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I couldn't do it. The thought of having "my" children running around out in the world bothers me for some reason. I think people that so are doing a great thing by giving others children but I just couldn't do it personally.

haha i did actually think about it when i was unemployed (laid off) years back. but thank goodness i didn't.

I think it's super admirable when people help others have a child, but personally, I just couldn't help that way. I would feel really strange about having "my" genetic child out there somewhere and not knowing/ parenting him/ her.

I actually had a friend who did so and she later committed suicide. She battled a lot of inner demons and I think she felt good about helping someone else out and having her genes carry on although she didn't ever think she'd carry on her life. It's very sad but I also think it gives her parents a glimmer of hope that their is still a small piece of her still in this world.

I saw those ads in the university paper when I was attending. Someone wanted eggs from students attending an Ivy League school. They had height, age, weight, hair color, eye color etc requirements, too. I don't think I would ever sell my eggs, but I did do some psychology department experiments for $20!

No.

When I was fresh out of college, I saw some ads, the money aspect was intriguing, that's for sure. Some donors could be compensated up to $15k, that's a lot of money and with a few donations, that could wipe out loan debt.
I never did it, I was always too concerned about the kids wanting to find me and me wanting to find them.

Yes, I looked into it. I don't view my eggs as "my children" or a part of me on a personal/feeling level, so I don't have any personal hangups about someone else having a child that has part of my same genetic makeup.

I looked into it in law school, and because of my racial/ethnic background and education, I was a "desirable" candidate. Honestly, that part turned me off the most; basically being told that because I'm white, with certain physical features, a certain education level and family history that my eggs were more "valuable" then other people with different traits. I know people purchasing eggs are usually looking to have children whose looks/intellect mimic theirs, but there was just something about the selection process that was a real turn off.

Its also a lot of work physically - the company I looked into required extensive records - all my college and post secondary transcripts, my complete medical records, as well as photos, information and medical histories of my parents and grandparents on both sides. There was frequent drug testing (which wouldn't have been an issue outside of the time commitment), and tons of medical testing, as well as the hormones and whatever I needed for the procedure itself.

I dunno - I'm certainly fine with not having done it, but it sure would also be nice to have 5k-10k less in student loans now.

Phew, I probably would have if I had known about it when I was a poor college kid or just out of college. I wouldn't now because a. I'm old and b. I'm probably not an ideal candidate. Plus, now that I'm older I want my eggs to be my babies.

DH and I have talked about this. I come from a scientific background, so to me, its a gift of life. I wouldnt sell my eggs to a random bank, but if a couple had no chance of conceiving, Id do it in a heartbeat-and Id probably only ask for any medical bills to be paid. I know that it would be "a part of you," but I and DH wouldnt have an issue with that. I also wouldnt have a problem with his donating to a friend in need

So I guess Id do it, but not jsut for the monetary gain. Id do it to help

I looked into it while I was in school and while I was the right height and weight, there wasn't a rush of people looking for black women eggs. Like YourSilverLining said, it's a lot of work. Some want GPA, SAT, ACT, etc scores, where you grew up, what your parents did for a living, how many sports you played, if you belonged to any extra clubs in high school/college, how active was your sex life (because potential mamas don't want no whores. lol)

In the end, I'm glad I didn't do it. I've heard horror stories about how it can really mess up your body.

No, but I would seriously consider donating my eggs to a family member or super close friend who may need them.

No. My babies and my donor babies would grow up meet, fall in love and have incestuous babies like a soap opera. No one wants that.

@Katydid I have always wondered what it might be like to donate. I hope Miss Adia can share her experience! I have a friend that has considered it and I would love to give her some first hand experience.

@chopsuey119: Oh I know right... I would hope they would just be friends or something... lol

@chopsuey119: Oh sick... I am pretty sure I would be creeped out beyond all measure if I found out I married my twin... *shivers*

@cyndistar3: @chopsuey119: Poor twins, realty is always crazier so if they didn't end up married they'd end up as some kind of cop and robber nemesis and end up in some double murder tragedy.

I commented in greater detail on the other linked post as I have gone through the stimulation and egg retrieval part of the process as part of IVF (but did not go through any donor screening). I will say that the medical risks to ovarian hyperstimulation are no joke and one needs to seriously research OHSS in order to fully understand the risks and learn how to mitigate the symptoms. This is in addition to the obvious emotional component that others have already discussed.

However, all of that said, anyone who does this is giving a couple the amazing gift of a chance to carry their own child, and that is admirable. Donor eggs & sperm have made countless beautiful families.