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@nwm CONGRATS on the Girl!

I know how you feel about feeling like certain family members may not react the same for boy/girl but the opposite....some disappointment.

My husband's family is very boy heavy with 5 boys/1 girl --we too have a son already, and I remember a "oh how nice great news!" from them versus jumping up and down and crying from my side of the family...when we found out DS was a boy back in 2014....

I expect if we find out we are having another boy...to get a so so reaction from that side of the family which is secretly eating me up and feeling bad for future baby, and for me too.
We find out TOMORROW! And I am trying not to let those fears damper my excitement. I don't really give a crap if it's a boy or a girl, as long as everything is OKAY with baby! I would love for DS to have a little brother to grow up with...but a girl would be absolutely wonderful in our little family.

@trixi: oh man--EXACTLY my experience last time! except with DS, we kind of got it on both sides. i think my mom's exact words were "hmm, a boy? i have no idea what to do with a boy, you'll have to teach us what to do." i was like, uh, sure mom, as a first time mother i'm sure i'll have lots of gender-specific tips. for whatever reason it didn't bother me as much last time though. hope you have an AWESOME scan tomorrow--i for one will be excited for you no matter what you find out, haha! i totally know what you mean--i was thrilled to find out we're having a girl, but at the same time was a little sad for DS not to have a little bro buddy. so many pros to both genders

@sunflowerbee: have a great appointment tonight! odd twinges sound a lot like the movement i was feeling last pregnancy.

Hello ladies!

My anatomy scan went wonderful today. Baby is about 12oz and everything looked perfect. And...it's a GIRL! I cried happy tears while husband was shocked next to me as he was sure our son was getting a little brother! Haha We are both thrilled though and can't wait to share with our families tonight.

@sunflowerbee frustrating, but do not stress much! You will be feeling baby before you know it! Try again in a few days, but have a sugary snack before you lay down for music time!

@trixi: congrats!!! so exciting : ) what a well-balanced little group we have.

@sunflowerbee: hopefully these tricks will allow you to feel something soon--i'm sure you will! also one completely speculative theory is that part of it may be feeling it later because you are a FTM? i am so much bigger this time and i get the sense baby has a lot more room to move around and stretch because all my muscles and skin are just not binding her so tightly this time. i am feeling significantly more movement than i remember feeling last time until like 28-30 weeks. could just be the anterior placenta though, what do i know? the hamilton soundtrack was definitely DS1's most-listened-to music in utero : )

How is everyone feeling now that we're halfway there?

Things are getting uncomfortable for me... I feel huge. Sleep has been terrible (heartburn, hard to roll over, etc.) and I'm getting lots of aches and pains in my hips and pubic bone. I definitely don't remember being this uncomfortable until 30+ weeks last time around

Thanks everyone I am already going to pickup paint swatches today for baby girls room. Pink or purple is in our future!
Anyone have any experience with the removable wallpaper some etsy sellers have? Husband is against traditional, but removable I may be able to get him on board!

I have been sleeping ok so far, but yes I am pretty sure I looked this pregnant when I was 28 weeks pregnant but I am not even 21 yet! YIKES. It's getting harder to have energy to play with my toddler and bend and play on the floor. I am pretty useless when it comes to play time lately.

@csross217: They're seriously live changing! I was able to fit DH, me, and the Snoogle in our queen sized bed so you should be fine. Sometimes I catch him snuggling with it when I leave before him in the morning!

@NWM Will you be staying in a home somewhere by yourselves or bunking up with family? If you are bunking with family, you are a saint! I get antsy staying at my mom & dads for more than 2 nights! I need my own space, Ha!
I bet you will really enjoy the non-city life for the month, just think about all that fun cousin bonding those kids will get and maybe some nice walks for you and baby or hubby or summer evenings on the back patio?! With WINE.
only 17ish weeks til Wine

I am feeling pretty good lately to be honest. Only complaint is I do get sore much easier. I wiped down a table the other night and rubbed with Old English and then was sore and achy rest of night. Had to get in the tub to sooth my muscles!
Not sure how this will effect my plans of touching up all the trim in our home AND stenciling a whole wall in the baby's room before she arrives....I might need to choose one or the other!
Anyone else doing any home projects while pregnant? Anyone else counting down to that glass of wine already?

@nwm: PA is a great place to spend a month of your maternity leave, but I'm definitely biased, haha. I'm not sure what part of PA you'll be in but if you're in the Greater Philadelphia area, we could have our own mom group/playdate, haha.

