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@kiddosc: I'm on west coast time, so I have to wait another couple of hours for the office to open.

@NeonPink1234: Thanks for you kind words. I don't really feel strong or brave - mostly just crazy.

@LibbyLou: fx for you. I hope everything is ok.

@ms.line: I will, thanks.

@LibbyLou: I'm sorry! I feel for you! So many positive thoughts headed your way. I'm glad you'll get answers soon!!

@Crystal: at 6 weeks they'll be able to tell if there's a fetal pole and rule out ectopic and blighted ovum. They could do betas to ensure they are increasing. Small chance of a heartbeat but if you went back at the end of this week I'd bet there's a much greater chance of seeing the heartbeat. Hopefully you'll get answers soon and at least a little relief today!

@ms.line: SERIOUSLY!!!

@NeonPink1234: that's good news, I'm glad they'll be able to see something. I think we will definitely get betas as well.

If all goes well, I should graduate from my RE after my 8 week ultrasound. I have to choose a new care provider, and I'm struggling to pick between two practices. Both are equal in terms of insurance coverage and convenience. I've listed the other pros and cons below:

Option #1: Free-Standing Birth Center (staffed by CNMs)

Pros: Lots of amazing reviews; far less bureaucracy; jacuzzis in every room; much "cuter" vibe

Cons: Maximum stay of 12 hours after delivery (is this a con?); have to take baby to pediatrician at 1 day old; if hospital transfer needed I would end up at a good (but not great) facility; if I develop complications I'll be risked out into another practice

Option #2: Hospital-Based Midwife Practice (also all CNMs)

Pros: Part of one of the top women's hospitals in the country; don't have to bring baby to pediatrician until 1 week; 2-day hospital stay for natural birth; no potential facility transfer; much harder to be risked-out (CNMs can work with OBs/MFM)

Cons: Hospital is known as a "baby factory," rooms are very hospital-esque, operates under hospital's bureaucratic policies (must get hep-lock, minimal eating/drinking during labor, no delayed cord clamping, etc)

Right now my brain wants option #2, but my heart wants option #1. Does anyone have any thoughts or advice?

@ms.line: That's so hard! I fell in love with my OB and they do the standard hospital births so I just never really thought twice. For me, and this is just me, it would come down to infant care if there were issues. All those one in a million scary stories have seemed to have happened in our family - so that's just my experience. I'd rather be uncomfortable if I know that my baby is in good hands.

You'll be more comfortable in Option 1 - through birth, etc. with their flexibility. If you have to take the baby to a ped day 1 its because they don't have peds around to check on the baby that first day. Who checks on the baby right away and are you comfortable with their ability to assess any major issues? And then, if your baby has to go to the nicu, are you comfortable with the one they would be sent to? If both of those are yeses with Option 1 - choose Option 1. The chances of anything bad happening are slim. But you want to make sure you are okay with the slim chance too.

But this is just me! You have to do what your gut tells you!

If you were 'risked out' would you get Option 2? Or do you have to decide now?

@Crystal: thinking of you too!

Just left my doctor. No baby, or sac. I had a feeling but I was still keeping a glimmer of hope. Glad to know definitely.

I will be popping back on once I'm able. I will be checking on all you Feb moms for sure! xo

@LibbyLou: I am so, so sorry friend.

@NeonPink1234: YUP. Longest couple hours ever. 1 hour 15 mins left.

@LibbyLou: I'm so sorry hugs

@ms.line: this is only a choice you can make for yourself. Personally, I'd go with two. I had a perfect delivery until I didn't. Then we were both in distress and within 20 minutes I was being cut open for my c-section.

Just wanted to update you all....I had my d&c today and am feeling OK so far. It was done at a Catholic hospital where they do burials for all the miscarriages, which gives me some closure and makes me feel better about it all. My husband got teary a couple times talking about the burial though. Sweet man. But I'm glad it's all over and we can move on now. I'll be able to start trying again after I get my next cycle.

Good luck to all the ladies and lots of sticky baby dust to you all!

@abbydabbydoodlebug: Thank you for updating us. I'm glad the procedure went smoothly, and I'm really happy to hear they honored your loss in such a meaningful way.

@abbydabbydoodlebug: that sounds beautiful. I would have loved that option. I'm glad you got the closure you needed and that the procedure went well.

@abbydabbydoodlebug: I'm glad everything went as well as it could. I think the burial is a very sweet gesture.

@LibbyLou: I am so so sorry. Thinking of you

@abbydabbydoodlebug: I'm glad you are feeling ok. That sounds really sweet that there is a burial. I am thinking of you. So sorry again for your loss.

@ms.line: I would personally choose the hospital option. The birth center sounds so nice, but in the end I don't think my paranoia would let me choose that option. I know 100% that my DH would be much more comfortable in a hospital setting.

Had my first appt today, but just with the NP. Nothing terribly exciting, lots of paperwork, health history and do's and don'ts. She did talk to the doctor for me though, and they're going to give us a quick sneak peak at baby in two weeks when I have my appt. with the Dr! They don't usually do early ultrasounds unless there's a dating question, so I'm super excited they're going to sneak one in "under the table."

Hello ladies

Always lurking but decided to do an update.

First of all, I'm praying for those ladies whose having trouble. I had a previous mc at 8 weeks and it's heart breaking. I just wanted to move on as fast as possible and start trying again but my friend gave me some advice that I remember still. She told me that you need to be able to grieve for your loss and let your bodies heal before moving on. Take care of yourselves ladies!

My current update. I'm right at around 7 weeks. Still being very cautious and taking it slowly. I have occasional queasiness that comes and goes (I didn't have any pregnancy symptoms with my first so I wasn't expecting any). Had a good beta last week and finally going into ultrasound tomorrow. Excited but still cautious. No other symptom but fatigue (but also its been super hot this week and when it's hot, I get sleepy).

Hopefully after tomorrow, I can be a little more relaxed. My mom told my dad so my parents know but I might start announcing in two weeks at my brothers wedding. (Not at the actual wedding but when we are with family).

Oh. My clothes are too tight. I've started undoing the button on my jeans bc I feel really uncomfortable. I guess I'll have to dig out all my maternity clothes soon.

@misolee: Good luck today!! Let us know how it goes!

@ladybee: It's probably still too early right now, but have you considered buying a fetal doppler? It might give you some peace of mind to listen to your baby's hb between appointments. I'm sympathetic - I still have 6 days before my 8 week ultrasound and it's killing me. Feels like Thursday will never get here!

Is everyone else here planning on finding out the baby's sex before birth? I thought for sure we would find out, and then one of my friends who was team green gave me the most passionate speech about why I should wait to find out, and now I'm actually considering it!