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We are both introverts.

I am 100% an introvert and he is 100% an extrovert. He understands that social situations can exhaust me, so he doesn't get upset if I don't want to do something. Honestly, having kids is a great excuse to get out of things sometimes, haha. But, it's never really been a problem for us and he's fine in social situations alone.

We're opposites. This is nice for me because I can let DH handle a lot of the social stuff. I don't know if there's any benefit to DH of having an introverted wife but I suppose it would be exhausting even for him if I constantly wanted to talk his ear off.

@Anagram: Yes we are opposites and no we don't agree on social situations all the time, haha. Usually I say yes to most events to which I am invited and DW comes with me maybe half the time.

I am the introvert, my husband is extrovert. Though I think he has gotten more introverted as he has aged, or less dependent on socializing / social affirmation.

My DH is a true introvert and I am more extroverted but I have anxiety about certain types of social situations (basically doing anything with anyone new) and am kind of a homebody. But with my own, established friends I am relatively extroverted. Anyway, my need to socialize and his ability to handle it are relatively equal so it works out ok.

The negative thing about it is that we haven’t really made any friends where we live now because I am too anxious about it and he doesn’t really feel the need.

DH and I are opposites. It’s worked out well since we’ve had kids because he wants to go out and I’m fine staying home, so long as he helps get the kids to bed first. On weekends, I like going out as a family and doing things, so that’s not an issue. I think the reason we don’t have an issue being opposites is that we are both independant and don’t mind doing our own thing 50% of the time.

I'm more of an introvert and DH is more of an extrovert. But he is kind of a homebody. He does a lot of socializing with our neighbours, especially when the weather is nice.

I'm an introvert and my husband is an extrovert. We don't have any issues with social situations because we're both homebodies. We're fairly young and most of our friends don't have children - so they're still going out, staying up late, etc. and we'd rather just drink a glass of wine and be in bed by 9

I'm very extroverted, and he's introverted. However, it took me a while to figure out that he's truly an introvert. He enjoys social activities and is great at meeting people and chatting with them. He just needs downtime alone to recharge. And even though I'm extroverted, I'm shy around new people. So he's actually better in new situations than I am, because he's not shy at all. So overall, I feel like we balance each other out and generally have similar social preferences.

I'm kind of an ambivert? At the very least, I'm the most extroverted introvert you've ever met I need alone time to recharge, but my social battery drains very, very slowly.

DH is absolutely, unequivocally an introvert. Social battery drains quickly, needs a lot of recharge time.

We're both more introverted, but in different ways. I'm better at making small talk in cocktail party type scenarios, he's better at keeping in touch and maintaining friendships long term. I get restless if we're just sitting around home, but I think that comes out of parenting--I know lo1 especially starts acting up if she doesn't have any gross motor activity time

I am an extrovert and DH is an introvert. He is happy to spend time at home and I need to be out doing things and being social. We came to an agreement when dating that I would not be upset if he opted to skip a social event and he would not guilt me into staying home.

He has more fun when out with an established group of friends and I honestly enjoy myself more when he is comfortable. I do plenty of things on my own and it strikes a good balance for us.

I am an introvert in a client-facing job, so while I am completely able to function socially (like people are surprised when they find out I'm an introvert), it takes a lot out of me and I need a lot of time at home, alone if possible, to recharge or my mental health begins to suffer.

DH is a lot more extroverted than I am and enjoys being around people, but he doesn't really go out and do stuff. Like, he doesn't have hobbies. Also we don't really have anyone to help us with our kids, so its basically all hands on deck all the time at home for us. He talks to clients all day long and then has to interact with his kids in the evenings, so he actually likes having some quiet down time at night.

@nutmeg36: haha, ambivert is a great way to describe it! Sounds like me, I'm not necessarily going to make the first move, but I'm really social and decent at making small talk once I'm thrust into a situation. My DH is definitely more of an introvert than I am, but does a good job at being social when called upon.

@Anagram: this is so interesting because I’m the complete opposite (and hubby too). I’m a strong introvert and I hate being home. Because I’m an introvert I have a hard time doing things my daughter loves like playing pretend, tea parties, etc, so structured activities give me more to work with from a social perspective. My husband is a strong extrovert (as is my daughter) and they love staying home and playing nonstop. If I didn’t have a huge guilt complex about it, I’d take regular advantage of this and doing my own introverted things but mostly I end up feeling bad and then having a crappy day forcing myself to be a good mom who plays with dolls lol

I honestly don't know how I would define myself, let alone my husband.

At the end of the day, I can handle certain things during my on time, but then on the weekends, I want a break from the hustle and bustle. I prefer situations where it's not crowded during my down time (I commute during the week and basically refuse to do that on the weekends, no matter how fabulous the social opportunity).