I had an ultrasound last night. I was 25+3 but baby is measuring ahead and is at 27 weeks! Baby weighed in at 2 lbs and 3 oz which is 77%. The tech also checked on my partial placenta previa. My placenta has moved in the correct direction away from my cervix and has 1.75 cm of clearance, but I'll need 2 cm before they'll clear me for a vaginal birth. So here's to hoping that it continues to move up and out of the way!

I can't wait to get started on baby's room. I bought a few prints at Homegoods and moved DS crib into the room. One of the prints is a Unicorn with flowers around her head. My husband made fun of it as being too 90's ..it probably is, I would've LOVED a unicorn photo in my room as a little girl LOL

We have picked out two options for paint (both lavender!) so I will hopefully get some samples next week. Still considering if I want to stencil a wall or not. My dad said he will come stay with us and paint the room this Spring. I don't think I can count on him to stencil, that would be all me!

I will post photos when we get started.

@NWM same. I just went to lunch with DH and we were discussing a trip we took last Spring and the fun we had out at a bar one night. I also felt sad afterwards, I am missing an evening out with that sweet relaxation beverage in my hand! I keep telling myself.. I will be able to enjoy a cold beer on the 4th of July! A baby in hand, but a beer in the other.... LOL oh my.

@trixi: awesome congrats!! had a good appointment too on Monday. heard a good strong HB on the doppler and good belly size. i agree, i think things are going to suddenly accelerate. i do feel like i'm so big now that it's a major focus for people...but still feels like there's so long to go!

that is great that you can use spray tan if you want! i went to a black tie event a few weeks ago and i was really feeling like i did not want to get all dolled up with a huge belly, but ended up finding a dress that i really liked and feeling a lot more perky/attractive than i thought i would. did you know that you can filter rent the runway for the trimester you are in? it is awesome.

@csross217: good question! curious what your full birth plan was. i think mine will basically be the same, except i'm basically 100% team epidural this time, and also way more willing to go with formula if needed given my early difficulties with breastfeeding last time.

i have totally not thought too hard about delivery day, but i should! my parents live in the same city, so i guess i figured if during the day the nanny will just handle handoff to grandparents, and if middle of the night my mom will come right down to our place. if needed, i think i would be OK going to the hospital myself while my DH waited for my mom, but shouldn't be necessary as they are really just a 10 minute cab ride/30 minute walk away. i guess i am lucky in that i do NOT want my mom in the delivery room haha. my mom doesn't like that i feel this way, but i want as few people around as possible. last time i told them not to come until invited but they took the announcement of the birth as an invitation and showed up immediately anyway. i'm hoping this time having responsibility for LO1 will keep that impulse under control.

when did you go first pregnancy? i was 40+4, so while last time i was like making plans to be out at the drop of a hat at 37-38 weeks, this time i'm basically assuming i'll go full term.

i have not done that much to prepare for this poor LO! honestly i think may will be our big prep month.

@csross217 @NWM I am also having anxiety over the birth plan for us too. Mostly with LO. For myself, I imagine it will (hopefully!) be quick again and no time even for meds and just get it over with!!

Last time I was scheduled to be induced at 40+6 but went into labor on my own at 40+5. Had a very short labor...we were only at the hospital 1.5 hours and LO was born! So, I am pretty nervous about getting someone to watch LO and STILL making it to the hospital on time.

We live around some family, but my in-laws are pretty flaky sometimes. They sort of 'la di da' around. We will probably call a few friends that live in the area as June gets closer and ask them if they can be plan B, C, and D! I am really crossing my fingers it happens in the middle of the day so LO will be at the sitter and no one will need to know we're at the hospital until she is here!

I hate to turn it into an in-law complain thread, but thinking about LOs birth ALSO gives me anxiety for reason:
We clearly didn't get the message to my in-laws last time that we only wanted US at the hospital. Husband is partially at fault because in the chaos he called them to tell them we were in labor and on our way in (for what reason i still don't know?)
They showed up (during that 1..5 hours I was in labor) and asked the nurses to ask if they could come in the delivery room. I said NO in between contractions...LO was coming quick, no time for meds, and of course I was moaning and even screaming at the end. Come to find out my FIL RECORDED the audio with his phone while sitting in the waiting room. Now every time we talk about LOs birth he brings it up ---because he thinks it's "just a miracle"-- and I quietly seethe. I also have anxiety about going into labor, dropping LO off at my in laws nearby and them subsequently leaving LO with my sister in law (who is 18 and living at home) and heading to the hospital right behind us AGAIN!
Rediculous to let myself get anxiety and irritated over it I know, but my MIL especially doesn't always GET what you are trying to tell her nicely.

