We have a 3 year old DD and an 8 month old DS, and ever since having the baby have been sort of struggling to make sure both my DH and I get enough "me" time.

When we just had the toddler it didn't seem like a big deal to skip dinner / bedtime to hang out with friends or go to the gym. But now that there's two, doing dinner/bedtime alone is much harder and when we do make plans we both end up feeling guilty that the other one is home alone with them.

How do you make sure you both get enough time for yourself without feeling guilty? I'm wondering if we should just start having a set "night off" for each of us every week so it's always fair and then we don't have to feel guilty about it.