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@bluestriped bee: I'd totally stalk. However, my sister and I do not have a good relationship to begin with. We are very different and I often wonder what she is thinking, so finding her on a message board would be fascinating. I would also not be surprised at all to find her venting about me.
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I think I would try to ignore it and let it go. I would try to not stalk but I know curiosity would get the best of me.
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I would be highly tempted to stalk, but would have to either tell her or not look - it would make me really tense having read stuff about myself that I wasn't able to discuss with her!
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@.twist.: Oh, really? Was it bad what guys talk about? My DH makes fun of me because of my forum use and he says he would have no idea what to talk about if he was on a forum. He just doesn't understand the forum life! Haha!
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@MrsRoo: That's pretty cool. I think I would do the same here if my sister came here.
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@spaniellove: That's true that I can't unsee something. She and I used to talk a lot about my TTC journey. She knows all the abbrevations from her site and she is really supportive of my IF journey. I've been very quiet since I found out from FF that she is pregnant. I'm happy for her but I think the hardest part is understanding my reaction to it. I don't know how I will take it when she tells me. I think that is what scares me and makes me not want have that conversation with her. Sometimes I wish I didn't have IF and I could be a normal person reacting to pregnancy announcements. Plus, it's always hard when it's family getting pregnant.
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@blackbird: Yeah, with my memory, I probably would forget.
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@Kimberlybee: Yeah, I'm glad we are on good terms, too. With our personalities, it can definitely turn bad quick. So I limit my interaction with my sister just because she can be so opinionated. But generally, I think I'm good at filtering what I say around her.
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I would do my best to avoid the forum and not stalk. Easier said than done sometimes but I had a former co-worker do that to me - found my twitter user name somehow (to this day I don't know how), got to my HB user name through it (although not exactly the same) and then proceeded to read lord knows how many posts and comments on mine, including on the IF threads. It was the worst feeling ever when I found out. I felt like someone read my diary (and I realize this is the internet...). COold she have used a different user name? Sure but hindsight is 20/20 sometimes.
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@Mrs.Someone: I don't *think* I've bad mouthed anyone in my family or friends on HB. I've been around on forums where it can bite you in the ass. And I know these boards are not private so anyone (I know) could be stalking or reading my comments. I think I'm pretty good with seeing both sides of the story if I do vent about a topic.
So if my friend or family found me on here, I don't think I would be ashamed. I might be ashamed that I have nearly 10,000 comments on here and no LO to show for it.
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@googly-eyes: @Happygal: True!
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@cmomma17: Yeah, my sister and I can have very different viewpoints, so I know she doesn't understand me all the time and it's true for me and my other sisters. We all gossip between each other. Luckily, right now, my parents are stealing the show with our disapproval so my siblings and I are all mostly getting along.
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@bluestriped bee: I'm not saying you'd badmouth her at all, I'm just saying that you may have said some things that you would prefer to keep private from family, just as she would. However, I don't know that I would be able to keep from reading myself, even if I think its the right thing to do!
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@Mrs.Someone: Ah, ok. I can understand your point.
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@bluestriped bee: I'd probably stalk, but that's just because I'd have no willpower to "forget" about it. I also wanted to send hugs your way. Back when I found out that my sister was pregnant it was right at the breaking point between my final natural cycle and jumping into Clomid. I was a wreck when she told me. Too much to go into here - but we honestly didn't talk to one another for a good 5 months. I couldn't handle it - it was mostly my doing. We are repairing our friendship now. I think it is one of the hardest things to find out that your sister is pregnant while you are still struggling.
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@sweetooth: Thank you!! I'll wall you a follow-up.
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@bluestriped bee: I guess you know deep down what you what to do, since you already kinda stalked her to find her on that forum. And I'm so sorry for you that you had to find out she is pregnant that way.
It sucks not hearing things first hand from siblings.
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@Boogs: oh, I'm not mad. I knew she was pregnant through FF. i dont think she remembered that I got her name and have been following each other. I didnt start using FF until recently. So she just forgot. She had a m/c a few years ago and so I know she's keeping the news to herself just in case. Then add in my infertility, so she trying to figure how to tell me. When she had her pregnancy and m/c before she told me immediately. My infertility really complicates things. I'm sure I would have known by now.
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@bluestriped bee: That's nice at least that she's being sensitive towards you. It would be awesome if things worked out for you soon and the two of you could be pregnant together!
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@Boogs: Yeah, it would.
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@bluestriped bee: I forgot to ask, if the tables were turned how would you feel about being found here?
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@Boogs: I wouldn't mind but from my history on forums, I know that anyone can be reading my responses and stalking me. I don't have anything to hide. I don't think I'm that opinionated (other than my IF views) and phrase my responses to not offend anyone (including friends and family). The only thing is that I would be embarrassed about is that I have nearly 10,000 comments and no history of being pregnant. Might look as though I'm TTC obsessed but people who know me know that I have have IF.
I really like the community here so it's a great forum to be a part of. I want my own space but I know that if anyone came upon HB, they would love it here, too.
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@bluestriped bee: Well there ya go, maybe she won't mind that you found her either.
It sucks not hearing things first hand from siblings.
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