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@Coco Bee: Yeah, I mean obviously we all feel terrible for her, but we just feel so sad for her girls. She is leaving them with her parents all the time. I just feel like they must feel so sad and abandoned.

I agree, it's sad.

I know a lot of friends that have been together forever and having kids just changed their relationship...

I also have a friend who is going through a divorce. They have a three year old.... and one day he came home and told her (my friend, not their daughter) that he has a girlfriend. Awful! He was actually married when he met this girl so it wasn't a huge surprise to most people because he had already done something just like this, just no kid last time.

I just try to ask her to hang out as much as possible. I know she lost a lot of her friends when she was married because nobody liked him so they didn't want to hang out with them. I know when I invited them to parties I would always hope he wouldn't be able to come.

I agree that divorce is heartbreaking at any age, although its more shocking when they are still within the first few years of marriage

Yeah, I know a few friends who got divorced a few years after getting married.

It is sad but sometimes a relationship just doesn't work.

My DH and I are going through a rough time, right now. I don't know what our future will be. I hope it works out. But, please don't judge. It's a horrible feeling and really hard on me that I even have to think of the D word.

That is really sad. I have a friend who got divorced while she was pregnant. She was 21 at the time.

Divorce is sad but I think it's worse to stay in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. If your friend is happy/relieved about her divorce then you should be happy for her as well. We all make mistakes (some bigger than others) and it's always great to have friends who support you no matter what.

I'd give her a call and schedule some girl time to celebrate/commiserate. Maybe a mani/pedi, wine tasting, or spa day?

@bluestriped bee: Hugs. We went through a really tough transition right after DD was born; if you ever wanna talk, I'll PM you my email.

i'm not sure if I have any advice as to how...but I agree with you that you should see her. A divorce can make people feel so alone, so knowing that you're her friend and you're there for her despite the fact that she's divorced will mean a lot.

@bluestriped bee: DH told me a few weeks ago that he thought we might need to split. We are since working on some things but if you want to PM feel free to wall me!

@Coco Bee: aw thank you! I think he's just overwhelmed with a baby so young, but wasn't verbalizing his worries, so after a huge talk we are doing better. It's such a sick feeling though imagining divorce!

If I had gotten married when I was in my early 20's, I know for sure I would be divorced now. I was just too immature to be married...I was busy living it up in NYC.

Deciding to end a relationship is tough at any age, I really think it's more about maturity and stage of life more than just age.

@bluestriped bee: I'm so sorry things are rough. To be honest you aren't alone. Like you the D word scares me. But the idea of being a single mom even more. Take it one day at a time and know whatever you decide is the best option for you.

My husband was married at 22 and their marriage only lasted about two years. It was especially hard because they were Mormon. It just wasn't the right fit though. His ex is also remarried now and she's expecting her first child too!

Divorce is hard. We had the Divorce talk within our first year of marriage. We even got to the point of splitting assets. However we made it through it and I think our relationship is better for it now. We have more open communication and a better understanding of each other's needs.

I have a friend who is 22 and has been divorced twice. Kind of bizarre.