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Yeah.....sigh. I don't have much advice except to say being back to your pp weight and body days after giving birth is NOT the norm; not even close!!!! And that bishes like that should just keep their bikini-buying traps shut about it!

I'll echo what has been said and that losing weight like that is definitely not the norm. Like you I was really worried about losing my baby weight. I gained about a third of my pre pregnancy weight. 3 months after my son being born the scale says I'm at my pregnancy weight but it must be redistributed because I still don't fit in my normal pants. My advice eat healthy (especially if you breast feeding) after recovery do small activities (I would take baby on walks in the stroller) and most importantly trust your body. Your body has spent 9 months taking care of you and baby it knows what it needs to recover.

Enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and I wish you a joyful arrival of your baby.

You never know how your body is going to react. I gained around 43 lbs with my pregnant and was really worried about losing the weight. But with BF, it just melted away. I even made a comment to DH about how shocked I was that my tummy was so much smaller then I thought it would be. He even agreed cause I had talked during pregnancy about how it take can awhile. I didn't weigh myself at home earlier but at my 6 weeks PP checkup, I was 8 lbs over my beginning weight. Probably would be lower if R liked the car seat better and we could have gone on more walks but thankfully she is doing better now so we can. Well that and I have developed a sweet tooth PP. Love my some chocolate cookies now.

Was your friend's wife overweight in the first place? (I ask because I think people who had a bit less to gain in the first place, tend to get down to their pre-preg weight faster than if you had more to gain.) Anyway yeah you're not alone. I know it's going to take me several months to lose this weight. People ay it will just melt off but in my case it's 50+ lbs. I don't see it melting off. Maybe 20 or so will if I'm lucky. The rest is going to be a challenge. Like others have said, with my sickness I only eat carbs. I was sick from week 6 to week 18, and it started up again about week 32. So yeah. Weight gain happened and unfortunately I did what I had to do to survive, ya know? Ultimately everyone's different but it'll be OK! And for the interim... there's spanx!

@grizz: Comparison is the thief of joy.

Everybody feels like this before giving birth. You're talking to someone who is 5'7" and weighed 130 pre-pg, and who worked very hard to maintain it! I also gained 60 pounds during pregnancy, despite eating really pretty healthy. The weight didn't come right off for me, but it is coming off. And while I am not at my pre-pg weight (yet! I am just now 8 mos pp), I have my shape back . . . and, just like @RainbowSprinkles mentioned, everyone says I look great.

Don't let this steal your joy. Don't. Don't focus on it. Focus on being *present* during your pregnancy, enjoying every kick and roll, and savoring every precious second that you get to keep your LO all to yourself. Very soon, you will be expected to share.

Oh, and by the way, those women are totally Fembots!

@grizz: I also wanted to add that your friend posting about her pp weight just 4 days after delivery makes me sad . . . Sad that a woman would feel so compelled to meet some perceived expectation regarding her appearance that she would blog about it, instead of blogging about, say, her baby's tushie.

@grizz: I call bull$hit on the friend's wife who was back to prepartum size FOUR days after delivery. Your tummy does not shrink down that fast! Though I was pre-pregnancy weight faster than most it took a few more months past that for my hips and chest width to shrink back down.

I just don't think it's physically possible for your body to shrink back in four days!

Still have 8 pounds to go at 9 months PP. It is what it is, what's important is your baby and your health... at least that's what I keep telling myself. I know that when I compare myself to other new moms who have lost weight quickly, I just feel BAD about myself. And life is too short for that. My daughter doesn't care what I weigh or how I look in my clothes, she cares that I love her and am present with her. I want to try and set a good example, model good behavior for her sake- us ladies have it hard enough already with unrealistic expectations about our bodies. Let's just be kind to ourselves and not judge.

That's how I feel in theory. Realistically, I'm upset that I still weigh "so much", and that this belly is still so big. But I'm trying to find the beauty in it.

I was way too busy w DD to even think about PP weight. It is hard work taking care of a newborn, a lot of weight will come off with no effort, esp if you breastfeed. Honestly, it never even came up in conversation with DH, we were both so tired.

The year I had DD we knew 20 other FTMs, and the only one who had weight concerns was one who ended up having DC2 15mo later. Relax. Like @regberadaisy: I call BS on this friend also.

I just kept telling myself the "9 months on, 9 months off rule" It is a bit of pressure because you dont know if you will keep gaining weight or if you will lose the weight really easily. I dont think anyone expects you to lose it all right away though.

I gained back my pregnancy with breastfeeding, a busy schedule, and not eating well enough. I ate tons of burgers, etc. to keep my milk up. Only now at 8 months pp, I'm going back to salads and working on my flabby stomach. Since we're weaning, I'm also enjoying more caffeine and tea which seems to help me with the weight too.

Ugh. At 37 weeks I am up 43 lbs and feeling really self-conscious. I am very anxious about PP weight, esp. it being summer and having weddings and beach trips planned.

@maybebaby: What?! You do NOT look like you've gained 43lbs!! I hope I hold my weight as well as you do!

I would say you need to come to terms with this before you give birth, because it won't get better afterwards when you have the new sagginess to deal with. I'd just only come to a "meh" attitude with my pregnant body by the time I delivered and afterwards had a private meltdown when I saw my body in the mirror. I'd gained over 50 lbs and knew it definitely wasn't all baby, but seeing it was still a shock.

So...yeah. I coped by being as proactive as I could, even if it was a little obsessive. Laid out workout plans for postpartum, bought a belly binder, etc. BTW, I don't know if this is the belly binder or genetics, but 1 1/2 weeks out from birth my belly's actually pretty flat! Even if it wasn't, I'd still use it for the "held together" feeling.