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@nwm: This is great, thanks! DD is a little echo as well, but she can't seem to wrap her head around the idea enough to even repeat it!

@sunflowerbee: Good to hear everything went well telling your bosses.

I told mine on Friday officially. I could have sworn he knew, but he was genuinely surprised. He isn't thrilled about the timing. Two of my coworkers will be of two weeks each during my projected leave, and he uses me to fill in for some of their duties while they are gone. Their vacation will be back to back but not overlap, at least.

@nwm: My dad referred me to that article since I just told work. I thought it was a really good article and agree that your boss's and coworkers reactions can shape your feelings on the rest of your pregnancy and your feelings toward your job and workspace.

@Ms. RV: I'm glad you're officially out at work and I'm sorry your boss had a less-than-stellar reaction. Hopefully he'll understand that your maternity leave is different from your co-workers' vacation time and will be able to find other resources to help fill in.

As for me, I had a doctor's appointment last night and got to hear the heartbeat with a doppler machine for the first time. It was so cool being able to listen to it through the doppler and it was a quick in-and-out appointment. So weird to be booking my next appointment in 4 weeks in 2018!

@sunflowerbee: Isn't hearing the heartbeat so awesome??

@sunflowerbee: It's so great to hear that heartbeat!!!

@trixi: Maybe carry notebook or something in front of you all day

got the NIPT results, and everything looked normal--and we found out what we're having!!! i'm almost too shy to say what it is quite yet since i don't think we'll tell family even for a while, but i'm excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!! definitely both things make the whole thing feel a bit more real. i think because i took a long time to get a positive pregnancy test i was really bracing myself for these results, so it feels good to get past them (though i know they only tell you so much).

i also got hit with my first wave of sadness for my little son. he is such a precious guy, and just thinking about this being real and how excited our families will be, i started to feel really concerned to make sure that he still gets tons of attention and love from everyone (all the adults in his life are basically obsessed with him right now--both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.). i'm sure this will be the first of many such pangs in a long adjustment period. i just want to do everything possible to make this a positive and happy experience for him

@nwm: So glad everything looks normal!!!

@trixi: @Ms. RV: @sunflowerbee: thanks ladies!!

@sunflowerbee: congrats on the announcement! so nice to be official

@trixi: that's so cute, i love the thought of big brother reading the baby books! my LO is so affectionate and i think he'll be a great big bro...but he definitely has a jealous streak haha.

@Ms. RV: wow that coat looks like an amazing deal!

since my son was born in february, i sprung for the M coat, which has an insert that can be A shaped for when you're pregnant, or V shaped to zip the baby into your coat when you're baby wearing. i LOVE this coat, and it was perfect for a february baby since by the time winter rolled around there was no squeezing into my other coats, and then i could wear him outside and keep him cozy inside my coat in february and march when it was still cold. and i still use it without the insert as my normal winter coat!

not sure what i would do if i didn't already have it though, this coat seems like a good solution! there might be some good winter coat sales after the holidays, too, if you can make it that long in your regular coat.

Had my 12wk apt today. Everything went well.

Heartbeat 155. I go back Jan 10th.

I gained 3 pounds since last appointment! Which I am surprised and also not, I have been working out more than usual and eating fruit as my snacks...but have indulged in Jimmy Johns a few too many times already this pregnancy!

@trixi: Glad you had a good appointment! Did you get an ultrasound done at this one or not until your anatomy scan?

@csross217: It's so crazy to be out to the world! We had two holiday parties over the weekend so we had a lot of people coming up to us to congratulate us on our big news.

That's interesting that your boss outed you at a staff meeting. Hopefully she did it in a nice way so you weren't put too much on the spot!

@csross217: thanks!!

@trixi: congrats on the awesome appointment! such a nice feeling. 3 pounds sounds like nothing to me!

now that we have our NIPT results (and are doing NT scan tomorrow), i cannot WAIT to surprise my family with the news. with LO1 i think my parents weren't that surprised, but this time i think they genuinely think we were planning to wait longer and it will be a fun surprise. this weekend is my mom's birthday so we're celebrating on sunday. i got a shirt for LO (obviously with the correct due date month) and i just think it will be so perfect to reveal it then.

i tell DH about this plan, his response: i'm not sure about that, i have to think about it he is worried that after that we won't see his family for another week so won't be able to tell them until then. our families don't chat often so it's not like there's a risk of spoiling any surprises for them. i am SO ready to tell people, i look pregnant and i am sick of fake drinking. he seriously takes procrastination to a high art.

