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@tequiero21: thanks! Hoping she has a boy, too!
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@bluestriped bee: In your case I would use the name. Hopefully she will be understanding if you both have girls.
BTW, how do you pronounce Lana? Does it rhyme with Hannah?
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@Leialou: Thanks and yup, that's how we pronounce it.
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I think it's totally fine. I don't have any claim on the name I gave to my daughter just because she was born before my friend's daughter. I had a dear friend ask me if it would be okay if she named her daughter the same name as mine a couple weeks ago - I think it was sweet of her to ask, but not necessary.
@bluestriped bee: If your friend does end up having a girl and uses Lana, I agree with T.H.O.U. that you shouldn't ask her permission. If she says no, it will only create an even harder situation. I would probably explain to her that you're using the same name and why, but don't leave it open for debate.
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@bluestriped bee: my name rhymes with Hannah too.
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I think it's fine - if you were having a LO a month after her and used the same name, that might be a bit weird, but other than that, no big deal. And like @T.H.O.U. Said, I would definitely not ask her permission. If/when that situation occurs, just tell her that Lana has always been a name you've loved and you are planning on using it for your little girl. End of story.
Our LO has a common name and I'm always flattered when I see someone else naming their baby that. I just think yes, you have great taste in names!
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I wouldn't be bothered, either. I love DS' s name, and would be flattered. You also never know how the future will play out. I would hate to avoid a name I love because a friend used it only to have myself or the friend end up moving away or something. I also wouldn't want to do that to someone else.
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@Ree723: Thank you!
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I would be annoyed at first but I would quickly get over it and enjoy the fact that the name we choose was so great that they wanted it too.
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Anyone else?
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I would be pretty annoyed, yes, but also flattered, and I would get over it. It also depends on how close the friend is... and it would bother me more if it were a family member.
Honestly, I'm just hoping no one uses our name before she is born! Then people can name their kids whatever they want.
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@bluestriped bee: This is tough situation. Personally, I'm lucky in that my close friends have either told me the names they love long before I was ever married so I never thought of those names as possibilities or they chose names that I'm not into. I do have a friend that is having a boy a couple months before me and I'm kind of nervous she will take our frontrunner boy name but we'll see. Honestly, if you love it, use it. I'm going to hope she has a boy so you don't even have to worry about it.
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i might think it's weird if it was maybe 0-4 months (just a random hazard of a guess) after the birth of my daughter (we didn't tell the name until she was born) but honestly, if a friend came to me now and said she was going to name her kid my kid's name, i would be fine! i don't think i would personally do it if it were a close friend, but i was never super attached to a name!
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So in most cases, I would think it was weird if one of my good friends happened to name their baby the same name as we're going to use. But I've been on the other side of it too - we struggled for a while and had our girl name picked out and no matter what if we ever have a girl, she's going to be that name.
If it was me and a friend came to me and explained that they had the name picked out for a long time and it was "the" name, I wouldn't mind. But if I didn't hear an explanation, I'd assume they just liked it when they heard us use it and I'd be annoyed.
Either way, I'd probably talk to her now. Because if she has a boy, and then you get pregnant with a girl, she might think you're "stealing" her favorite girl name anyways.
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Haha maybe I'm strange, but I'd be super tickled and excited if someone decided to name their LO the same name:) just means they have a great taste in names;)!!
Also growing up I always thought it was exciting when I found someone with the same name as me.
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@tysonja: thanks!
I told my DH about this poll when it was leaning towards being not okay. He just didn't understand it. I'm glad the poll is leaning the other way now.
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Our girl name is not super popular right now either (Lydia), so I would be kind of leery if a friend all of a sudden wanted to use it. However, we are not sharing names until the baby is born, so it shouldn't be an issue. You want to use it after that, have at it. Our boy name is slowly becoming more popular, so it wouldn't surprise me (Everett).
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I honestly don't think I'd mind. If they love the name, by all means use it, won't hurt my feelings. If anything, just shows we both have good taste
Eta: my brother & cousin both have the same name & it didn't cause any issues/drama...their having the same name is something that rarely crosses my mind.
@mrsdoily Your current girl name is actually my name. Definitely don't hear it often!
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@MrsKoala: Thanks. I'm hoping she has a boy.
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I said no, but it's mostly because the name we will likely use is not common. I think it depends on how close friends you are, how common the name is, and even geographic location! If you aren't in the same state or together often it's way less of a big deal. I think it's definitely more an issue with more unique names though for sure.
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I would be okay with it in theory but I would really rather they didnt
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@T.H.O.U.: @tequiero21: @owlmom: @MrsCB: @Leialou: @Ree723: Uh oh... is this foreshadowing of what's instore for me? My close friend posted on FB that she would be pissed if Kate Middleton names her LO the names that she has chosen.
Not a good sign if she is worried about a very distant celebrity taking her names. I wonder if I should say something now but she's 40+ weeks pregnant. I'm sure she does not want to deal with it now. Need to be patient and wait it out.
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@bluestriped bee: Maybe wait until you get pregnant. At 40 weeks I bet she's not going to take it well, and she might be more reasonable once the baby's here. Like I said, I would definitely talk to her either way at some point, but maybe now isn't the best time.
