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That was super interesting! I don't know if I have the strength to do what she did, but this whole thing is in line with my philosophy on marriage, which is basically that it will have up and downs, and you just have to wait out the bad times until the good ones come back. I think her husband was a s*** for putting his family through that, but I can see why she did what she did.

@pui: Thank you for sharing this! I LOVED reading it & am so glad to see such an example of what love it! It totally made me cry but for reasons of joy & not b/c it's sad. And I loved how she realized that HER happiness was not reliant on him or any other circumstance for that matter. It was completely up to what she allowed herself to think & do! I think if more of us took THIS approach there would be alot less divorce in the world & we'd all be happier!

I know I would stay... probably not nearly as "cleanly" and adult like as she did but I hope that as I mature I might get closer to a reaction like that. Love is an action word & to be in love is circumstantial. I certainly don't hope to ever hear those words from my husband but at the same time know that it's unrealistic to think we'll always feel head over heels "in love" with one another. Some seasons will be all about love in action & that's totally what she did!

I love what you added too b/c it is SO true! That love isn't forced, it's just there in action. From afar waiting if it needs to be, but always there.

Reading this totally made my morning... now off to share on FB! =)

@pui: Yes! I didn't read the article, but I don't need to in order to know how I would react. I'm not giving up. I don't deserve the perfect husband (impossible anyway) anymore than I deserve salvation.

This is very interesting to me, I don't think I would have the strength to last 6 months of him coming, going, neglecting family like she did. I have a temper and I think holding my tongue for so long would be hard.

However, I do agree that she made it be his decision, and I would like to think I would do the same thing. That I would allow him to decide for himself and I would try to be mature for our family, but wow it would be hard! We both agree we married for life so I would think we would both fight for our marriage and it wouldn't get to this point, but of course you just never know.

No, screw that! Good for that woman but I would never do that!

I can't answer because I can't imagine, but:
That's pretty shitty of someone to just stop loving someone who they loved for 20+ years and share children and a home with.

Thanks for sharing, I really enjoyed that!

This was the most amazing article I've read in a long time. I'm not sure I could have done that for 6 months. Just imagine how that would screw with someone's emotions and self esteem.

I've read that article, and my feeling is that, if DH said that to me, and stuck with it for 6 months, it would be really hard for me to heal after that. I would feel seriously betrayed and he would have to really make up for it. I just don't think I am strong enough to pull both of our weight in a marriage, even though I think in many ways it is admirable.

Thanks for sharing. I always thought walking away without a fuss was a sign of love, but this wife proves loving through the hurt is also love.

I hope I would also have the courage and strength to wait things out as well. Its easier to just be angry, hurt and walk away but I think it takes strength to stay

I'm not sure I would have the strength to be as level-headed and as patient as this woman but I would like to think that I would have the courage to fight back somehow without ever fighting. Of course, to be absolutely honest, I would probably be the husband and DH would probably be the wife. And I think -he- would act the way she had or some way very similar.