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That’s great sleep for a 3 month old I feel! My first did 5 hour stretches at that age usually and that was with darkness and constant white noise so those would be my suggestions. My second did a 3 hour stretch tops and then would wake every 1-1.5 hours until I got up for the day until he was 6 months old. It was so crappy. A 4 hour stretch is definitely very normal, especially f he’s a breastfed baby because they get hungrier quicker. I would laugh in my doctor’s face if they told me my kid should be sleeping 5 hours at 3 months. Most sleep consultants say you can start sleep training at 16 weeks and then they can do longer stretches provided they are growing well.

If you only want to buy one new sleep sack I’d suggest a 2.5 and then dress him in lighter clothing like a long-sleeved onesie until the weather gets colder.

@Umbreon: I think no nightlight is a good idea- babies aren't afraid of the dark usually until theyre 2 or 3! And you have white noise and a swaddle?
A 3 month old sleeping 4 or 5 hours is very typical. There's so much pressure for babies to sleep through the night and it's just bullshit, especially if you're breastfeeding. When my 1st son was 14 weeks he finally started to sleep longer but it would come and go. He was a great sleeper in general, it just took a while.
What I might suggest is slowly getting the baby to fall asleep on his own. This was my problem with my second. Of course it's only natural to nurse to sleep but if you can let him try to self-soothe it will be SOOOOO much better in the long run. How does he fall asleep usually?

In terms of being tired, I totally understand!!! Could your partner take over one feeding? This got me like an 8 hour stretch-- my husband would feed him at 11pm then I could sleep 8-4 or so! It was LIFE CHANGING. And also it might help him wean away from you at night (not like you need to wean but sometimes they wake up for comfort of mom and it gets out of control)

ETA: any doctor who makes you feel bad about an under-4 month old not sleeping very long stretches does not understand the physiology and sleep patterns of babies. By 6 months though if things are not MUCH Better, for everyone's sanity, you can start sleep training and life will be so much better.

A bottle of breast milk right before bed (just a few ounces) helped mine sleep wonderfully. Also didn’t create a nurse to sleep habit/let dad do bed time/mom got a break/lots of benefits. Good luck!

@Mrs. Champagne: yes, when we tanked up with a bottle before bed (even though I EBF) it helped so much!!

That all sound very developmentally and biologically normal! Babies are designed to wake frequently (it’s a protective measure against SIDS and helps maintain your milk supply) and sleep isn’t linear so their sleep will come and go as they grow.

My best advice as a mother of three babies who didn’t STTN until over twelve months would be to stop worrying and overthinking it and just go with it!

2 more things:
Taking Cara Babies on Instagram! She's so so helpful but you have to make it work for you and your family aka not everything she suggests works .
The Dohm white noise machine!! Worth every penny but I got mine off our local mom Facebook group

Definitely the white noise, but otherwise I don’t think there’s any science to baby sleep. At 3 months my older son was only sleeping 90 minute stretches.

A 4 hour stretch at that age is good. Definitely blackout curtains, still in use for my 6 year old.

My best advice, which can be hard, is to not stress over it or compare. My first was not a good sleeper and was around 18 months when he sttn. My second is 10 months and not a good sleeper but I’ve been able to relax a bit more and not stress out about it which makes it better.