If you had a traumatic birth experience, but it wasn't necessarily your OB's fault, would you be inclined to switch? Or would you feel more comfortable staying with your OB since he/she knows your history?
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@grizz: I personally would want to stay with someone who knew my history, if I was planning to give birth again. That way we could have lot's of conversations about what happened and how to make it less traumatic next time.
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I think it would depend on the dynamic you and your OB have, and your gut instinct. I personally really like my OB/GYN and don't plan to ever switch.
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I really hate how my birth was handled. I felt really out of the loop with what was going on... My OB and all the nurses were very hush-hush. Whispering and having conversations in the hallway and such. Never told me how much danger DS was in until after he was born. I don't know if its because they didn't want to scare me or what. I work at the hospital where I delivered, and I've never felt the same around my OB again.
I don't have the option of switching to an OB I DON'T see at work, because pretty much every single one in the city has privileges at my hospital
My husband thinks I should stick with her because she knows the extent of what happened.
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@grizz: in that case I would switch. If you're not comfortable then you're not comfortable. You can always tell your new OB your history.
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@grizz: Ok I changed my answer based on your more recent post... yes, I would change. My birth was traumatic but my OB ended up not being on call, so she had zero to do with it.. plus they were very open about everything that was happening. In your case, yes, I would probably switch. Medical records transfer, and you can always fill in your new OB, or have her call, or something!
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@grizz: In your case, I'd switch. I don't think you should ever feel uncomfortable. I'd also make sure to advocate with yourself before your next birth and let your next provider know how much you want to be in the loop .
((HUG))
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I would switch since you weren't happy how she handled things. Do they transfer the info about the birth to the new OBGYN anyway?
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@MamaJ: I'm going to ask her how much information would be relayed to a new provider.
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@grizz: I think Id have to know why things were hush hush and whether that could change.
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I'm with @googly-eyes. I would want to know why things were hush hush. Have you spoken to her about it?
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@grizz: yeah I wasn't sure. I plan on switching. Only because mine ended up being sort of rude at the end.
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@grizz: You can get your medical record released from your OB. I know I was able to get my OP report, physical & history and hospital release papers to pass onto my new provider. You should totally go with someone that you can trust and feel comfortable around.
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Do you feel at a gut level that you trust your OB?
Were they hush-hush about extent of the danger your LO was in in order to conform to any birth plans you really wanted?
Most of all, do you feel that your OB acted with you and your LO's best interests at all times, even if you disagree about the method (i.e., the "hush-hush" talking).
I really trusted/trust my OB, so for me that is the biggest question. If you do, I would likely stay and just see if you can schedule some time to talk to him/her about your concerns/disappointments. If you don't trust your OB completely and have the option of looking for a new one, I would do that.
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After reading that you're not happy with how things were handled I would switch. Even if they know your history.
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I had to switch practices for my current pregnancy for insurance reasons. I was very reluctant to because there were some issues that came up at the end of my last pregnancy (nothing big but I was induced at 39 weeks) and I wanted to stay with the practice that was familiar with my history. Now that I am with the new group of OBs and midwives I am so happy that I made the switch. Although they were not involved with my last pregnancy, I have the understanding that it would probably have been handled differently and I would have at least had more options.
I don't want to sway your decision but it seems that you are not happy with the care you received from your current OB but are nervous about switching. My experience with switching has been a positive one, so I'm sure if that's what you decide you can also have a good outcome. -
I had a pretty tramatic birth and I would never switch from her, it wasn't her fault, she was there for me, she helped me make the call of a c-section, & I can't wait to use her next time.
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@grizz: I personally had a pretty traumatic birth experience, but wasn't at all the fault of my OB. My body just didn't do what it was supposed to. If anything, my OB saved LO's life. Because of this, if I'm lucky enough to have another, I'll be scheduling my C-section with him.
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@grizz: oooh...wait. I change my answer based on your recent post. If you didn't feel comfortable about the way the birth was handled, switch, and make your new OBGYN very aware of your history.
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@googly-eyes: @KT326: @yoursilverlining: I'm going to ask her at my next appointment, and then make the judgment call. When I got back from maternity leave, I had lunch with one of my postpartum nurses.... She said they were afraid of scaring me, since they all know me personally, and because I'd be aware of exactly how grave things were since I work in the field (although I'm a social worker).
I'm conflicted because I like her SO much. My birth was just a bad deal all around though....I think I'd be more fearful the second time around with her versus a different OB.
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hi @grizz,
I'd switch. =/ -
I am staying with the people who witnessed first hand what I went through with S. But, they didn't hide anything from me...yet there was nothing to hide. I DID switch out of the birth center...out of high risk and of being to traumatized to ever step foot in that building again. But, the hospital OB, midwives and staff were great, considering the circumstances. I was happy to walk in to my first prenatal with them for this pregnancy, and they knew exactly who I was, what I went through and they are ready to help me through my third trimester with this baby. They know what we're up against. I didn't have to explain myself or my history. They were just ready.
But, I'd want to find out answers, too...if you're not happy with things. If they also say it was to protect you, like your friends say, then tell them that next time you'd rather be informed about everything upfront than learn the reality after the fact. If they continue to say they give info on a need to know basis, then I'd switch.
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For me personally, it would be inexcusable for my provider to hide things from me and not allow me to be fully involved in my care and the decisions that were being made. So if it were me, I'd have had a long, no-holds-barred discussion with her at the first opportunity and switched immediately if I didn't like the outcome. However, I know other people are more willing to take a backseat and let the doctor call all the shots...that's just not how I roll. But if you're not comfortable with this particular doctor, I think that's a really good reason to switch.
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I think it depends on the situation. If your OB was open and honest with you and seems proactive in your care then I would stay. As long as there is a good line of communication and you feel as though you can trust them, I would stay.
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@grizz: Rather than switching straight away, could you meet with your OB to go over your birth experience and discuss your feelings? If you're still uncomfortable after speaking with her then that's probably a good indication you should make the switch.
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Switching is still going to be weird because you'll still see her in the hospital. I feel like either way it's going to require a conversation so you might as well do it up front and in good faith. Then, if she's a jerk about it, you can switch in good conscience.
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I had a similar experience and switched!
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I think that if you don't trust her 100% then I would switch. I wouldn't want to go through a whole pregnancy and then L&D having questions about whether I would be kept in the loop.
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I definitely think you should talk to her. You have options, babe. You could elect for a c-section and take a huge chunk of the fear out of the factor. You like her, and she had the reasons for doing what she did. If they jive with you, great. If not, find a provider that will.
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