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Oh my gosh. This article was very well written and completely devastating. This is a HUGE fear of mine.

It's one of the reasons that I get so anxious when someone else has my kids. I dont think I could forgive my husband, mom, MIL etc if this happened while they had the kids. I know I couldn't forgive myself.

This article haunted me when I first read it, even though I was many years away from having kids. Wrenching.

@Mrs. Sketchbook: I didn't realize the link went to page 5 until I'd read the whole page 5 -

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549.html?sid=ST2009030602446

here is the start if anyone else is sleepy like me.

I really wish I could un-read the "worst case" that that woman had ever heard of (or the detail at least". This is one of my constant phobias too. Oof. Thanks for sharing.

I remember this article. It's one of those things you can never unsee/read, but I think it's one that we all need to read, just so we'll remember.

I've actually thought about having my mom read this, for when we visit her and she has LO.

I read this a few years ago and sobbed at my desk at work. This is one of my biggest fears and even though L is now 2 and much more awake/talkative in the car I feel like I'm always double and triple-checking.

i couldn't finish it. so scary that this could happen to anyone.

This is also timely in the summer (obvs. not hypothermia) but heat related as well.

Oh man, i can't read this.

When i was driving E to daycare, she was SO QUIET in the back, that i had to look over my shoulder to remind myself that she was there. It was such an unnerving feeling.

I actually put my lunchbox or purse in the backseat now. Mostly b/c it's out of my way, but i guess it's a secondary reminder, too

I've read this before. It's a huge fear of mine, especially because it's SO hot 9 months out of the year here. I have actually made it a point to tilt my rear-view mirror so that I can see her at all times, while still having a clear view of the back window. (Everyone tries to correct it).

Ugh, this is my worst fear, somehow killing my lo. I think one advantage I have is very rarely ever will I have only one kid.

I read this when it came out, long before even thinking of having kids, and will never forget it. It's why I never rush to judge a parent when this happens, unless there is clear negligence. One little change in routine, one extra tired or rushed day and it could happen to anyone. Heartbreaking.

@Dagny: My husband and I have an agreement that whoever drops LO off at day care takes a picture at drop off to send to the other parent. It helps us keep in check because if I haven't seen a text from my husband by about 8:30 I call him to make sure he dropped her off safely. It's also just nice to get pictures of her every morning : )

This is a huge fear of mine. I worried myself sick about it over the summer when my husband sometimes took LO to daycare. We were always changing our schedule of who would take her and what days she would go, so there was no routine or reason for daycare to miss her. I showed this article to be husband, but he still thought I was being neurotic. he refused to call my after drop off because he didn't want to encourage my worrying. So basically I invented every reason under the sun to call DH or the daycare to casually ask a out something and make sure she arrived safely. With myself, I made a point to put my purse in the back and I set an alarm on my phone to ring every morning after drop off time w/ a reminder to make she she was at daycare.

I'm less worried right now because Im the only who takes her and I'm pretty paranoid/careful. I do think I will talk to her current daycare about calling me if she doesn't show up.

@PawPrints: I felt the same way when I first read it, years before I had a child of my own. I think of this story daily, especially because my husband is in charge of daycare drop-off. It's my biggest fear that he'll forget one day.

@PawPrints: what kills me is that one guy who did have a motion sensor but thought it was malfunctioning so he turned it off.

@scg00387: yeah that "worst case" part haunts me so much.

@Dagny: other options are to leave a stuffed toy in the car seat. When you buckle your LO in, you move the toy to the front seat as a reminder that your child is in the back. Or I've heard people using a string or bungee cord where it would block them from getting out of the car as a mental reminder your child is in the back. I personally put my purse in the backseat.

@Pepper: the same thing happened to me- it was like after reading it I became forever tainted with saddness and worry. It is literally the saddest thing I have ever heard of and it bring fears directly to the core of my bones.
Forgetfulness can happen to ANYone. It is just so so scary. God forbid it.