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Do you know you're invited and if the kids are invited? I certainly wouldn't book anything until and invitation was in hand. If they aren't, that's a really easy out.

31 weeks pregnant with 2 kids tagging along and transferring flights, I feel like that would be reason enough not to go, seriously, out of concerns for you. Even if we all have a great relationship, I def would put yours and your baby's health first.

Forgetting all the other issues, I personally wouldn't go at 31 weeks pregnant with a possibly medically complex baby. Just not worth the risk, for me.

(no judgement for anyone else who would, just my own personal choice).

NOPE. Didn't even need to see the other stuff, just that you will be 31 weeks pregnant, have had complicated deliveries previously, and this is your 3rd child.

I think since you haven't delivered early with your other pregnancies, your SO could go IF YOU WANTED HIM TO! but there is no reason you need to have that physical (and emotional!) stress of traveling with 2 small kids when you are that pregnant (and don't actively want to go!).

I’d skip it after #1, I wouldn’t feel weird, and I wouldn’t let anyone give you a guilt trip!

If my DH wanted me there I would go.

Heck no. We fly a ton with our toddler, but 5 hours is brutal and being that pregnant would be a hard pass. I’d bet your Doctor would agree (although I know lots of women fly past that point and I’m sure it’s generallyy safe). Send your SO alone and/or a big check.

I said no by #3

Pass

No I would not go. You had me at #1. If there’s even a chance you could end up with an extended NICU stay halfway across the country it’s not worth the risk to me. But this is coming from a two time NICU mama who has to travel to get to specialists we need so I have a different perspective. I would not take that risk regardless of how my husband felt.

Oh god no. I would not go.

I wouldn’t go. Just sounds like too much.

FWIW my BIL is getting married this fall and DH is going solo. I’ll be about a month back to work after maternity leave and it is just too expensive to fly all of us for a weekend.

@Ms. RV: have you asked your doctor? I wouldn’t be surprised if they really did just say no anyway and then it’s a moot point.

Even if you weren't high risk, I say don't go. If something were to happen, you would regret it. Even if it all went relatively smoothly, the stress of traveling that long with kiddos in tow, while pregnant is just way too much.

Nope, it would be a hard no from me. I wouldn't want to travel at 31 weeks even with a low risk pregnancy, let alone with a higher risk. I actually know a couple of people who have delivered doing this and ended up with an extended nicu stay far from home, with potentially complicated insurance implications. I decided for my last pregnancy that I wouldn't fly in the third trimester, not against others doing it but the risks aren't worth it for me...

Another no vote here. In addition to the pregnancy concerns, it sounds like you barely know them as a couple and there isn't much of a relationship. I don't think either you or they will regret you not going.

OMG NO WAY. 31 weeks pregnant, two young children, and family drama? I wouldn’t go if even ONE of these conditions existed! This is not even a close one.