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Hm. I'm an extrovert and my husband is an introvert, so we have different needs.
He gets after bedtime (so about 1-2 hours depending on the day) and then he also has one night a week when he goes out after work to decompress alone. He either goes golfing or to his fav bar.
I get the post bedtime time, and about three hours a week at the gym.
Then, beyond that for me, it's sporadic. When we just had one "older" child I probably got an extra 4-6 hours every two weeks.
Now with an EBF six month old and a not good pumping out out its more like an extra 2-3 hours a month. And that's little things like running to the coffee shop alone or 20 min trips to the store.
I think though, you do deserve to have your needs considered and work towards a compromise.
It gets better as baby gets older: I'd say with our first we turned a corner when my son was about 18 months old. He just needed ME less, so I felt it was easier to ask/tell my husband I needed a break.

After bedtime I get 1-3 hours. Then during marathon training season I get 1-3 hours on Sunday afternoon for running.
Husband gets 1-3 hours child free in the morning before work (which he says doesn't count (?!), then she wanders between us while I make dinner, and I do bedtime (so he gets 3-4 free hours at night) Then he donates plasma twice a week (6 hours total, child free playing on his iPad!! But apparently the doesn't count either?!)

@Applesandbananas: THIS.
Best thing I ever did was quit trying to do all my "chores" during nap.

@OhCaptain: @Applesandbananas: Oh yeah naps too. I forgot to mention that in my reply.
I stopped trying to be the perfect SAHM. I choose one chore to accomplish per nap (fold clothes, iron, empty dishwasher) and then use the rest of the time to chill. It made a HUGE difference in my life. Like the difference between being depressed and hating my life to thinking I have the best life ever!

Agreed on using naptime. I WOHM but on maternity leave and days off I find I have to kind of split the nap time between being productive and some relaxing time or else I get cranky once she's awake! This was harder when her naps were more unpredictable but now I can reliable do some chores for half an hour and then have an hour or so to relax.

As far as "alone time" - we basically get 3 hours after bedtime minus her nightly wake-ups. And then on the weekends naptimes. When she's awake on the weekends we just sort of trade back and forth, with the other doing chores or other tasks so it's not like one of us is just sitting around and relaxing.

We don't have a babysitter and my parents already watch her twice a week so we feel guilty asking them! I'm sure either of us would be happy to have the other go out solo but we're both homebodies and we don't really have friends close by so that doesn't happen.

How much alone time is your husband expecting? And is he counting time at home or like being out and without the baby only?

My biggest thing is showering at night. I wait until lo is in bed and then I take my time with all my routines and can totally relax in the shower. I know if lo happens to get up, dh will go to her. Then I generally read or do something on.my own for a bit before bed. It's essential for me. If I don't get that time - I really miss it!

Barely any right now, but our littlest is 4.5 months. The little alone time I get generally is for my three classes (eta which are online.) Sometimes I do that from between 7-8 when the kids are in bed, til 12, my son's first wakeup, and then lately my son wakes up every hour after his first wakeup. With our first around 8m it was a little better, and I was a SAHM with no school and DH worked ft but not M-F hours, but DH rarely ever took LO by himself (and still doesn't.) He would occasionally get up with her in the morning. These days we occasionally split kids, and I take one and he takes one. If I really want to do something I'll just ask, and we take it week by week without really adhering to a schedule. You have to do what works for you, but with babies it's hard, so just know it gets easier as baby gets older. What you agree to now doesn't have to be forever.

Every night we have a couple hours post bedtime at this point . LO goes to sleep at 8, we go to bed around 10 or 11. We choose to spend that time together but we could easily do our own things if we chose to. On weekends we also have nap time (1.5ish hours generally).

We don't regularly take any time beyond that, mostly because with both of us working it feels like we don't see LO enough and we like to do family stuff on weekends when she is awake. Although sometimes one or the other of us will do something for 1-2 hours on the weekend while the other watches the kiddo. (She's 21 mo).

When DS was around 4 months, we would get a stretch from 730pm to 1030pm when we'd give him his dreamfeed. DH took those two feedings while I pumped for 30 minutes each session. After pumping I would wash bottles and pump parts and take a hot shower and basically veg until my next pumping. Most of the time I just lounged but sometimes I would wander Target myself. DH also handled bathtime and playtime before bed, around 630pm, during which I cleaned up from dinner. I didn't feel bad about DH's evening tasks with DS because it was most of their daily time together and because I had any night wakings. Either way we'd end up with 830pm-1030pm to ourselves.

Once DS was sleeping through, it was largely the same for me but it freed up more time for DH in the evenings since he didn't have a dreamfeed to do (DS had reflux so his feedings took at least 30 minutes). DH usually stays up until 11pm before getting ready for bed so that was 3 hours for him to do what he liked.

A big difference for us is that we sleeptrained and our son sleeps in his own room, so I got 2 long naps during the day from 6 months on, during which I often also just napped and lounged (since keeping the house quiet meant better naps for DS) and we had the rest of the house to ourselves in the evening. I was usually in our bedroom or out running errands while DH stayed at home in his office. Our couple time is usually when we talk together in bed before going to sleep since we don't roomshare or cosleep and don't have to worry about waking the baby. We also had a weekly date night on Tuesdays until very recently.

On weekends we endeavor to spend time together as a family, but also to do 1:1 things with DS so the other person can catch a break. Now that DS is 17 months and on 1 nap, we can take him somewhere and give the other spouse at least a 2 hour break before needing to think about meals or nap.

We're both introverts so alone time is important to us, too. We utilize the time after LO is in bed. After we're done cleaning up the kitchen and living room that usually leaves us 45 mins-1 hr together, and then DH goes to bed to read and I usually stay up another hour. I always feel like there's never enough time in the day to do it all, but having at least half an hour at the end of the night to do what I want is super helpful. We also make sure that the other person gets out of the house alone once a week or so, usually something super exciting like grocery shopping...