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DH has said in the past that if he had the chance, he would love to be a stay at home dad. However, right now he is the primary breadwinner, so it's just not possible. It does warm my heart to know that he is willing though!

My husband would love to be a SAHD. I do happen to bring more income home than he does but not significantly so. The only way I'd be comfortable with my husband being a SAHD is if I made at the same amount of income as we do while we are both working (neither of us want to give up our current standard of living). However, if I did get double my current salary, I'd be absolutely fine with my husband staying home and taking care of our son.

@daniellemybelle: As someone who always was the breadwinner, I see that my husband stuggles with the traditional thinking that he needs to provide for our family. I tell him that he still helps me out and I would be lost without his help. He may not help out financially but he does his part by helping out around the house.

As for the kid part, I actually think he will be a better father than I will be a mother. There will be times I will be more caring because of that mother-child bond. I grew up in an Asian family who very very strict and distant emotionally. Plus, I'm a workaholic so I'm afraid I will have a lot of catching up to do if I will be a good mother.

I just don't think we'll ever be in the situation financially where I am making so much money that it would be feasible for him to stay home. If I made big time bucks, we'd probably just both work and have a nanny at home. It has been a life dream of mine to be a SAHM for years, so we will probably be making some sacrifices to our lifestyle to do so. We definitely wouldn't if the situation was reversed. It just isn't a dream of his, and he really enjoys working outside of the home and being successful in the workplace. I don't think he'd be happy at home.

DH says that he'd LOVE to be a SAHD...he would love to be able to spend time with our LO and really be super involved. I think he'd enjoy it way more when LO is 3+, rather than when he's a baby though--Dh thinks babies are kind of boring Of course, it's never going to happen because I will never make enough to make it possible! So unless he makes enough to retire early, I'm going to the the SAH parent.

The hubby was a SAHH (stay at home hubby) a few years back when he was "deciding what to do next". I was the breadwinner, and honestly. I kind of liked it! The house was always clean, chores were always taken care of, etc. I just left him a list of to-do's and by the time I came home from work - ta da!!

Apparently, the hubby really enjoyed it as well. He's been half joking that when I get promoted to Manager (which I did a few weeks ago), he'd sell the store and be a SAHH again. What a goober! I trust he'll do a great job being a SAHD because he absolutely LOVES kids and has had the baby fever years ago (I didn't even have baby fever yet!), but I want to be a SAHM for a lil while once we start having kids. Realistically, I'll be a WOHM and so will the hubby. Guess we'll just have to wait and see!

DH works at home now and jokes that he'll just transition to a WAHD. Only thing is he has no idea how much time the baby will take. I think he thinks babies sleep all day and don't really require care. Also, he sucks at housework (sorry honey.)

No waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!! He has no interest in that. It would just be a disaster, lol.

We've actually put this as a real possibility for when we have our last.
I am the primary breadwinner in the family so I just can't stop working.
He has a disability so he would still get his disability money each month just not additional employment income.
We'd be able to save on daycare which is a huge expense when you already have 2 LO's.
He's all for it and I'm totally fine with it. I'm not the type to want to be a SAHM and he does most of the housework now so it really wouldn't change much. He just wouldn't work through out the week outside of the home.
It would work for us.

I think we would both be inclined to say he would be fine with it and even enjoy it. The childcare part, that is. And he could probably learn how to do the housework as well. But we are both very traditional and conservative very deep down and i know we would both struggle with it as life roles. I think I would resent the pressure of being breadwinner, and he would have a complex about not contributing financially. Not to menton I'm so type A with all the tasks of childcare and housekeeping.

If I were more of a careerwoman, maybe it would work. But I only work to provide money. My career is not my passion.. My family is. So I think Wagon Sr. Could adjust, with some issues to deal with of course, but I would not.

This is the perspective after almost 7 years of marriage, 18 months as a SAHM, and 9 months as a WOHM.

Oh... Wagon Sr. Was a SAHH (stay at home hubby!) for almost a year while he went to school... The house was never clean and he did not cook!! The only difference was he drove me to work.

DH is a WAHD - his job allows him to work mostly from home and the few times he does stop into his work, he can bring DS. So far it's been great for us. I can continue my job, go home and see them for lunch and DH continues on doing what he does. The only things he misses out on is the part time teaching job he used to do on top of everything else.

I have all the faith that DH will be a great father, however a SAHD is not in his comfort zone. And his lack of attention to details/housework would stress me out! I trust him with our LO when she arrives, however I don't think this would be a good fit for us at all!!!

I don't know. I'll have to ask him when he comes home from a business trip. But really, I can't see it ever being an option. He makes almost double my salary.

My husband does not have the patience to be a SAHD. They'd all be just playing video games all day.

I decided to skip the comments for now but wanted to tell you that it's been great. Did mr jacks always do things the way I wanted? No. But that's totally ok. In the early days there were times I came home to Lala in pjs for goodness sake. But after a while he found his own way and rhythm... And now he's better at getting two kids and a dog ready for a walk.

Sure, he doesn't do things the way I would, but let's face it, I'm a control freak anyway.

I married this man in part because he'd be an excellent dad! So I had great faith he could do it!

You should have your honey talk to mine if he's interested because Mr has lots of insight to share!

On our block alone, there are four sahds. One because he'd been laid off and three as an intentional family decision.

It has truly been a wonderful thing for us, even as Mr looks toward re-entering the work force soon!

My hubs has said since before we got married that he'd happily be a sahd (though I can't imagine that it wouldn't really be a wahd since he's a little bit of a workaholic!)

@Mrs. Jacks - that's great advice! We kind of do that now, believe it or not, so I completely agree with you. We have our assigned household tasks - and there is NO criticism or micromanaging allowed when it comes to the other persons tasks.

We dream of freeing ourselves from the 9-5 grind completely and making our own schedules. So yes, I can imagine that my husband would be open to the idea of being a WAHD, like I'll be a WAHM.

@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks for the advice! I appreciate hearing about how it works for others, which just bolsters my confidence that it will work wonderfully for us come October.