@trixi: Good luck telling work next week! That'll be fun to announce to your family on Christmas.

@nwm: That shirt is so cute! That'll be the perfect way to announce it to everyone!

have any of you guys started thinking about names?

@trixi: ha, omg, this sounds exactly like our family dynamic. it was pretty funny because i feel like both my mom and my mother in law are aware of how they react so tried to correct--my mom was very conscious of trying to keep it together and not freak out when we told them, while my mother in law probably worried that their "that's great! do you think this meat is undercooked?" approach was a bit too nonchalant and sent me a nice email after we first told them about LO1 to make sure i knew they were excited. in any case, i sort of share your reaction that it's weird (although i'm pretty used to dh's family by now--we had to really work to get them to come meet LO1 within two weeks of his birth, even though they live less than two hours away), but my experience suggests they're not outliers!

that makes sense--last time we took a long time to decide, but this time i honestly just had one name each in my mind for both genders. at this point i haven't even told DH yet because i want it to stay alive at least in my head, haha, and because he said he was working on some ideas, so i want to hear what he comes up with and share at the same time. i suspect based on prior conversations that we are thinking similarly but we'll see!

we are definitely secret keepers from everyone else though. my SIL solicited so much family input, and got so much, i feel like it made her decision way harder and she to this day threatens to officially change her two year old daughter's name (mostly not seriously but it has been quite a thing). i am not about that!

My nausea has gotten so much better. I puked yesterday morning, but I have maybe only had one or two waves of nausea since. I know morning sickness usually subsides in second tri, but it is going to be a long two weeks until my next appt! Luckily I am still getting dizzy and having vivid dreams.

@Ms. RV: so glad your nausea has gotten better! i think mine faded last pregnancy around 12-13 weeks, i definitely wouldn't worry about it fading on that time table. the vivid dreams stuck around the whole pregnancy though. i kinda hate them. i managed to avoid them last night because DS was up from 1:30 to 3:30am

that's so great you are so happy with your daughter's name. i totally agree with @sunflowerbee: i think boys names are much harder. i am usually a speedy decisionmaker but we waited until after my son was born to even commit!

a bunch of people i work closely with have just come down with a nasty flu and i am seriously wanting to just go home and hide through the weekend to avoid catching it. yuck. i can't handle being sick without access to nyquil.

@trixi: I haven't gotten my flu shot either, oops! Going to make sure I get it at my next appointment, especially since it seems to be going around here....

@nwm: we still have a list of girl names that we like from when we had DD. We had one top boy name too, and now I don't like it! Boy names are much harder!

@trixi: oh no, i'm sorry you're sick! i totally hear you on the medications--i just am such a believer in sleeping off colds with nyquil, i find them so miserable to make it through without medication. hope some honey in hot water or tea can help

i feel you on the nerves too! i definitely get anxiety about stuff like this, although i'm usually pretty good about not thinking about it until i absolutely have to, haha.

i was hoping to put off my announcement at work until the new year (planning to work from out of state all of next week so just a matter of making it through friday), but i got my big promotion this weekend (YAY!!!) and a few of my bosses were like, we want to take you out drinking this week to celebrate!! ugh, i cannot fake my way through an event like that. so i may have to come clean early unless busy pre-holiday calendars save me. i am also a little sad that i can't tie one on to celebrate.

we had a big weekend telling the parents! we put my son in his super cute shirt. at my in-laws, of course he had a complete meltdown when we wanted to take off his pullover to show the shirt. so we basically gave up and just told them while my toddler was screaming his head off haha. oh well. we were slightly more ready for this the second time with my parents, and managed to get him in the shirt and tell my parents he had a surprise. they had to make him stand still while they slowly read the shirt, and it took them a little while, but they got there and were so excited!! haha so overall not exactly seamless but everyone seems very happy : )