Of course I have this anxiety over what I ~think~ will happen, and I will end up being in labor for 48 hours or something

@csross217 Oh man. I didn't even THINK of our dog. I guess we will have to load him up in the middle of everything too. Lol, our poor doggy has moved to #2 baby and it shows sometimes!

I guess I need to be thankful I have in-laws that do want to be around and spend time with us, just sometimes it's a little bit of a 'Everybody Loves Raymond' situation.

@trixi: oh my goodness, i would really be unhappy if my FIL had a RECORDING of the birth from outside the room i specifically said he wasn't welcome in!!!! holy cow. i can understand why that would make you upset, for sure...

definitely think @csross217: has a good proposed solution for talking about them being the ones to keep LO1, having them be the ones to share the news that the baby is there, etc. or, would you consider making your friends in the area plan A ? might not be worth it to you if it offends the ILs, but based on your lack of trust in them it seems to me like a very legitimate thing to consider!!! also, is your DH on board with keeping them at a safer distance this time/does he know how you feel?

i really like my ILs and feel somewhat relieved that they're so averse to driving into the city where we live that they basically didn't meet LO1 until my DH outright asked them to come, for like 3 hours, when he was 3 weeks old. my FIL is so averse to embarrassment i think he'd sooner never hear the birth story EVER, and i feel the same way, haha!

@csross217: @sunflowerbee: those sound like great plans i was induced last time after my water broke, so while i feel slightly more at ease this time knowing what to expect in some ways, i am definitely nervous how it's all going to go down this time ! i have no idea how quickly natural labor would go for me if my water doesn't break first, etc. also last pregnancy i found out LO was breech at about 36 weeks and freaked out, since even though i thought i had been very open minded and chill about everything, i clearly was picturing a vaginal birth for myself. luckily, he flipped back around and i was able to do it, but now i think i've fallen into the trap again of thinking, well it went this way last time, why would it be a C-section this time? i do think i need to take @sunflowerbee's doctor's advice to get ready for things not to go quite according to plan

Hi ladies... I just wanted to pop in and say hi! I have been reading, but with all the stuff going on with this baby's heart I haven't felt much like replying. It is quite overwhelming. Oh and I decided I am crazy and I am building a new house, due to be complete in July. So I will be having my current house on the market in May. You know... because having a two year old, a fulltime job, and a ICU baby weren't enough stress

@Ms. RV: so glad you did! we are happy to have you as much or as little as you like i have been wondering how you are doing, i am really sorry to hear that things have been overwhelming. i hope you feel good about your doctor team and all the plans they are putting in place!

and wow, haha, you have definitely got a lot on your plate right now! if your two year old is anything like mine, they are getting to be a bigger handful by the day (though i am loving the emerging personality & attitude.) a new house sounds exciting, though! so cool!

@nwm: Hey there! Sounds like you're getting organized and having a shopping list will definitely help you to feel more prepared.

I'm doing pretty well. My DH and I had a nesting weekend last weekend where we did our first load of baby wash of clothes, towels, swaddles, etc. and organized and put everything away in our new nursery furniture which was just delivered. I still feel like there's a lot to do to prepare, but glad to have some things physically put in their spots.

As for baby, I'm feeling tons of kicks all day long and through the evening too. Baby loves to give strong kicks while I'm in a meeting and trying to have a conversation with someone, haha. In other good news, my low lying placenta has shifted and moved up out of the way as of my last ultrasound so I'm cleared for a vaginal birth!

How is everyone else doing? I can't believe we're all about 2-2.5 months away from meeting our babies!

@sunflowerbee: @trixi: sounds like you guys are in amazing shape, you have done so much i'm excited to pull out and wash the newborn clothes, but need to get the dresser and closet reorganized a bit first in the shared bedroom. one of my good friends is putting a big box of her daughters' hand-me-downs in the mail (we have a LOT of hand-me-downs from DS and his four boy cousins but basically no girl stuff) tomorrow, so that will be super fun to open--she has amazing taste.

i agree--can't believe we're already at the point where we have to go every 2 weeks! sorry to hear about your cold/cough @trixi ! i passed my glucose test last week but it caused my doctor to realize i was anemic, so i have been on iron supplements since and they are making me feel SO much better. didn't really realize how crappy i was feeling until i started to feel so much better!

we have a name picked out! we are not sharing with anyone, but my sister in law guessed it! i didn't tell her she was right, but i guess we are very predictable haha anyone want to share their selections or contenders?