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Something like this came up awhile ago on the Boards and many people said stay out of it. However, I think baby safety is paramount. I would send your friend a FB message and likely direct him to your message with a wall post or post on the actual pic. Then just give him facts in the message. No judgnent just information.

I think about how my husband would react, which would probably be annoyed. Not that he doesn't want correct information, but he would have a super difficult time seeing past the "calling out" part.

When I had concerns that our son's infant seat wasn't at the correct angle, I had to show him that it was literally not angled correctly with a piece of paper. Then he got it, so everyone is different.

Id mind my own business. You dont know that he didn't fix it immediately after taking the picture. I'd be insulted if someone messaged me insinuating that I dont know what Im doing. This is a coworker.... so it's probably best not to piss him off.

If you feel like you have to take some kind of action, just post an article about car seat safety on your facebook wall.

I probably wouldn't say anything but if I did do anything I would send a private message and say I am sure you know this but just in-case I wanted to pass along. And I would link to a site where it shows how to have the straps correctly.

@Adira: I really, honestly wouldn't say anything directly to him. Most people I know would be pretty angry. Take the passive route and just be really annoying posting carseat stuff for the next couple weeks.

I guess I forgot to add that I wouldn't say anything.

I agree with the general consensus of staying out of it, I think if anything I would send him a private message saying Congrats, I know this parenting thing can be overwhelming in the beginning here are a few things I wish I had known and just offer a few basic tidbits like the car seat safety, aden & anais blankets are awesome, white noise is a miracle tool etc. Make it light but helpful?

I wouldn't say anything. I know if it was my DH, he would be pissed. Plus, you don't know if they tightened them after the pic was taken.

I took a pic of DS in his new convertible car seat in the house before we installed in in the truck and someone wrote "he's too young to be forward facing, I thing doing a little research would change your opinion too :)". Umm it wasn't even in the vehicle yet! Of course my 8 month old would continue to be rear facing, I was super annoyed. You never know the whole context of a photo.

@locavore_mama: I wrote "just trying it out, when we do install it, it will obviously be rear facing" but I wanted to say "are you effing stupid? It's not even in the vehicle...see that wall in the background? How bout the edge of our couch?"

In your specific situation I wouldn't. I wouldn't say anything to anyone I don't have direct contact with on a normal basis. Like PPs said, you have o real way of knowing if the pic was taken pre adjustment. If it was a close coworker or friend, I might try to find a way to bring it up in conversation, something like 'Oh one of the hardest things for me in the beginning was learning all the carseat safety rules...I ended up using this website and it was great/going to the fire station for an inspection and it helped a lot!' etc.

i'm not saying that YOU specifically should say something but the pp's comments about pissing off your friend bother me. i agree, you are likely to offend him by correcting him but at what point does a child's safety become more important than someone's feelings?

it's one thing when you see an adult doing something unsafe that would only affect them, such as riding a bike without a helmet, but it's totally different when it's a child that has no say in the matter...

you have to do what you're comfortable with.

@Adira: I would probably send a message saying congrats and an invite to the Car Seats for the Littles fb group and any other parenting links or resources you like. And just say something like 'I learn so much on this so I send it to all my new parent friends.'

My friends have sent me links and book recs and I don't feel judged or anything, just helped!