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It took MUCH LONGER than 7 weeks before DH and I had sex again. I was still so self-conscious of my body but DH was so supportive and didn't seem to pay any attention to flab city (ie. my body). Have you voiced your concerns with your husband?

Welllll you know that we've been struggling with actually getting the mission accomplished in the bedroom. Haha. I'm 10 wks pp and we have tried 3 times. Each time a little better but it's still not normal !

Have you thought about wearing a little slip dress or something during ? Maybe you can treat yourself to something really sweet and pretty and will feel more comfy since you will be a little more covered? I guarantee Dan won't mind ! (Or at least my husband wouldn't !!). I've kept a tank on each time since I am bf I just don't feel comfortable having my boobs out (I don't feel like thinking of them sexually AT ALL. It just weirds me out) and DH has acted like Christmas morning each time we give it a go !!

we started getting down again at 8 weeks PP, but it wasn't until at least 3 or 4 months PP that I allowed my cami to be removed, partly because of BFing nipple pain, but also partly because i was embarrassed about my body! also, lights off for sure!!

Definitely lights off and I second maybe getting a little nighty or something that can just be pulled up. Anything that covers the areas that you are feeling self conscious about will be tremendously helpful in getting you both in the "mood". Also, I'm 13 weeks pp and we are still struggling with accomplishing the mission so to speak. I had a c-section and never expected things to be so uncomfortable pp. So don't be discouraged if it doesn't work the first time. We've found that just trying at all has made us feel closer!

Great advice above. Lights off music up and something that makes you feel better like a cute new cami or slip. Also expressing your fears to him ahead of time so he's aware but then not talking about it during. For me that meant I didn't want him touching my stomach at first. It was better than I expected! It's easier for me to be body positive when DH does a great job of complimenting and reassuring me he's still attracted to me on the regular.

I was so revved up by 6 weeks postpartum, I just didn't care. lol. Plus, I knew I had just had a baby so I cut myself some slack. Probably another 6 weeks later is when I really started shying away from intimacy because I am carrying around about 25 pounds of baby weight still and hate how I look. I'm with the turn the lights off camp, but I'd add a nice cocktail or two. I keep reminding myself that DH loves me and our daughter, and that's what matters most.

We had sex for the first time at 6 wks pp, I was so concerned about the pain from episiotomy healing that I didn't pay attn to my flabby body. And honestly since then? It's been pretty hit or miss because both of us are so tired. We're just now back to feeling normal and in the swing of things and I'm now 18 wks pp! It's better than ever before now though, with no side effects from epi (WHEW!)

We DTD at 4 weeks, on Christmas. I felt disgusting. My weight was almost back to normal, but things just...hung. And my c-section scar just...bulged. Eeew.
I did everything I could to feel pretty that night. Went for a manicure. Had a haircut. Bought some new lingerie that didn't make me feel *quite* so fat. And then? I asked DH to tell me nice things At that point, I wasn't BFing, either, so a glass of wine did wonders.
I also started working out and eating well for a week or so beforehand. Even though it did absolutely nothing at first, it made me feel more confident.
FWIW, your DH is probably pretty happy for ANYTHING these days. Mine was.
Also? ZOMG, use some lube. I know you don't care about that part, but I needed it for the first 2-3 times. I wouldn't feel right unless I said something about that!