I'm getting ready to put together a life book for O. Everyone talks about including their story in an age appropriate way, but there isn't ever any instruction on what is age appropriate or how you know!

She has pretty significant medical trauma, in addition to neglect. She's 3.5 now, and has memories from as far back as about 6 months, when she was life flighted to a children's hospital and put on a feeding tube. She knows her story, as far as knowing she was sick, her mom couldn't take care of her, and then we took care of her and became her moms. There are LOTS of photos of her with an NG tube. My protective mama instinct (and the way I was raised to not talk about the hard stuff) wants to leave them out, but I'm learning that not talking about her trauma isn't doing any good, and she actually gets less anxious when we talk about her story even though it's not all rainbows and unicorns. Would it be age appropriate to include these photos or should I wait until she's older?