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@snowjewelz: Wow!!! Ugh so our credit cards were stolen (someone transferred $28,000 to pay off other cards!!!!) but as soon as my new one comes I need to order that!!

@IRunForFun: I hope I'm not hyping it up too much lol. But with my first I couldn't even fathom pumping on top of nursing on demand... And once I went back to work it was also hard to add on extra pumping (I wanted to sleep!) so getting a bottle a day without extra work is just amazing to me.

@Peasinapod: ugh it's so hard! Half the time if it's just me, I give in to the iPad but I make her sit next to me so we can talk about what she is doing. Sometimes I put YouTube on tv knowing she looses interest after a while anyway. I sometimes bust out small new toys (emphasis is SMALL) to "surprise" her... But can't do that constantly! Mine isn't great at independent play either but if I'm nursing at least I can somewhat participate...

@snowjewelz: Hope DD1 is on the mend soon!!! Keeping them separate is so hard!! That sleep stretch is amazing though, woo! Hope it lasts.

@IRunForFun: yes we are hosting!! They're the first ones to spend the night in the newly finished basement bedroom!! I didn't attempt any sort of schedule for babes until 4w, and we loosely follow EASY schedule, I wouldn't worry even at 4w, it will come soon!

@babypugs: I used to think I got IL lottery. Then DD1 happened. 2nd grandbaby and 1st one my SIL was very much accepting of MILs help and handed that baby to her every moment. I like to learn by doing, we had the baby, they didn't ask when to visit and flew in our first day home with her....for three weeks. I could write a novel about all the things that happened here, but they ended up leaving early and it's soured the relationship for life. She did the same thing with my other SIL, and to this day the SIL and BIL that live close rely on her and probably use and abuse her help, me and other SIL are more independent and needed her help less are treated totally differently. Bleh!!!

That being said, this visit has been amazing. I'm in bed right now, nursed at 6 and at 7 DH and baby woke and got up, MIL has her now. I walked the dog yesterday with DH at night time, so nice to have that time together. I love my Mom of course, but she can't settle the baby and I don't relax when she has the baby. My MIL is beyond amazing in that regard, so I totally trust when she does offer to push me out the door, which I now accept, lol. They fly home tonight....maybe. East Coast to be slammed with a storm.

@sunnyday: what is it with ILs thinking they can just say we are coming this day and not asking? My ILs drove up for the birth of LO1 and then left the next day(Tuesday) and said we will back on Sat. I was pissed. I wanted it just the three of us for that weekend. It stressed me out to no end having them there. I think they knew it too. They left early on Sunday. This time they came up for the birth and again said were going to come back that weekend. But luckily they were predicting snow so they stayed home. Luckily too they haven't said a word about coming back to visit. DH has a strained relationship with his Dad, so it is just awkward. SMIL is nice but we just have nothing to talk about. They aren't helpful with the kids either, like would never change a diaper.

@sunnyday: Wow sounds like having the inlaws has been nice! Your breakfast looks delish!! Glad you got to sleep in and spend time with DH, too.

@Smurfette: My ILs have done that too! Visited the weekend after she was born and left and MIL was like, "We'll be back next weekend!" And then the following weekend she actually got out her pocket calendar and was pointing out dates she planned to visit. Ummm, thanks for asking?

So, I think we've made the decision to do more pumping and bottle feeding. I just can't do nursing the way I've been doing it anymore. She will only stay on a few mins and then fuss and fight until I give up. Then she wants to eat again in 30 to 60 mins. Plus my nipples won't heal. I need a break. I will keep putting her to the breast and letting her nurse for as long as she will and then top her off with a bottle if she needs it. I've got 5 oz in the fridge so far today.

@IRunForFun: Great job! I think that's a pretty good scenario considering you were going to quit all together anyway! I have friends that exclusively pumped!

@IRunForFun: I think that is the best thing for you. You tried and gave it your all. I would have stopped weeks ago. I'm impressed you stuck it out this long. And that you are still going to try it and pump. She is so lucky to have you as her Mommy.

@sunnyday: ILs are so fun. I'm glad you got a little break though! My MIL is a dream--she stocked our fridge and pantry while we were inn the hospital and we've only just started having to buy food again. I'm constantly reminding myself how lucky I am to have good ILs!