It could also be that she doesn't want the name becoming super popular and having 5 in every class. I'd be more OK with one friend naming their baby my son's name, than having a name that all of a sudden shoots up in popularity and looking like I jumped on a band wagon instead of having it picked for a long time.
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@MrsCB: Ah, good point on the name becoming too popular. Yeah, definitely going to wait on telling her. I'm thinking at 3 or 6 months? I live out of state so I don't think I'll see her or the baby soon, well unless I get a job interview soon.
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I would wait to talk to her about it when it becomes an issue. Like when you get pregnant and you are having a girl. I wouldn't ask permission either. I would just say that was the name you'd always had picked out and that's what you're naming your girl.
I wouldn't have any problems if a close friend, acquaintance, family member or anyone named their kid the same as mine. I don't own rights to his name and I think I would actually be happy that someone close to me likes the name.
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I wouldn't be thrilled but I wouldn't say anything, not my place to dictact what they name their child!
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@mrskc: You think telling her before I get pregnant would be a bad idea? We might start the adoption process soon, so I will have no idea how long it will be before I have a child. She knows we have been trying for a long time and maybe it will give time to get used to the idea. I guess I want her to know that we've had this name chosen for a long time now. I thought it was 2 years but DH corrected me and said it's been 4 years. DH is not at all bothered by others using the same names.
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@bluestriped bee: I wouldn't tell until you suspect it might be an issue. We're not telling our friends whose LO has the name similar to our boy name at all. If we come home from the hospital with a boy, we'll explain at that time...even if they mind, it's not going to affect our decision, so why bother opening that can of worms earlier than necessary?
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@bluestriped bee: I guess to me why bring up the issue before it's an issue? hey hopefully she has a boy and you don't have to worry! And I really hope you get a baby of your own real soon whether adopted or biological.
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@mrskc: Yeah, but a part of me wonders if she has a boy, that her girl name will always be an option for any future daughters she has. Ugh, why does this have to be an issue and why does having infertility suck!
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@bluestriped bee: That's true.
I guess no matter what the convo might be a little awkward. I definitely wouldn't talk to her about it while she's still pregnant and I would wait for the dust to settle after she has the baby, if you really want to talk to her about it sooner rather than later. But if she has a boy and you talk to her about it, she may see that as you "claiming" the name in a way... which I always found to be annoying. I don't know.... I think I would still wait until you know you're going to have a girl. If you become pregnant, will you be team green? And I'm sorry you have to deal with infertility. It must be so hard.
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@bluestriped bee: are you living in a different state? If so, I totally think its a moot point. Cuz they won't even be seeing each other much, u know? Also, how is she pronouncing Lana? I don't pronounce it like Hannah, but pronounce it lah-na, like the tv series.... I think pronunciation differing is also a difference.
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@tequiero21: well right now we are in a different state but I'm job hunting now so I might be in the same state or at least a closer state.
We are pronouncing Lana like Lah-na.
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@mrskc: yeah, it will be an awkward convo. I would hope she doesn't think that I'm claiming the name because we aren't bothered by other people using the name. I'm just worried about if she is bothered by it.
Infertility does suck. We always get the rough end of the stick. I'm not directing this at you but I feel like crap. I'm so upset about this. Life is not fair and it kills me every time I see another pregnancy announcement. Ugh, just having a IF low moment where I want to banish myself from all baby news.
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@bluestriped bee: I wouldn't necessarily be thrown off by her comment about the royal baby's name. That could just be because more than likely, whatever name Kate and Wills choose is going to see a huge jump in popularity and she might not want there to be five other kids in her LO's class with the same name.
I'd not worry about it for right now, wait until there is actually a need to have the conversation and by that point, late pregnancy/new mother hormones will have eased off and she will hopefully be more reasonable.
Ultimately though, it comes down to the fact that it's really not that big of a deal. If she gets angry or super upset, that's her problem but no one gets to claim names to the exclusion of other people using them.
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@bluestriped bee: (hugs) I know you're not directing it at me. My DH and I tried for 7 months with 2 miscarriages and that was so hard! So I can only imagine how hard it must be for you! As far as your friend, I hope she is understanding and doesn't get upset. And if she does get upset, that's her problem! And she'll get over it.
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@Ree723: thanks. You're right. Thanks for calming me down.
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@bluestriped bee: I don't think anyone has the rights to a name so I wouldn't be too bothered. She could have a boy, then its not an issue. Also, you could have a boy and, again, not an issue. Deal with it when it comes up!! I'm sure your friend won't mind. Better yet... since its the DH's that like that name, have them figure it out!
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@mrskc: Aww, thank you. I needed that virtual hug.
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@MrsMcD: @mrskc: @Ree723: @tequiero21: @PurplePeony: @MrsCB: @Leialou: @owlmom: @LittleFox: @MrsKoala: Ok, crisis averted... For now at least. She gave birth to a baby boy. Thanks everyone!
Not a good sign if she is worried about a very distant celebrity taking her names. 
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