems more off-putting to me, because I would expect it's kind of about escaping your life. But if others find it a useful or enjoyable thing in their relationship, go for it.