@IRunForFun: You're doing great! Whatever makes your life a little bit easier is the right thing to do.

@snowjewelz: I just sent my husband got had drops! My LO hasn't pooped in about 5 days. She's having lots of wets and is gaining like a champ, so the ped isn't worried, but I am! She seems miserable with gas.

@IRunForFun: I hope the bottle starts working out for you. That sounds like a good plan, and as she gets bigger you might find nursing is much easier and you'll still have your supply from pumping!

I'm so nervous for lo's 4 week appointment... I'm worried she won't have gained enough. I've been nursing on demand so pretty much constantly during the day so even if she's gained well it's not going to be sustainable once my husband goes back to work. There's no pain and she's a very happy baby so I just don't understand what's going wrong with nursing.

@IRunForFun: the appointment is Wednesday, although 4 weeks is technically Friday. Maybe I will join you in pumping if she's not gaining enough.... everyone says being a second time mom is easier but I find I still second guess things!

@littlecasita1122: she is still in our room but we will move her into her nursery within a couple weeks. She is noisy and wakes us up at night. The stupid paci ( having to walk across the house to replace it) is the only thing holding me back right now. I am going to try naps in her crib this week.

@IRunForFun: that's awesome you got some sleep. Good luck with doing bottles today!

@IRunForFun: I know the feeling. I should be pumping once a day to build up a stash but when do I do it?
We started right away. The hospital asked if it was ok when they took her to the nursery and we said yes.

Well I managed to feed her a 2.5 oz bottle and then pump 5 ozs while she hung out and did tummy time on the boppy. Hope the rest of the day goes as well!

What is everyone's LO awake time? I'm getting really frustrated, during the day she eats, sleep, and repeats. Rarely awake more then an hour. After a 30 min cat nap, she now has been up for two hours. But won't go to sleep even though I know she is tired. I just can't figure it out. I also don't know how to avoid the last cat nap since she is so fussy I have to wear her while getting big sister to bed.

Urg! Last night was bad. I only got sleep, 2-2.5 hrs (2 stretches) cause she was in bed with me. But not like I sleep good cause I worry about her being up against something and not breathing. She scoots so she is right next to me. I need a nap.

@littlecasita1122: I can imagine twins being crazy! How about the monitor set on low so you only hear if it's loud crying? We bedshared with DD1 till 2 and DD2 currently is in my bed too since DH is still in toddlers room.

@IRunForFun: I could never get my first to take 1 till at least after 3 months.. So far DD2 isn't taking one either (she is boob obsessed and makes a face when I shove a paci in). I'll keep trying! All the babies in NICU had paci's. I'm glad pumping is working out for you!!

@Smurfette: I guess mine is "older" so a little different. It's hard for her to deep sleep during the day now. So I either wear her, nurse her then hold her. She can be put down but it's a long process and then she still cries a few times before sleeping for a while. And she moves a ton and makes noise too.

Nights are unpredictable! Sometimes 4-5 hrs, one night up from 2-5, then normal 3 ish stretches... It's def still tummy issues that wakes her up. I started the probiotic drops yesterday... I'm just waiting for her 2 mo appt next week to see if she might have reflux.

I tried the crib last night. She actually put herself to sleep! Only then would wake up when the paci fell out, like 30 mins max of sleep. I finally said screw it at 11. Didn't put it back in and settled her, fed her, held her till she was dead asleep, and she was up within 10 mins of me putting her down. So she slept with me all night cause it was midnight at this point. I am going to just keep trying it. She also by herself over the weekend so I know she can.

@Peasinapod: I have sooo many packs of stickers, stamps, markers, paper, etc...that I only bring out during nursing sessions so it's special. Magnatiles and blocks are good too for keeping LO's attention, but my daughter is a little older (3) so that might make a difference.

@Smurfette: I have no clue! She's awake and grouchy for a while in the morning, sleeps a lot in the middle of the day, and is awake and grouchy in the evening. Nights are hit or miss. I try to engage her during awake time but she mostly just wails at me while I try to read to her or give her tummy time, ha!

@Peasinapod: Yeah, I'm with you, my first was such a bad sleeper even 1.5 to 2 hour stretches seem like a dream come true! I have zero complaints.

@Smurfette: That stinks that the night went south, but any time they put themself to sleep that's such awesome progress!!! And it bodes well for the future